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Perhaps that is the case. She puts on a nice act in public and will be nice to after she abuses me ( I’m assuming to gain my trust back again so she can rip me apart ). She said that she used to have an eating disorder as a teenager, yet she tries to encourage me to start forming an eating disorder. No matter what, her behavior isn’t acceptable to me in anyway and I generally feel very unsafe around her, especially if I am alone with her. I will definitely look into the book as many people have recommended it to me, and I see if I can find some way to read it without my parents finding out that I am because I would get in huge trouble for doing so. Thank you for the reply.
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Sounds similar.My mom always had problem with my eating.No disrespect but she was flat chested,I started developing very curvy and attractive body around your age and she started telling me I will be fat one day.She showed me one of an obese aunt and started body shaming me that soon I will be looking like her and no body will like me when I grow up.But my classmates told me I had a good physique. DONOT INTERNALIZE WHAT SHE IS TELLING YOU.Eat well and exercise. She is body shaming you just like my mom did.This age is important to you.your body needs good nourishment.god bless you my dear.
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I havenÂ’t contacted a shelter because anything that results in me not getting removed from my household immediately and my mom getting contacted about me reporting her will result in me getting seriously harmed. I havenÂ’t contact CPS either for this reason because I know most kids donÂ’t get removed immediately and the parents get alerted about the report. I do believe that my mother will physically harm me if she knows I told someone. The counselors at my school also alert my parents that I reported them so I have avoided talking to them after what happened when I did talk to them. I just feel helpless because I believe there is no way of getting out of this abuse until I graduate. Even then, my mom plans on moving with me when I go to college. I have no clue how to cut off all contact with her even though I know I need to because sheÂ’s toxic.
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There’s a counselor at my school who decided to scream at me for crying about the situation and tried to call my mom to tell her that I reported her. She didn’t have my mom’s contact info on file ( thank goodness ) so she called my dad instead. That’s as far as help goes at my school.
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My friends reported this incident to our school counselor who then screamed at me for crying and attempted to tattle - tell on me to my mom.
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Update 11/03/2019:
My mother is still continuing to abuse me. She screamed at me the other day for crying because a school teacher made very rude remarks towards me. She told me this morning that I need to lose weight because she said I had cellulite which only fat people have. She also called me fat last week after seeing my headshot photo that I had done for a musical I’m in. She then told me that I need to start dieting ( I’m already on a diet even though I’m thin ). Just a few minutes ago, she told me that I always try to start an argument with her after I told her that it’s a shame that I don’t dance as much as I would like to because of my schedule that I have for a musical I’m in. After I said that, she then randomly brought up that I need to be studying harder for my SAT because she said no college will want me if I have bad grades ( I have had straight A’s my whole life ) and that I need to get a perfect score like she did otherwise I’m an idiot. She kept yelling at me that I need to go to med school and they won’t accept me because I am too stupid and because I want to major in musical theater/dance, which she disapproves of greatly. She says if I want to please her, I’ll become a doctor or a lawyer - both of which I have no passion or desire for. |
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I do not know how to rescue you,except praying for you.God bless you kid.
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I am shocked at your counselor's behavior; they should be trained in how to help someone. Is there a teacher you can trust to talk to? You can call the Domestic Violence Hotline; they can be very helpful. Make sure you do it away from your mom. This is verbal abuse just as dangerous and traumatic as physical violence. Her abuse has nothing to do with who you are. She is full of rage and hates herself and takes it out on you. She wants to control your life, but she cannot; once you turn 18, you can get away from her. I had a mother like that, and so I understand. xo
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Thank you for the advice. Unfortunately, I am afraid to talk to the teachers at my school because I’m either not close to them, or since I attend such a small school, word will get out to everyone. If anything, they’d probably refer me back to the social worker who made those remarks towards me. I, however, have been talking to my best friend about this because her mother is very similar to mine, so I have someone to relate to. I don’t believe that talking to her will change my situation, but it at least gives me some emotional stability. I haven’t called the hotline yet, but CPS has been contacted before and nothing was done because there “wasn’t enough evidence”. I will be graduating high school early next year when I am sixteen. I plan on moving to either New York or Boston to pursue a dance or musical theater major in college, and I plan on moving with just my dad. My mom keeps saying she will move with me though and I don’t think I can stop her. My dad has been subtly hinting to her that it is best that she stays here where we currently live, so hopefully that will help. |
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