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Old 03-14-2019, 03:30 PM   #11
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Selective memory is just an abuse tactic,they never really forget,they lie and revise history,they also gaslight and lie about doing it.It really is true the best way to protect your self from a narcissist abuser is to stay away from them ,do not engage and do not stay in a relationship with them,go 100% no contact.
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Old 03-20-2019, 06:44 PM   #12
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It’s really scary when you get to the point where the abuse is crystal clear. I know it. They know I know it, even though they will gaslight me until the end of time. I feel afraid they will do worse to maybe physically hurt me once I have stopped allowing the emotional abuse.
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The more they get away with emotional abuse the more likely the abuse will become physical,it usually escalates in that way.
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Abusers tend to forget about thier own wrongs, but tend to remember very well how they "felt" wronged by others and have a way of letting you know months or even years later (through passive-aggressive/ sarcastic remarks).

It's impossible to confront someone with a selective memory [sigh...just venting here].
Abusers have told me that incidents didn’t happen, that I was “lying” or “blowing things out of proportion”.

They refuse to respect boundaries and are unable to remember or care that THEY have wronged us.. as you said they do tend to remember very well how they “felt” wronged by others.

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