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Post Jul 08, 2020 at 11:24 PM
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Hello all, I'm a newbie here, so please go easy on me! I just needed to get something off my chest, but I'm also looking for some feedback and advice if anybody has any to offer. I guess you could call it a semi-rhetorical question. My question is, how on earth am I supposed to make friends with people when they're always either on their phones or laptops, or chatting with someone else? I suffer from social anxiety (obviously, since I'm on a SA thread lol) and I find it very difficult to make new friends, partly because it seems like people around me are always either busy or distracted. I want to make friends, but it's hard when most people are either already talking to someone else or when they're focused on their phones/tablets/laptops. I'm afraid of being a burden or annoying people, and so I can't just walk up to them and start talking to them. Even if they act nice, I fear that they're just being polite and humoring me, when really on the inside they're annoyed with me and wish I would leave them alone. It's frustrating, because as I said, I want to make friends. *sigh* Why is making friends so hard? Am I the only one who feels this way? What can I do to counteract this?
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I'm afraid I don't have any useful answers to this for you. But I noticed you had yet to receive a reply to this post. So I thought I would write one & perhaps other PC members who do have similar concerns will yet reply.

My own personal perspective is one has to go out & get involved in things one is interested in &, in the process, one will inevitably meet new people. Over time at least a few of them may become friends. However, since I'm an old recluse, what occurs to me with regard to your concern is probably wrong.

Here are links to 7 articles, from Psych Central's archives, on the subject of how to make, & keep, friends:

10 Ways to Make Friends

10 More Ways to Make Friends

Building and Keeping a Circle of Friends

Growing Healthy Friendships

The Care and Maintenance of Friendship

https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-to...-more-clearly/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/8-tips...dium=popular17


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I'm afraid I don't have any useful answers to this for you. But I noticed you had yet to receive a reply to this post. So I thought I would write one & perhaps other PC members who do have similar concerns will yet reply.

My own personal perspective is one has to go out & get involved in things one is interested in &, in the process, one will inevitably meet new people. Over time at least a few of them may become friends. However, since I'm an old recluse, what occurs to me with regard to your concern is probably wrong.

Here are links to 7 articles, from Psych Central's archives, on the subject of how to make, & keep, friends:

Thank you, I appreciate this! Thanks for your reply on my other post as well! I will definitely have to look at those links sometime when I get the chance! I probably should try joining a club or activity or something. I have tried a few different clubs in the past, but always kind of wound up dropping out of them because I got bored, couldn't stand the commitment, and/or just didn't seem to make any friends.
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