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So tell me your opinions please. I have been in one heterosexual relationship and several homosexual relationships and it seems to me that while I enjoy being in a homosexual relationship more, I find that it is harder and there are more problems with acceptance from other with it.
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I think society is indeed more accepting of straight couples, or heterosexual relationships. Even though homosexuality is more eccepted than it has been in the past, there is still controversy, and you will still have people out there that just won't accept it sadly. As far as whether one is more harder than the other, I'm sure being homosexual seems harder because not everyone is as accepting with it.
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I'm sorry I forgot to welcome you and say nice to meet you!!
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Any relationship, gay or straight, requires work by both people involved.
Society though, is far more accepting of a straight couple. And in more states than not, it is still illegal to marry or even have a civil commitment ceremony between a gay or lesbian couple. But hey, interracial marriages were illegal in most states at one time, and look how far we have come. Good luck with any relationship who begin, and remember, you both will need to work hard to make it work. But true love is worth it! Take care |
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Thank you for the welcome and reply. I agree that society does have a part to do with making a homosexual relationship a little harder. But I live in California and with the recent changes being made in courts and proposed changes to the California constitution it is uncertain as to if things will become easier or even at that more accepting here.
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I definitely agree that non hetero relationships can be harder in a lot of ways, but you have to do what you have to do to be happy.
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i've had a whole community dis-own me and talk smack about me. even had my parents fall victum to all the smack talk.
all i have to say is this: god made you for who you are, and he wants you to be happy and to find love. it's as simple as that... |
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I wish it was easier for you. I have a daughter, brother, uncle and niece who are gay, please feel free to PM me if you ever to to talk. |
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Keebler - Hi and welcome!
My point of veiw on the whole issue is just to live your life not within a label but just as a sexual being. I think we all feel this need to put things into categories or "boxes" when really, all that matters is that we are happy with the relationships(or lack thereof) that we choose for ourself. There are ALOT of types of relationships that get flack from society - i try and veiw it in whats already come to pass with history. Like a previous poster said, at one point interracial relationships were frowned upon and now they are not. Heck, at one point, a woman and her brother living together was considered to be a nono! What makes YOU happy? If it truly is being in a homosexual relationship, there is a whole community of people who are there to support you in that. You said you live in California - which means there is likely a large gay community for you to meet and become friends with as well! As for acceptance from those you love, family, or friends - well, you can only try to show them the how and whys of things and they are responsible for their reactions. If its a friend, i would expect them to accept me no matter what i chose. Family is a bit stickier, because alot of the older generation was raised that homosexuality was wrong or bad, which I dont beileve to be at all true. The most important thing is to be true to YOURSELF. It may be hard to be in a homosexual relationship, but if you try and force yourself straight(or gay, for that matter) you will likely end up just as miserable as you would be the other way. So give it some time, keep exploring(SAFELY! always ) |
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welcome to PC ...... i wish you luck in whichever relationship you chose too ..... love is about 2 people who care and respect and would do anything for each other .... ignore the bigots and live your life to the full, sadly there are some who refuse to live and let live .... but, as Danialla said, look how far society has come ..... i wish you love and luck hon .... and i'm so sorry that some people can't mind there own business and let you and your parents live in peace .... jut goes to show thier ignorance and narrowmindedness IMHO ..... hugs, Jinnyann xoxoxoxoxoxo |
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Be whatever you are despite societal pressures. The new age thinking is beginning to understand that conformity is not the answer to the problems of society. If your gay, then be gay.
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It is harder to be different or outside of the societal "norm" whether it is sexual orientation or anything else.
It is a shame that many are still so myopic in their views (they say values or religion with this topic) but its always going to be there on some level. Just be yourself and be proud of whatever your choices are. I also find that the less I tell people, they less *&^% I deal with. Many homosexuals, lesbians or bi people want to come out and and find that acceptance. It comes from within first and foremost and you don't need acceptance to be happy with your choices. __________________ My new blog http://www.thetherapybuzz.com "I am not obsessing, I am growing and healing can't you tell?" |
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