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Don't understand why he'd be "flirty" with you if he "wasn't attracted to you".
I think I understand. Being "flirty" could have been his manipulation tactic. It could also have been about feeding his own ego, to prove to himself he can charm any woman.

A narcissists is a master of disguise. If he showed his true color in the beginning, no one would want to get close to him. So acting flirty is his mask or cover.
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I don't think that you made a rash decision that he is a narcissist. You presented to us series of symptoms that led you up to this conclusion, rather than picking one isolated event and jumping to a conclusion. It's well thought-through, well-articulated, and highly-informative.
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I think I understand. Being "flirty" could have been his manipulation tactic. It could also have been about feeding his own ego, to prove to himself he can charm any woman.

A narcissists is a master of disguise. If he showed his true color in the beginning, no one would want to get close to him. So acting flirty is his mask or cover.
Thank you ennie! That's exactly what I thought: he was manipulating me to see if he "still got it" b/c of his wounded ego, being recently dumped by his ex-g/f and I happened to be his convenient target.

And narcissists always wear the charming, funny guy disguise b/c its one that women respond to the best. The problem is, not ALL men are narcissists but so many are, it's hard to tell right off the bat if it is a mask or if it's real. In his case, it's definitely a mask.

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I don't think that you made a rash decision that he is a narcissist. You presented to us series of symptoms that led you up to this conclusion, rather than picking one isolated event and jumping to a conclusion. It's well thought-through, well-articulated, and highly-informative.
Thank you again ennie, for validating me. That's all I wanted -- to discuss my findings based on how I applied them to my real life situation -- with others who have experience with narcissist personalities.
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The things you describe about his behavior are definitely fishy.

His comment about social media is strange to me. He’s 60. IME a man of that age wouldn’t be so prolific with the social media, wouldn’t have made a point to mention that the ex blocked him. This is ‘off’ to me.

You did the right thing, listening to your gut. Good for you.
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But when I said the label was used too much or however I said it, I meant by people that are not a part of mental health treatment or the mental health field.

And people that are "not part of mental health treatment or mental health field" may not be in a position to question the validity of someone else's story.
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And people that are "not part of mental health treatment or mental health field" may not be in a position to question the validity of someone else's story.
Thank you ennie for your support.
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And people that are "not part of mental health treatment or mental health field" may not be in a position to question the validity of someone else's story.


I wish I was able to take back what I said and apologize to Blanche but she has me on ignore. I should have done a better job validating what she experienced. I feel bad about it now.
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I wish I was able to take back what I said and apologize to Blanche but she has me on ignore. I should have done a better job validating what she experienced. I feel bad about it now.
I took you and Ohseedee off of ignore. Apology accepted.
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