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I hope I don't sound strange but I don't want to fix my social anxiety, I just want to be left alone. I'm okay with my immediate family but other than that, I wish I lived in a world with just them. I'd be happy to never leave my house again and never have any visitors.
I was at the bookstore today (that was a bad idea, major anxiety) and found a book on social anxiety and at first I was like ooh that's a good idea but while flipping through it I realized I don't want to try their fixes (things like going out for a short walk or saying hi to someone etc.) I don't want to talk to other people more or go out more, I just want to be alone. __________________ Kathleen SAHM to 5 kids Loving Wife Dx: Bipolar 2 (hypomania includes anger, irritabily, restlessness), mixed states, rapid cycling. Also get anxiety/panic, obsessions and slight paranoia from time to time. Meds: 175mg Seroquel, 700mg Tegretol, 50mg Lamitrogine, 2mg Risperdal |
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Yes, I feel the same way. I can go out. I do go out when I need to. But I don't really have any particular interest in going out unless I need to. And I definitely don't want to talk to anyone.
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I do better when I'm with my husband. I can handle some things if he's with me but I don't want to talk to anyone else, like you said.
__________________ Kathleen SAHM to 5 kids Loving Wife Dx: Bipolar 2 (hypomania includes anger, irritabily, restlessness), mixed states, rapid cycling. Also get anxiety/panic, obsessions and slight paranoia from time to time. Meds: 175mg Seroquel, 700mg Tegretol, 50mg Lamitrogine, 2mg Risperdal |
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I feel like I’d love to be a social person where I can relate to people easily and open up to people without feeling anxiety/awkward, but there’s a part of me that feels the same way as you. Socializing can sometimes be draining and you never know how the other person will react to what you say. Being alone is fun when you have enough things to keep you busy that you enjoy. I spend a lot of time doing absolutely nothing because I have a hard time building interests, so it’s not so fun always being alone for me, I’m doing mostly what I can to change this. It just seems like the outside world can sometimes be cruel and careless. I have to make the #1 priority myself, because I’m the only one that can give 100% care for myself.
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Thanks for sharing. See I"d be happy being alone almost all the time. I want my husband to build me a small room that is sound proof that I can be alone in. I'd love that.
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I don’t think you are strange at all. I feel the same way. I wish I could just stay home, except for my once a year excursion to the beach. I feel so much better at the beach. My family is all grown now and I do miss them. I want to see the grandchildren and spend time with them, but even when the opportunity is there, I won’t go. I am OK enough to do my grocery and Rx shopping but anywhere else is very uncomfortable.
Recently, one of the cashiers mistakenly accused me of trying to steal a blanket. I had to force myself to go back to the store after that, so groceries might be out now too. I hope I can continue doing my own shopping because I like picking out my food myself and planning my meals for the month. It’s the people that I don’t like. Especially that cashier. I can usually go to doctors and therapists appointments alright but I have been up all night due to anxiety about going to a doctor today. I like the doctor and even his staff, but he has 3 locations and the only appointment he had open was at the busiest office with a waiting room that is usually full and seats at least 75 people! Obviously, he is in practice with many other doctors. The other two offices he has are much quieter and more intimate, with waiting rooms of a dozen or so chairs and less than half full. I wish I could just forget going at all. Anyway, I understand not wanting to go through all the discomfort of “getting better” when it just means more people! Ugh! My landlord is doing an inspection in a week or so and I don’t want her in my house. It stresses me out so much. You don’t sound stressed though. But I am definitely with you in thinking that maybe social anxiety is a good thing for protection. __________________ Practicing being here now. |
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Thanks MDDBPDPTSD.
Having someone think I stole something would make me not want to go back too. I don't know if they have them there but there are self checkouts at some stores here, maybe you could go to one of those stores so you could check yourself out?? I can 't even imagine a waiting room with that many people, SO stressful. I'm lucky that there's never more than 3 people in the waiting room for my pdoc. Definitely don't stop going though. Maybe you can make your next few appointments at once and have more luck getting the quieter ones? __________________ Kathleen SAHM to 5 kids Loving Wife Dx: Bipolar 2 (hypomania includes anger, irritabily, restlessness), mixed states, rapid cycling. Also get anxiety/panic, obsessions and slight paranoia from time to time. Meds: 175mg Seroquel, 700mg Tegretol, 50mg Lamitrogine, 2mg Risperdal |
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It's a free place if you live in the western world...but eventually you will get lonely...and then you still will have to face, what you denied yourself...perhaps there is a balance you can acknowledge if not now at some point when you're ready. Just my opinion cuz I've been in your situation many times.
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The steps that you need to take can be scary, but if you never take them, you can’t expect to improve. By never fixing your social anxiety, it could potentially eventually worsen over time and lead to other problems. I think you need to be ready to improve it, and maybe you’re not ready right now.
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