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Old 09-26-2018, 09:14 PM #21
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Because I didn't want anyone to worry about me.
Because I didn't know if it "counted".

Because I didn't scream or fight back.

Because I don't trust the police.
I hear this all the time.
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Thank you everyone who wrote about their experiences. I absolutely believe you all. Your words help me to feel less alone.
Glad we could help

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Because I didn't scream!.
Because I didn't yell no!
Because I didn't scream stop!
Because no one believe me
Because it was someone I knew and I was adult myself!
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I think it is helpful to write a letter of restorative justice......that says...this is what you did, this is how it made me feel. You had no voice when you were young, but now you can speak up (even if the abuser is dead). xoxo
I will keep that in mind! Great advice!
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Because I don't remember all the details since I was so young.
Because he was a Catholic priest so people thought he was a good guy.
Because I'm autistic and fear the court would use that against me.
Because if I'm ever ready the statue of limitations is up now anyway.
Because he's dead anyway and can't hurt anyone anymore.
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Because I didn't know what abuse looked or felt like.

Because I had grown up that way.

Because I thought obsession = love.

Because I didn't trust my own body or perception.
I had a lot of experience in that myself!
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I think it is helpful to write a letter of restorative justice......that says...this is what you did, this is how it made me feel. You had no voice when you were young, but now you can speak up (even if the abuser is dead). xoxo
Good advice, thanks ...
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I reported and no one would help anyway.
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I was 3, I was 5 , I was 10, I was 18. I was all the ages in between.

I did report. I was told to shut up.
I did report. I was told I was lying.
I did report. I was told I would it would kill my mother, kill my father, destroy my family.
I did report. I was taken away from my home, blamed for the destruction.
I did report. I was told I was crazy, threatened with being locked up.
I did report. The social workers didn't believe me. The therapist didn't believe me.
I did report. I was branded a liar, a home breaker, disturbed, crazy.
I did report. I was returned to the abusers care by the state anyway.

I stopped reporting.


Do you know what NOBODY did?
Nobody cared.
Nobody believed.
Nobody comforted.
Nobody reassured.
Nobody listened.
Nobody protected.
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One was an authorities son. I knew I wouldn't be believed.
One was a Social workers son. I didn't want to rake Myself over the coals
I knew it would be he says she says case in court
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