[Korunz]

What do I do at 54 years old and I find myself attracted to women? Married, somewhat happily for 30 years. I am beside myself .

[Lefty Seven]

Concentrate on STDs.

[LacunaCoiler]

What is wrong with being attracted to women? May I asked what your gender is? Is this what is causing an issue? I don't understand, are you happily married or is the other woman?

[Korunz]

I am a wonan married to a man.... and have acted on my attraction to women !!!

[LacunaCoiler]

And how did that make you feel? Was this acting on it when you were married or before you were married? If you were married, does your husband know?

I am a woman who is currently married to another woman but I consider myself bisexual because I have dated and am attracted to both sexes. So I can understand where you are coming from.

[Korunz]

It was long term whilst married ( i still am), but living as friendly housemates. He has no clue and neither does anyone else. The other woman was far away so we only met up infrequently. It was amazing. Now over.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by Korunz

It was long term whilst married ( i still am), but living as friendly housemates. He has no clue and neither does anyone else. The other woman was far away so we only met up infrequently. It was amazing. Now over.

being sexually attracted to and having sex with both male and females its called being bisexual.

theres nothing wrong with being attracted and wanting sex in this way, though you may have to make some decisions based on whether you would like to continue having relations with both male and female. one of which would be discussing it with your husband after you have made your decision of how you would like to get your needs met.

[Skeezyks]

May I suggest what is probably the obvious here... that perhaps this is something it would be worthwhile talking through, at-length & in-depth, with a skilled mental health therapist? There's certainly nothing wrong with being attracted to members of the same sex. The problems here involve the impact this might have on your marriage were your husband to become aware of it & what the distress you're experiencing may be doing to you emotionally.

Left unaddressed, something like this has a way of eating at your insides. And it may be unlikely it's going to simply disappear on its own. Bringing it out into the open, within the therapeutic process, may help you to figure out what this means for you & what, if anything you want to do about it.

I myself have had a life-long struggle with gender identity dysphoria. And my GID has eaten at me the way what you're experiencing is eating at you. For a variety of reasons, I don't see a therapist. I did for a short time a few years ago. And while I did, it was a major (if brief) relief. Were my circumstances different, I would love to do it again.