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Question Sep 06, 2020 at 11:21 AM
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Hi...

Intercourse has almost always been painful for me. Maybe it is psychological as I wanted to be married prior to having sex, but that boat sailed along time ago....I was raised in a very judgements Italian Catholic house.....
And my feelings are, if people want to enjoy sex, as long as there is not any force or coercion, they should, to feel good. I do not share my mother’s values. I feel as if I missed an important part of life...I have never been married...and being able to bring myself to orgasm quicker than any man....is frustrating.

I do think one of the reasons my last relationship failed was due to the painful intercourse....I used to bleed....so I thought, “why would I want to be sexual with someone whom does not care if I bleed”.

Any insights, opinions?

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I have the same condition and vulvodynia as well. Dilators have helped and using coconut oil as a lubricant. Have you seen a gynecologist?

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Dear one, if you're bleeding during sex, then you definitely need to see a doctor--and get an appointment soon, especially since you're obviously in misery. Okay?
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I totally agree you shouldn’t want to be sexual with anyone who doesn’t care that you bleed during sex, especially since you’re being vulnerable at those times.
I second having a doctors appointment, at the least.
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