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Old 02-23-2019, 06:36 PM   #1
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So I have a huge anxiety issues within my own family, let alone the rest of the world.
So some days I wake up and I just need to have some quiet time. If I don't speak my mind can't run wild. But I can't be silent around my family. I can occasionally get an hour or two out of them but that doesn't do much for me in the long run just stresses me out.
I've worked hard to make as much of my life as quiet as possible, I don't answer phone calls or the door, everybody who needs me texts me and I'm happy with it like that.
As little communication the better, but still with my immediate family they feel the need to constantly hear me talking, even to other people when they come into the home, even when I want nothing else but to leave the room and get as far away from them as possible.
I know not getting the quiet time is messing my head up but there's nothing I can do about it.
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Old 02-24-2019, 03:16 PM   #2
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I'm sorry you are struggling with this. I have had some similar experiences in the past. I am married. But I have no extended family, no friends or even acquaintances... by choice. Nowadays I pretty-much just keep to myself 24 / 7 / 365. But it took time to get to this point.

Given my drothers, I probably wouldn't even talk to my wife much. Actually, come to think of it, I don't talk to her much. I mostly just listen to her talk. (Most of it goes in one ear & out the other, so to speak.) I rarely answer the phone. And I don't open the door if anyone rings the doorbell. I know it's not for me. So either my wife gets it or, if she's not home, I just ignore it.

I know my wife wishes I were more talkative. But, over the years, I think she's come to accept that the way it is... is how it is. (It does help, I suppose, that we're older people.) I know that being in a situation where people were expecting me to be social & talkative would mess with my head. So I understand how you feel about this.
Speak only if you can improve upon the silence.
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Just want to tell you that I get it. What I truly do not understand is why people feel the need to engage in verbal diarrhea.
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I'm so sorry you're struggling, shorty2624 I know how you feel. My parents expect the same thing out of me. I believe it's just what society expects us to do. But not everyone wants to. I'd suggest to talk to your parents about this and see how it goes from there. Make them understand how hard this is for you and how you would prefer not engage in too many conversations. Hopefully they will understand and they will try to help you. Do you see a therapist? Maybe that could help. You could learn new ways to cope with your feelings. I'm so sorry, I know it's hard. Please don't give up. I hope things will get better soon for you. Is there anything we can do to help you? Please let us know. Remember that we're here for you if you need it Feel free to PM me anytime. Let me know if I can do something to help you. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this
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