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Question Apr 15, 2019 at 03:47 PM
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Hello everyone,

I'd be very interested to open a discussion about the differences between male and female sexuality. I was initially thinking of straight women compared with straight men because that's more familiar to me and raises many questions. However, I am not limiting the discussion to those groups. If gay men, lesbians, or trans folks would like to weigh in, please jump in with your perspectives. All are welcome.

The reason I am interested is because I think men and women fundamentally do not understand each other's sexuality. This seems to lead to a lot of discord and relationship troubles. While I believe that sexuality runs along a continuum of desires and interests, I do perceive some fundamental differences between men and women. I am wondering if others agree? In particular, I find that straight women often misunderstand their male partners' sexuality. I'm not sure if it happens so often the other way around?

This thread is for candid and free discussion of differences. All respectful responses are welcome. I'm not thinking in terms of "right" and "wrong" but different. And I am referring only to sexuality among consenting adults; not criminal acts.
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Default Apr 15, 2019 at 06:24 PM
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This meme comes to mind.

How do men's and women's sexuality differ?
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Default Apr 15, 2019 at 06:28 PM
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Now are we talking what it takes to arouse and man vs woman. Or the sexual preference of each gender.
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Default Apr 15, 2019 at 06:37 PM
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Anything related to sex and sexuality....ideas, preferences. And related stereotypes or truths?
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Default Apr 15, 2019 at 06:45 PM
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Okay, I personally feel as a man direct erotic gestures and visual stimuli are what it takes to reach arousal; well at least for me. Now from my experience i think it takes a more delicate touch and more romance to get a woman to reach arousal. But that’s also from my experience.

When it comes to sexual preference I think it is more acceptable for a woman to bisexual than a man. Which could be because of the macho stereotype men are faced with.
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For example, I've met a lot of women who think men are more likely to be unfaithful than women. However, I think the numbers for male and female infidelity are approximately the same.
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Default Apr 15, 2019 at 06:47 PM
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I've also heard "men are visual creatures whereas women focus on the emotional aspect of sex."

(I know at least a few women who disagree with the latter part because they enjoy sex without attachment)
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Are same-sex couples more successful in the sexual aspect of their relationships because they understand each other's sexuality better than hetero couples?
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Default Apr 16, 2019 at 06:12 AM
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Are same-sex couples more successful in the sexual aspect of their relationships because they understand each other's sexuality better than hetero couples?


I believe so.
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Okay, I personally feel as a man direct erotic gestures and visual stimuli are what it takes to reach arousal; well at least for me. Now from my experience i think it takes a more delicate touch and more romance to get a woman to reach arousal. But that’s also from my experience.
Some of us men need that too
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Default Apr 17, 2019 at 06:07 PM
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Anybody else feel like that women are more attracted to men who can provide and are handy???
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I support myself financially and would never want to be dependent on a man. Being able to fix things is attractive but not something I'd actively seek. Character is what matters for me. Good character and some humor and individuality. That's what I find appealing.
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Default Apr 18, 2019 at 09:48 AM
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I think men are more easily turned on since, as has been said, they are affected more by visual stimuli. And it's said they think more about sex than women, possibly as a result.

And they see sex more as a conquest, perhaps. Bragging about it as teenagers...

In general, women see sex as more part of a relationship thing--and are in general more affected emotionally by a sexual experience. They are seen as "giving" to a man rather than taking.

And women can get pregnant as a result, which makes a difference.
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Default Apr 20, 2019 at 08:49 PM
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If you want the difference. See what's inside both sexes heads.

Example.
Topic a fantasy then see what is written by both.
Whatever is left over is the difference

No PhD needed

Oh there's a difference between sex and love.

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Default Apr 20, 2019 at 08:55 PM
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Sex in my eyes has been fueled by my illness. Manic and crazy = lots and lots of sex with many, many, MANY men. So it's not that I needed anything, just wanted someone to stick to. I think women are a lot more clingy when it comes to sex because we feel an extra closeness sometimes early on, and sometimes a guy doesn't. Just my personal opinion.

I think women can be visual too. I watch porn and get off with visual stimuli.

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Default Apr 20, 2019 at 09:05 PM
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Also noted is the opposite as well how a person can rip the soul right out of a person by saying they have done X number of people and it felt good but they are not going to have sex with you.
And berate a person. That is just cruel for a person to do to another

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Default Jun 26, 2019 at 04:10 AM
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Women's sexuality is boundless! Women are the only ones who can accurately say that their sexuality is fluid. Because it is! They can do so, so, so much and explore so many limits and possibly push them! Plus there's the intense sensuality that emits from exploring new boundaries. Its so incredible and amazing to be sexually free and untamed. I'm so happy I increased my feminine sexuality and coupled with spirituality because its so empowering to just feel this energy in me!

This is probably why society shuns teen girls and adult women from exploring their sexuality? Can't forget the **** shaming too.

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I’ve seen girls hug each other more than guys do, and girls hugging guys is okay but guys hugging girls is not okay as people have portrayed.
When my guy friends are talking about some guy stuff, they laugh and joke but I don’t understand anything. Meanwhile the girls are so rude, they shout “it’s for girls only!” And the poor guys are left confused.
Even though I’m a girl, I find it hard to cry even if I’m alone, afraid someone might see me. My mom has made fun of me and scolded me for crying too much. I don’t know if I’m originally a very emotional person but I encourage it with my friends to help them feel freely.
Unless someone tells me, I will not be able to understand what’s going on in their head. It shouldn’t have to be something that only guys feel. Is it possible that guys feel differently about things than girls?
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