[paradox22]

Hi, I am 26 years old and still being emotionally abused by my father. I am healing through therapy and meditation but do not know what to do next. I feel bad every day because of it and have gotten in one bad relationship myself which is now over. I just need to find away out of my dad's house and live on my own. I haven't been able to live on my own because I never felt safe alone and I feel safer living with my dad. I don't know why this is but I've always felt safe living with him than on my own. Please respond letting my know how I might have my own life and put this in the past.

Can you live with a very supportive relative or a friend (i.e. roommate)?

[paradox22]

Originally Posted by ennie

Can you live with a very supportive relative or a friend (i.e. roommate)?

I can't think of anyone. I don't have relatives that would be willing to take me in or supportive friends. I moved to utah from NYC so i have no friends.

[Abusedbysister]

If you have any supportive friends anywhere, please go with them even if you have to change cities.

Make sure you don’t move from your dad to another abuser.

I was in a similar situation as my sister used to physically and emotionally abuse me and I moved out when I was about 18-19. The first move was a disaster because the friend with whom I moved was as abusive as my sister but was a strong guy. Eventually, I got the support of another relative in a different city and moved there, and he helped me to get on with my life.

[Bill3]

I wonder if you could first practice being alone.

For example, take an example overnight trip alone.

Also: work on meeting people in Utah. School, church, work, volunteering, meet-ups?

[KD1980]

I am in the same situation. I live with my abusive family and I want to move out.

NYC is very expensive. There is a place called The Fountain House in the Bronx that helps mentally ill people find jobs and housing. Maybe you can call them?

You and I have a lot in common. I was also abused as an adult and I was in an abusive relationship too. It's so traumatizing. I am so sorry for you and I hope you can get out.

[sarahsweets]

The most important thing you can do to free yourself from abuse is to remove yourself from the abusive situation and avoid, possibly cut off contact with the abuser.