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Grand Poohbah
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Ok, so why do I keep dreaming about my past flings and crushes?? I mean, I'm married and mostly happy, but I suppose, as I said in another post, I never really had those sick to my stomach butterflies about this relationship...did I just answer my own question? Does my subconscious still long for that which I don't have? How do I make it stop??
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Grand Magnate
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What about your current relationship made you want this relationship?
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Idk if you’re manic but it can make you hypersexual ....stopping the mania will stop it.....
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Well, if so, they gave me a sense of peace, gave me confidence in myself but also gave me tools to succeed at life. They were kind and gentle and patient and innocent... We joke about it, but there may be an element of truth to this, he's now changed and the joke is that I created a monster. I mean that my influence and presence has changed him in that he's not as innocent and maybe has less patience with me now (although he claims to have a lot of patience). We both have lost that shield you have when first dating that keeps you from being overly honest. It's a good and bad thing. Feeling comfortable enough with someone to be that honest is good...maybe I feel it's a little one sided though. And while we do have peace, it's not all the time. With the exception of the last week, we'd been kindof arguing a lot with each other or complaining at each other...or well, for awhile that too was feeling one sided. So, perhaps I'm jus out of the honeymoon phase and miss the newness of new relationships and just cling to the ones I used to want in my subconscious??? Did that answer you question or have I just blown this whole topic into a new topic? __________________ Celexa (Citalopram) 20mg Levothyroxine .75mg Liothyronine 5MCG (2x daily) Probiotics And a whole slew of vitamin and herbal supplements. |
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Grand Poohbah
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(See my followup thoughts in the post above) __________________ Celexa (Citalopram) 20mg Levothyroxine .75mg Liothyronine 5MCG (2x daily) Probiotics And a whole slew of vitamin and herbal supplements. |
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Grand Magnate
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I think you've solved why you find yourself thinking about others. You're unhappy. You have a lot to be happy with, but also things to work on.
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Grand Poohbah
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----- It probably goes without saying, but I had another dream last night. Sigh! It's just something I wanted so desperately once upon a time and just can't seem to move on, maybe not even if I work on/fix those things. Sigh! Sorry if I'm wasting people's time here. Just thought I'd give it a shot to see what others think before I see a therapist. Thanks! __________________ Celexa (Citalopram) 20mg Levothyroxine .75mg Liothyronine 5MCG (2x daily) Probiotics And a whole slew of vitamin and herbal supplements. |
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Grand Poohbah
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Afterthought (because I was wondering why I had this particular dream) it's probably because the topic of my old high school being torn down soon came up again last night and this was a high school crush (although it developed into "something" in the next few years as we sorta kept in touch). Anyway, I have strong feelings about the school closing, but because of these reminders, maybe it's a good thing and these dreams might even go away!
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I went through a time when I fantasized constantly about being with other women, when I was married. I learned to use that energy in my monogamous sex life. It did make being with my wife at the time much better, though I never told her I was fantasizing.
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So i mean, is it even possible to use that energy without thinking about others and if so, how? __________________ Celexa (Citalopram) 20mg Levothyroxine .75mg Liothyronine 5MCG (2x daily) Probiotics And a whole slew of vitamin and herbal supplements. |
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Grand Magnate
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I don't know.
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Grand Poohbah
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Ah, it's ok SorryShaped. No I've never actually heard that. Hmm. Oh well! I do appreciate you speaking frankly with me though and sharing your experience. I guess I'm still at square one, but it's still nice to at least try to figure these things out.
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