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Default Nov 10, 2017 at 10:32 PM
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I really don't like people, but they are drawn to me. I am really bubbly, and smiling, laughing all the time... Only on the outside. My life is so beautiful, yet the ultimate disaster. I'm completely lost, alone, stressed, needing help on the inside. But you will never see it looking at me.

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Hello jet.life: Welcome to PsychCentral! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit. May I suggest you introduce yourself over on PC's New Member Introductions forum? Here's a link:

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Default Nov 11, 2017 at 03:36 PM
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Hi. I can understand where you're coming from. It's painful when our exterior and interior are so much at odds.
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Hi. I can understand where you're coming from. It's painful when our exterior and interior are so much at odds.
Yes indeed, I love being by myself. I don't understand people, and I don't want to. I like being left by my lonesome, inside my head. I really don't like people
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Default Nov 11, 2017 at 07:33 PM
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Me too
Somehow, I've ended up in a job where I'm with a lot of people all day long.
It's been good for me in some ways. But I had to put a lot of work into managing my energy.
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I really don't like people.
I don't either. I prefer to be alone. I don't relate with people well and I like just being able to be myself without the social pressures I feel all around me.
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I don't either. I prefer to be alone. I don't relate with people well and I like just being able to be myself without the social pressures I feel all around me.
Yes, inside myself. No worries, no anxiety, no racing thoughts. Just me... I mean I am a bit weird. But I understand my weird... Not many people can.
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Default Nov 14, 2017 at 04:35 PM
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I can relate to you. I don't need to be around people. I don't need to be on Facebook, Twitter, or any other "Look at me! I'm wonderful!" websites. I'm only on PC, and I'm 100% ok with that.

People (in real life) have done nothing for me. They just pull me into their chaotic endless drama. That's why I cut them all off. That's why people like you and me are at our best when we're not drowning in the sea of everyone's mess they call "life."

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I'm very similar. I tend to care about people and want to help them, but I don't understand them at all at. I feel OK in a small group of people where everyone has passed my "danger/trust test". But at the end of the day, I need a lot of time on my own, only then I can fully relax and be myself. When I'm with people all I can think of is how not to embarrass myself and what are they thinking of me.
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I'm very similar. I tend to care about people and want to help them, but I don't understand them at all at. I feel OK in a small group of people where everyone has passed my "danger/trust test". But at the end of the day, I need a lot of time on my own, only then I can fully relax and be myself. When I'm with people all I can think of is how not to embarrass myself and what are they thinking of me.
I tried to be nice and caring towards people. They tell me that I'm a good friend and that I care. But sooner or later they have to ruin the relationship with me by starting some nonsense drama.

This is why I've become selfish and somewhat narcissistic. It seems like when I dedicate time to those in need, all I get are problems and unnecessary issues. Then I feel guilty that I wasted my time helping people who "expect" to be helped without appreciation for what I've done for them. I'd rather stick to myself. I'm 35. I have no time to waste.
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Default Dec 19, 2017 at 06:05 PM
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Oh man, I can relate to this. I've always been extremely antisocial, introverted, depressed, and never considered myself to be a people person. But it seemed like everyone had high praises for me whenever I was working customer service (boss, fellow employees and customers themselves.) The only reason I pursued engineering is because I wanted to be in a field AWAY from customers, lol. Apparently, my mixture of mellowness and straight-to-the-point nature puts a lot of people at ease. In reality, I'm (successfully) trying to divert their attention away from me and towards the task at hand or their own personal life.

I guess it's just because I listen more than I talk. Before engineering, I looked into Communications just to figure out how to talk to people because I was just that introverted. I didn't like people growing up, so I thought that if I just learned how to talk more, I could meet better people. But everyone seems to agree, the ironic key to good communication is better listening skills.

So unless there is a goal in mind or someone else starts the engagement, I don't want to break the ice. Maybe I'm too judgemental, too shy, don't know what to say, or I just want to keep the nice silence. I've gotten over some of my anxiety around people as I slowly realized just how much people don't notice or care about anything but themselves. (Not saying everyone is narcissistic, but that we all live in our own bubble of a brain and it's difficult to interact outside of it, ie everyone is their own island) But I still don't like engaging with people on the off chance that I have to talk about my own personal life and bad situation .
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