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Default Feb 10, 2019 at 08:12 AM
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This gets me into trouble. I've been single too long and miss the interaction with a man. It's been a year. Sometimes I can last longer but when I wait too long I jump into the next relationship and usually it's not a good fit. I really wanted to be in a better place before starting dating again, but I can't be putting it off much longer or I'll start really doing things I shouldn't. How do you meet people? It's like online is the only way. And I don't have the money to join.

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Default Feb 10, 2019 at 08:16 AM
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I don't have any ideas of how to meet people other than online.

To avoid jumping into a relationship, can you find ways to sexually satisfy yourself? That's what I do. I get more out of it than I do from being with someone else.
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I think therapy is in order.

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Default Feb 11, 2019 at 10:12 PM
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This gets me into trouble. I've been single too long and miss the interaction with a man. It's been a year. Sometimes I can last longer but when I wait too long I jump into the next relationship and usually it's not a good fit. I really wanted to be in a better place before starting dating again, but I can't be putting it off much longer or I'll start really doing things I shouldn't. How do you meet people? It's like online is the only way. And I don't have the money to join.
Hi aviza
Missing things like that can really drive us into wrong directions when we take the easiest way one after the other. It might seem like things are eating you from the inside out but slow and steady usually gets there in the most unexpected ways.
You just have to find the ying to your yang
Until then concentrate on you .we all don't need someone to validate our existence.
Someone will come along and change your life

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Default Feb 16, 2019 at 01:51 AM
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I do a lot of role-playing/foreplay/romantic/erotic nights just by myself. I enjoy it better than intimacy with others. There's a saying to love yourself before you can love other people...whatever works.
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This gets me into trouble. I've been single too long and miss the interaction with a man. It's been a year. Sometimes I can last longer but when I wait too long I jump into the next relationship and usually it's not a good fit. I really wanted to be in a better place before starting dating again, but I can't be putting it off much longer or I'll start really doing things I shouldn't. How do you meet people? It's like online is the only way. And I don't have the money to join.
In my personal experience, getting involved with the wrong person is never worth any kind of "quick fix" form of relief - physically or emotionally. And 9 times out of 10, when we get involved with someone too quickly, it ends up being the wrong person.

The Internet has changed quite a bit over the past decade, and there are less opportunities to just socialize and get to know someone before jumping into anything intimate. Most of the chat rooms are gone, as well as topic focused discussion groups, where there was an opportunity to slowly develop friendships over time. The dating sites are okay, but many of the people on those sites want to move things too fast. Social networks, such as Facebook, are okay, but you need to watch out for the players and predators on those types of sites.

Yet, not all is lost. There are still some good places online that don't charge a fee, such as pen-pal sites and discussion forums, where you actually get to know people and develop friendships - the healthiest foundation for any kind of future relationship.
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Default Feb 22, 2019 at 06:42 AM
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Part of me misses it, other parts find it difficult

I think what i miss most though is not sex but intimacy so I'm more exploring platonic cuddling at the moment if I can find some that wants to
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