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Old 07-06-2020, 10:16 AM   #31
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Autism Spectrum disorder was my guess, too. The maturity level, anxiety, impulsivities, limited social circle and understanding, the depression which could stem from having ASD.. it's such a wide spectrum. It could very well be the case. I've known adults with this disorder that you wouldn't think had it.

Are you able to tap into ASD resources and Community Living supports? Are you receiving financial disability income? This may help you build independence while receiving support outside of the family.. build autonomy even more so, without your parent's influence.

I wouldn't have a problem being on the autism spectrum (although it's not like I would have a choice), but in my opinion the diagnoses never quite seemed to fit me. Part of this has to do with the fact that I went to school with an autistic kid when I was in my early teens. I don't have most of the traits he exhibited. The one that sticks out to me most was his habit of rambling to absolutely anyone about computers, which was his obsession. I don't know if he was 'high' functioning, 'low' functioning, or something in between.


I think I likely have a personality disorder of some kind. I've considered that I may have dependent or borderline personality disorder. BPD occurs mostly in women I believe, and involves a lot of sex and drug use. I've never used recreational drugs, and I've only had these few recent sexual experiences.


Based on my placement on the autism spectrum, I have worked with job placement programs for the disabled. I am currently working with an employment agency now.


I have been told I don't qualify for financial disability income, due to my ability to find and hold down jobs in the past (although not always for long periods of time).


One other kicker is that I've recently got a job at a grocery store located 10 minutes away from this guy. And he knows.
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Why aren't you able to hold down jobs for very long? You may have a case to appeal for financial support. How long has your longest job been?

ASD is such a wide spectrum. I'm not sure I agree about BPD being mainly for women. I'm sure there's an overlap. Do people with personality disorders have trouble holding down jobs?

How ironic about your new job.. or was it planned to be closer to this guy?
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Old 07-06-2020, 04:43 PM   #33
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Why aren't you able to hold down jobs for very long? You may have a case to appeal for financial support. How long has your longest job been?

ASD is such a wide spectrum. I'm not sure I agree about BPD being mainly for women. I'm sure there's an overlap. Do people with personality disorders have trouble holding down jobs?

How ironic about your new job.. or was it planned to be closer to this guy?

I've had difficulty holding down a job due to both social anxiety and impulsivity. I walked out on my last two jobs.


The job I held the longest, almost 4 years at a clothing store, I left abruptly after shouting at an irritable customer. I had never done anything remotely like that before. I'd always been quiet and timid. That was 2 years ago. Ever since then my tolerance for rude strangers has completely evaporated. I've had a bad temper since I was a little kid, but it has gotten worse because now I have difficulty suppressing it in public.


Most of the time, I self harm as a way to express my rage towards other people.


I don't know much about personality disorders, but I would guess that they very well could make it difficult for a person to hold down a job, especially if they involve impulsivity.


I had an interview with the grocery store the very day that I first met the guy. It's an unfortunate coincidence that it is located in his town.


I didn't think I got the job at first, and I was relieved, because I didn't want to be stuck working someplace that put me within this guy's reach.


I did tell him about it, because I figured he'd see me there sooner or later anyway. If things are to end with this guy, I want it to be on good terms if we are going to be bumping into each other.

I was bullied a lot as a kid, from the time I was 8 until about 16. I think that might have arrested my development. I didn't grow up socializing with my 'peers'. I think it also has made me prejudiced against people my own age, therefore I'd rather be with an older man.
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