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Member Since Dec 2007
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#1
I'm going bananas here! I'm female... longing to be with a female...
CRAP! CRAP! CRAP! |
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Wise Elder
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Location: Florida
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#2
Sorry to hear of your frustration........ Are there no places in or around your town where you can meet up other females looking for a relationship?
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Location: Ohio
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#3
Facing the same stupid stuff as you! girl wanting a girl. good luck finding one.
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Wise Elder
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#4
I am sorry that both of you ladies are finding it hard to meet that special someone....... Do either one of you ever look at online personal sections?
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Member Since Jul 2007
Location: CA
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#5
While going online to one of those "hook" up sites might sound like a good idea, I personally wouldn't do that. It's the same for heterosexuals, you don't really know who you are talking to, or anything about them. You can pick up some real freaks that way. Are there any "gay" bars where you live? At least you can see who you're talking with and decide for yourself if this is something you want. Just a thought. Good luck. |
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#6
I think these things are not to hard to find. Me, Myself am avoiding this and dont want that as my lifestlye so I am not willing to experiment with that , but I will say that if this is something you are interested in exploring I will personally tell you that I support it and I must say that if this is something that you want, there are areas, bars, etc. where you can go. I think if you really like that, and find yourself wanting another woman and thats what makes you happy then DEFINITELY go for it and make that happen! Whats important is your happiness
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#7
it's even more complicated
1 I'm married 2 I'm in love with someone 3 my religion |
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#8
it's all too much... too too much...
fingers want to touch lips want to kiss hand in hand on the street a midnight talk or a morning talk caring can't do this for much longer go away!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! leave me in peace!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! going insane!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! torture |
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Legendary
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Location: Ga
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#9
hon all you are saying to me is that you need/want intimacy. I too looked for females for much the same reason and now I stay away from it because of my religion. I am in a marriage where there is not much intimacy anymore myself but I haven't gone back to my old ways. however if I were not in church I certainly would.
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#10
yes I want gentleness and intimacy
it's lacking in my home but that's not all I get aroused by the female body but not by the male body I want to do like you... stick to my faith and do right in God's eyes. It's such a rough fight though! Do you have any advice on how to "clear the system" from this? I know it's impossible to make it all disappear... but at least fade a bit. |
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Location: Ohio
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#11
I am also in a relationship and having a hard time w/ the whole sex w/ a man thing but I don't think there is any way to "clear the system" of these urges. I hope i don't upset anyone but I find that whole notion to be old fashion and also offensive! Personally if I belonged to a religion or any group for that matter where I felt ashamed of any aspect of my self be it sexual preference or not i would want to distance myself from those people and the stigmas they promote. Again I hope no one feels attacked or offended it just bums me out that people make each other feel like they are "unclean" and sinful. I hope the best of luck to you and just know I am here and if you need to vent you could always PM me.
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Grand Poohbah
Member Since Sep 2007
Location: MA
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#12
wish I knew what to say, big hugs for you both
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Location: Ohio
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#13
thank you Hope
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Member Since Jul 2007
Location: CA
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#14
Hey immscared: I think you may have gotten the wrong idea. I'm not the one interested in this lifestyle. I don't dislike people that choose this, but I've been married for the past 33 years now. Soon to be 34 on the 21st. of Feb. We have been thru alot in those years, and managed to stay together in spite of everything, and ourselves!! lol.................... I never would have believed I'd stay married this long, yet alone at all???? I never pictured myself the marrying kind. After all I went through my parents divorce, their volital marriage, and being dirt poor besides all that. The Navy is not the way to the streets of gold!! But you persevere and go on with what you have, and you let the small stuff take care of itself. They did the best they could with what they had, and I guess for the times, that was the best they could do. Ok, but I'm trying to let the anger go. It doesn't serve any purpose now that they're both gone. Anyway, I hope that clears things up. I was trying to give advice to the person above who posted her lifestyle. |
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#15
Well girlN: Don't let that get you down. Sex ISN'T the only thing that holds the relationship in place. If it was, I WOULDN'T be married anymore. I had to take a step back and decide for myself what I needed from the marriage....you don't get both in life. My first was the biggest loser in America because he wanted to be! (an 18 year old alcoholic). My second was/is a great provider...........not a Don Juan.........so which do I choose? I'd rather have the lifestyle than the bedroom any day in the week. The bedroom won't get you what you want and is NOT the big deal your mother makes it out to be!!! Decide for yourself what makes YOU happy.....you may have to make some changes or trade-offs in the future, but the alternatives lack luster. For me, I don't miss the action/ or the lack of it one little bit. I FAILED at that class....and I'm not going back. I wasn't very good at love making, and I just think it's because I really DON'T like it much. Long story..... maybe some other time? Gays don't bother me at all. Hell, live and let live. Any religion that prohibits Gods children because of their choices in life is no church I want to be acquainted with or belong to. In the immortal words from the show LAW AND ORDER.... the character who plays the D.A............." let them marry....they can be miserable along with the rest of us"!!!! Some real catchy phrases came out of that show. |
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Legendary
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#16
it isn't that religion is ashamed but it is against God. this is not a religious debate but since that subject is brought up here I feel it ok to mention. I am not ashamed of my sexuality but I sure don't go around telling people about it.
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Location: Florida
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#17
While on the subject - May I say......... We are LOVED right Where WE are (no if's or's or but's).
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#18
I'd never judge others concerning their decisions...
I only need to talk about it before it drives me nuts. I don't think there's a solution to my difficult dilemma... but I do feel the need of sympathy and listening ears. For those in the same boat... I feel for you. |
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Grand Poohbah
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#19
I will listen all you want
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#20
Awww... thank you Hope!!!!!!!
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