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Default How to avoid unpleasant interruptions during walks?

I was stopped by a couple people who tried to scam me with some fake antique coins (although that's only an assumption on my part). I was honest and helpful until they actually started talking about money, at which point I hastily retreated. After that I felt like ****. Fortunately it was at the beginning of my daily walk, which I sorely needed, but I thought about going back home I was so rotten. And you might think that it's an unlucky exception, but actually I've ever only been stopped by rude or unpleasant people, and never for anything fun or useful. I think part of it is just the way it works, also my social anxiety makes pretty much any interaction with a stranger unpleasant, and maybe it has a bit to do with living in Russia which is notorious for grumpy people in certain circles.

I just started thinking how I'd avoid that crap. Is it better to lie that I'm in a hurry? Or I had this outlandish idea: apologize in a foreign language (which I actually speak, of course), although that seems a bit too extreme if not completely impossible in my state, and I also don't look like a foreigner (if that makes sense). I also feel a lot like stopping walks and hiding at home again... but that is bad for me. However, it's no good if I have to relax after an activity that I was supposed to do to relax.
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You don't require an excuse to not interact with a stranger. Have you tried just ignoring them and walking on?
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Default Re: How to avoid unpleasant interruptions during walks?

I guess I should. Come to think of it, I always keep stopping. Well, I kind of often walk in deserted areas, although today it's not the excuse. But still, it was me, those two guys, and an empty street... I guess it's an even better excuse to keep going... I mean, they can't have done to me anything worse behind my back than what they tried face to face.
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You just keep walking, as though you're a machine. Do not stop.
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Ugh, I get people trying to stop me downtown all the time. I just keep walking. Most people do with all the people handing you cds or asking for money. Don't feel bad; you don't owe anyone a response.
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If your wear earphones people will assume you are listening to music and not bother you.
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Default Re: How to avoid unpleasant interruptions during walks?

I was, though! I don't think this has ever deterred anyone from trying to initiate an interaction. In fact, they often don't care if I'm able to hear them, seemingly... I guess maybe if I wore my big "indoors" headphones, instead of earbuds, it would be more obvious.
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To avoid someone, just tell them "No Thanks!"
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Avoid contact. Keep walking.
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Default Re: How to avoid unpleasant interruptions during walks?

In olden times, it was actually RUDE for a gentleman to speak to a lady to whom he had not been introduced. That is probably not the case here, but ive seen police say on tv that too often people are victimized because they dont want to appear rude. But the people who are mugging them are being VERY rude! So, dont worry about being rude. Worry more about how to ensure your walks are undisturbed - maybe walk in slightly less deserted areas?
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Default Re: How to avoid unpleasant interruptions during walks?

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If your wear earphones people will assume you are listening to music and not bother you.
I have tried this but they talk to me anyway, even in stores. Following this thread to get more ideas.
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