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Old 04-21-2019, 11:38 PM #1
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My biggest fear has to be social media. The only profile I have is Facebook but I'll post something like once a year. Before I post something I get a feeling very similar to stage fright, and then I just abandon the post. The idea that hundreds of people are viewing my posts, and forming opinions about them, and probably talking about them amongst themselves makes me very anxious. This fear is honestly unfounded because every time I post a new photo of myself, I get quite a few likes and "reactions". I just can't help it.

I'm constantly asked by people "Why don't you have Instagram? It's how you can keep up with the latest things! How do you even stay in touch with people?!" I also just read an article that said that potential employers will go on a candidate's Facebook profile to get more information about them, and if they don't even have a profile, they might assume the candidate is some kind of serial killer.

The point is, I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. On one hand, I feel like not having Instagram and Facebook profiles makes you a social outcast. On the other hand, I'm so afraid of it.

Does anyone have any tips on how to overcome this fear? I haven't really spoken to anybody about it because they'll probably think it's ridiculous.
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I'm sorry I don't have the answer to this. I personally avoid pretty-much all social media (except for PC, of course.) But, then, I'm old. So it really doesn't matter much in my case. I'm not on Facebook or Instagram or anything like that. I also don't often post my own threads here on PC either. And when I do I always feel a twinge of embarrassment later & wonder why I did it.

You asked about tips for how to overcome your fear of social media. My only thought would be to just dive in & do it... more-&-more. The more time you spend on it, the more comfortable you would (hopefully) become with it. I suppose if you really wanted to focus on this, you could develop some kind of a program where you reward yourself for accomplishing certain pre-set goals in terms of participating on social media. But that may be a bit more involved than you want to get.

Here's a link to an article, from PC's archives, that offers tips for moving out of fear & into your life. Perhaps some the suggestions in this article can be of help:

Moving Out of Fear and into Your Life

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I would be surprised if not having a Facebook account would cost you a job. Many people are off Facebook or have very high privacy settings, including me.
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Although this may seem like NOT the best advice, I would tell you to make a fake profile. You know, make up a name or an alias, (make up something cool like Nick NightWhistle, or something if it will let you, (they recently updated their name filter thing so I don't know if it will work), and have your friends follow it. It will be almost like you're a "personality" under a pen-name. I mean authors and actors do it right?
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Although this may seem like NOT the best advice, I would tell you to make a fake profile. You know, make up a name or an alias, (make up something cool like Nick NightWhistle, or something if it will let you, (they recently updated their name filter thing so I don't know if it will work), and have your friends follow it. It will be almost like you're a "personality" under a pen-name. I mean authors and actors do it right?
But I'd still be posting pictures of myself, and I'd still be self-conscious about what I post.
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if I can ask, how do you feel about the people that are on your "friends" list seeing the posts/ pictures?

when I first read this, I immediately thought about the facebook privacy settings, that allow you to control who sees what on your feed (the thing with the posts, pictures, what ever) so if you're refering to unknown people, that's an option
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if it's friends, what about posting stuff you feel comfortable with?

I remember when I had a facebook profile, (years ago now), I never posted any pictures- because of my body issues mainly, but yes.. also embarrassed about my look

out of the many interactions I had on their, only about 2 people asked me.. so where's the picture?

I don't really think pictures matter.

not if you're using it to get in contact with people
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if I can ask, how do you feel about the people that are on your "friends" list seeing the posts/ pictures?

when I first read this, I immediately thought about the facebook privacy settings, that allow you to control who sees what on your feed (the thing with the posts, pictures, what ever) so if you're refering to unknown people, that's an option
I've tried making certain things private, and then people come up to me and say things like "Hey I saw that picture of you with pink hair from 10 years ago, pretty in pink" when I definitely set that particular pic to private. So I don't think that the settings always work or maybe I just don't really know how to use them properly.

It's things like this that make me anxious about what people know about me.
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I've tried making certain things private, and then people come up to me and say things like "Hey I saw that picture of you with pink hair from 10 years ago, pretty in pink" when I definitely set that particular pic to private. So I don't think that the settings always work or maybe I just don't really know how to use them properly.

It's things like this that make me anxious about what people know about me.


could you take down what makes you anxious?

just have up their what you feel okay about sharing?
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I don't think Facebook is necessary for employment or anything else really. I would advise having a LinkedIn profile though.
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