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Default Aug 19, 2019 at 10:21 AM
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she always does these kinds of things.. brilliant
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Default Aug 21, 2019 at 02:11 PM
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I've never liked talk shows where people scream at each other but her shows always were about improving yourself and spreading positivity. My daughter believes this (which is Oprah like)--you must believe you can and visualize it to achieve it. I am a Debbie Downer compared to Oprah and my daughter. I should know better and try to remind myself to stay positive....
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Default Aug 22, 2019 at 07:51 AM
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One of the top 10 rules was to give yourself 17 seconds to complain then move on.

My POV is that dwelling on what is wrong may be one cause or it might make worse depression for some of us so. I think you have to try to get into the habit of acknowledging what is wrong but then do or think of something else.

Of course, while we are suffering and processing trauma (some trauma's are just too much so we can end up processing them years later), we need to talk about it even though it is negative. In my case, I talked and talked about my attempt in 2015 and other things to the point that now it is time to move on. However, I do occassionally bring it up if I think it will help someone (to show I can relate).

I am trying to complain less and love everyone in my life to the best of my ability. Yes, we have to go no contact with abusers but many of us do insensitive things sometimes and it's not good for us to go no contact with the world. Also, if we have crappy jobs or other situations we are stuck in--the negativity around us rubs off!!! That is why it is important to find a positive escape somehow and positive friends (I have no friends other than my family--that is why I am still at PC despite so many wonderful people who have moved on--bless them and I hope they moved on to positive things since most of us find this place because we are suffering or in crisis ). Having complained and complained on here about some things--this is how I am trying to be.
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Default Aug 29, 2019 at 08:18 AM
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Spent way too much of my life worrying about things but I am learning to stop worrying about others as much. Being in charge of myself is all I can handle!
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Default Sep 12, 2019 at 11:00 AM
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Carol Burnett - Eunice Goes to the Shrink (Part 2)
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"We don't care what mama don't allow, we're going to take charge of our life anyhow"
"When confronted with a foe, bless her, praise her, let her go"
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WARNING WARNING! If you have any sort of PTSD from being yelled at, don't view the Youtube video below. I am afraid it made me laugh. Sometimes, I think human nature is to be entertained when we see others experiencing pain we can relate to but relieved that it's not us! She should have thrown things at that T!
Bob Newhart - "STOP IT!"
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Default Sep 19, 2019 at 10:35 AM
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1. Take responsibility for your life.
2. Believe in yourself. (My way of putting it is--If you love yourself, loving people will love you.)
3. There are no mistakes. (Only after I hit rock bottom did I start figuring out who I really am and what I really want.)
4. Meditate daily. (For me, that is simply spending some time everyday having time to contemplate on my life--sometimes it happens when I walk.)
5. Take care of yourself. (Put yourself first so we can fully be there for others when we are with them.)
6. Go within and connect.
7. Be grateful.
8. Be the master of your life. (You get what you believe but you also need to go for it.)
9. Keep your vibration high. (Don't be negative.)
10. It begins and ends with us. (WE ARE THE BOSS!!!)
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Default Sep 25, 2019 at 07:13 AM
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Observe your mind but don't let it control you. Try to put a positive spin on challenges. Don't get sucked into negativity.
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Oprah's top 10 rules for self love
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Strange answers to the psychopath test | Jon Ronson
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One of his observations was this is a country that overdiagnosis many mental disorders...
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One of his observations was this is a country that overdiagnosis many mental disorders...
I watched this whole thing just now. What a very good speaker and storyteller.

And yes, even a misdiagnosis can be hard to change or get rid of.
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Default Oct 09, 2019 at 08:32 AM
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I have always read a lot. I used to read novels, nonfiction, news, etc but beginning in 2016, at least half of what I read is about mental health. This morning, one of the articles I read was: Forgive and Forget Hard? 12 Reasons Why You Can't Move On. I had a lot of shame/depression/anxiety (it still reemerges sometimes). I was effected by some, but not all, of the reasons the article gives for not being able to move on.

However, though the article makes some good points, I think there are some things in this life that people (especially people who have suffered trauma both deserved or undeserved and bad luck) might always feel sad about. It is more like we have to not feel guilty about feeling joy even though there is a part of us that will always feel sad. We can still dream and feel happy even if our life will never be the same again. Just being a survivor able to wake up and smell the coffee is a good thing.
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And I think this is wishful thinking to some extent (not acknowledging sadness sells to people desperate to run away from reality ). Though I love Oprah and find her very inspiring (I like a lot of her advice which is about figuring out who you are and being true to it)--some mistakes in our life can't be totally undone--though we can grow and learn from them.
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It was the best therapy ever today. When I mentioned that I sometimes hold back things because I don't want to be judged, my T said, "You know what that is all about--that is self judgement." So true.
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Default Dec 01, 2019 at 03:38 AM
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What happens when Chelsea Fagan who has a blog about female focused personal finance and Kati Morton (a therapist whom some of us follow about mental health issues) talk? The Youtube video below:

Insecurity, Emotional Spending, Rich Friends and Jake Paul: A Q&A With Therapist Kati Morton
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Default Dec 26, 2019 at 04:04 AM
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I am giving myself a pat on the back for working through many of my internal emotional issues in 2019.

I have come to believe that I have an empathetic side which causes me to take on other's emotions and be confused about what I need verses just getting upset because the people around me are upset so I learned from a very young age ways to escape from my feelings. However, as I got older, it became harder to not get triggered in certain environments like family gatherings, call center jobs, etc. I am learning better when I need to detach from others emotions and feel my emotions instead then acknowledge so that I can then detach from my emotions in a healthier way. When I first came to PC, I was wanting to read about others who were struggling as I was with suicidal thoughts, etc. despite the fact that so much of it was triggering for me. From 2016 through 2019, PC helped me explore my emotions. That exploration helped me heal.

I have so many goals in so many facets of my life for 2020. My desire for 2020 is to stay in my own lane and work on my goals. I am a little better now at not accidentally taking on others goals and jumping into other peoples lanes.

Thanks to everyone at PC who have taken so much time replying to my posts. My prayer for all at PC is that you can find a way to heal your wounds and triggers. My POV is that we have to not be afraid to feel the things that hurt us the most and then we can work toward leaving it behind. We don't have to relive the same hurts over and over. We can reprogram our minds to think of other things. We don't do it by saying, "I am not going to think about that," because then we will think about what we are trying not to think about; instead, we think about what we want our life to be and spend time working toward that. The process of doing can redirect our thoughts. If people are making us feel bad, we can leave them behind and focus on those that make us feel good. We CAN leave the bad behind. The new year is a great time to leave things that do not serve us behind.
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When does a person find their genius? In the middle of the suck.

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