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Hey all. This is a very vulnerable post for me but I don't have many places to turn to at the moment. This post has to do with childhood sexual abuse and going to the doctor when you're older. I'm just going to put the whole thing as a trigger warning, just to be safe.
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I have a therapist but I haven't seen her in months due to something happening that I didn't like. I'll call her to make an appointment, though, because it's very hard for me to find another one at the moment. I will talk about this in our session, whenever that will be. We started talking about it but I was so embarrassed that I just shut down. Has anyone here ever had the same or similar issue ? Any advice? Thank you to all those that read this. I appreciate it. |
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Hmm, no "good" advice from me sorry. I have never been and I never will. I know there can be consequences to that. So be it.
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I was traumatized by an OBGYN. Not sexually and its involved so I wont get into details. It kept me from going to see one for about 5 years. I finally found one through the help of my mom believe it or not. She is an ICU/recovery room nurse and had one in mind and sort of talked to him ahead of time in order to get him to understand where I was coming from. I made an appointment and he met with me in his office for like a half hour before we even did any exam. He talked me through everything he was going to do and talked out loud as each thing was coming up. He made sure to have a female chaperone with us too. Once I got through that exam it was easier going to him the next time. I have a lot of health issues and I was overdue for a lot of tests.
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I’m sorry to hear of your situation. Thanks for your bravery in sharing. You are not alone. Im in my mid 30s and have been once about 5 years ago. My T helped. She actually suggested a doctor (her own, this was helpful to me but I understand others might find it uncomfortable). She told me in general what would happen. Before the actual appointment, I went to the OBGYN building twice. The first time I just sat in the parking lot and looked at the building. The second time I went into the office, told them about my anxiety, and asked to see the exam room. They were nice and gave me a little tour. Also, no men allowed for me. And Xanax was taken. Hopefully this gives you some ideas about making things less terrifying.
It’s time for me to go again, but now I live in a different state with different doctors. Maybe new T can help. A referral from a good friend has helped some, but not enough for me to actually go. __________________ "I think I'm a hypochondriac. I sure hope so, otherwise I'm just about to die." PTSD OCD Anxiety Major Depressive Disorder (Severe & Recurrent) |
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Tell the nurse/doc whoever you see first that you are a CSA survivor. This is their profession & they've dealt with many times before. There is even a protocol for it. If you know what you need, tell them. I need to know what's going to happen next. Some docs incorporate the protocol into every first time appointment especially if an older first timer. That may include a shorter exam, the presence of a nurse who will even hand hold if you like. Prefer a running conversation or silence...just tell them. They want to make it as comfortable as possible as this is an important part of physical health. If you want to take a friend with you, do so. Don't need to explain. Just plan a lunch or shopping afterwards. Take care of yourself.
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My fear of going was compounded by the fact that my main abuser(uncle) was a doctor. I simply explained what I had been through to my doctor. She called around for me and found someone she thought I would be comfortable with. The first appointment was just a get to know you and she showed me the instruments that would be used. She also told me in detail what to expect and that she would talk me through what she was doing. Then I made a second appointment and the actual exam was not nearly as bad as I thought it would be.
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Thank you for bravery in sharing. I’m sending hugs and positive thoughts
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