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Default Jul 23, 2019 at 11:12 PM
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Some people complain about their friends and talk about the events they all excitedly attend while im almost completely alone while most people are having a great time with people. I wish i could be the center of attention and had that magnetism that drew people in but I obviously dont.

It's just crazy to me. I used to just feel super confident and excited around people I was always doing my best to show off and goof around. I feel like most people avoid me but it could also be maybe i was never as comfortable around people as I thought.

I've noticed I'm always really tense around people I dont know well and sometimes i try to push away people that are rude to me even if they dont realize it. I never get invited out or go anywhere exciting. I've never really gone to a party and those sound like fun but I dont know really anything about parties and google doesnt seem to help.

I wonder if it's because I'm a perfectionist like I need an invite or I have to things by the book but there's no manual to making friends and being a party animal and even if I were to find that book I would be too nervous and anxious to apply any of it.

I've watched so many Youtube videos of people who said "screw anxiety I'm just gonna do what I want" but I cant bring myself to that point I think about it so much I get depressed and when I try I fail so many times I have no energy to continue. I hate saying I give up it's just a daily struggle and sometimes I stop trying so much.

This anxiety is so overwhelming I feel like I've never functioned right in my life.
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Hello Cuddlebear: I believe this is your 3rd post here on PC. (I recall having also replied to your second post too.) Welcome to Psych Central.

I'm sorry you are struggling with so much anxiety. Here are links to 5 articles, from Psych Central's archives, on the subject of coping with social anxiety:

Social Anxiety Overview | Psych Central

6 Ways to Overcome Social Anxiety

7 Ways to Overcome Shyness and Social Anxiety

Overcoming Social Anxiety the Alchemist's Way | NLP Discoveries

9 Socialization Tips for People with Social Anxiety

I hope you're finding PC to be of benefit.

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