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Anna Jarvis: The woman who regretted creating Mother's Day - BBC News
She did not like the commercialization that followed. __________________ Now if thou would'st When all have given him o'er From death to life Thou might'st him yet recover -- Michael Drayton 1562 - 1631 |
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I know this is an old thread, But it spoke to me...
My mom was neglectful, abusive, and when I finally escaped, vengeful. I cut off all contact, haven't spoken to or heard from her in 25 years. Mother's day doesn't bother me a bit - I'm pretty numb about everything at this point. My dad doesn't love me either, so I don't get particularly bent out of shape over Mother's Day. It is only on reading this that I wonder if I've shoved some stuff down. |
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Sadly, it had nothing to do with who you were/are, and everything to do with the problems of the abuser
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I believe I redeemed Mother's Day by ending the cycle of generational abuse with my own children. I did not require my kids to cope with my issues, I am there for them, and I certainly never thought to take out my anger and hurt on them. Even before I remembered abusive episodes, I was determined to be a safe, protective, and unconditionally loving mother. This is redemptive.
On Mother's Day, my kids and I used to plant in the garden flowers they got for my gift. Lovely, colorful new life. However, I rarely share my feelings about my original mother because I find people are even more shocked when the abuser is the maternal unit than when it's a father. And those reactions used to reinforce my feeling of being a freak whose own mother couldn't love her. In fact of course, she was the "unnatural" one. And I am the one who became the first in generations of loving parents. It's humbling. I thank God! |
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