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Default May 31, 2019 at 07:02 PM
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Back on after several months and a lot has happened, particularly the last 2 to 3 months. A while back I posted that the abuser of my daughter had been found guilty of his crimes and it was only this day that he eventually got sentenced after numerous delays. He has gotten a life sentence by the way and by that it is a full life sentence, he will be behind bars for the rest of his natural life. He will die in prison.


Anyhow, my three children had been put into kinship care with their grandmother (my ex's mother) and I had been fighting with Social Work for a very long time to try and get my children into my care. Just one of my concerns which not only myself had brought up was that she was unfit and unable to look after them. No matter what I said to Social Work they completely ignored me. So at the end of March the grandmother died of a severe stroke. There was too much stress on her but yet she brought it on herself so I am not going to give pity to anyone like that and she wasn't good for the children either. It's a pity it took a death for changes to happen but it's not like the Social Work hadn't been told or warned about how unfit she was. Again deaf ears on the part of Social Work. I'm really pissed off with Social Work. After her passing away the children had been put into the care of the grandmothers sister who after a few weeks said she couldn't look after them anymore. She is unfit as well so no surprise there either but hey Social Work seem to think the best option is to place children with elderly unfit people. Eventually Social Work handed my three children to me, so I have had them since the end of April. I had to give up my work to give full time care to them. The children are much happier now and improving. All of this should have happened right at the beginning though instead they threw every barrier that they could in my way and prevent me getting my own children. New Social Workers came on board and the original ones have somehow disappeared. Hmmmmm? Everything changed when the new ones took over.

Further to this and it has kicked off today due to the sentencing finally been given, my ex is all over social media and I wouldn't be surprised if she is lynched. If I were her right now I would be getting as far away as possible as soon as possible. Her part in what happened is highly questionable. She is playing dumb and playing a victim. But that is only going to last so long. She has constantly lied and she has been found out on a lot of them and her own family have publicly disowned her and don't want anything to do with her, she has lost all her friends, they are not backing her up anymore. To make matters worse, I only found out today that she had moved a woman and a man into her house. What makes it bad is that the woman has had children removed from her as she had been abusing them and the man has recently come out of prison though it's not known for what. And... my ex has been claiming (as part of her 'covering her backside' excuse) that she is afraid of men, has panic attacks and can't go outside. So the smart move is to take a man into your home who has recently came out of prison. Very smart. Also she is so afraid of men that she has been dating several on websites, this is confirmed and evidence to prove it.

My only worry just now is that her name is out there now and a lot of the folks giving all the hate know her, but not only that, know the children and where they go to school. I don't want the kids to be dragged into this. I hope they stay away.
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Default Jun 01, 2019 at 03:45 PM
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Default Jun 03, 2019 at 07:48 AM
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Well... on Saturday my ex got police protection with a police car sitting outside her house all day and on Sunday she was seen leaving with bags. There's a whole level of hate for her, none of the neighbours want her on the street, she lied to them and now as it turns out lied to her own family as well as the lies to me, the health professionals and the police. No doubt she has lied to Social Work as well which partly explains why Social Work did their best in shutting me out but how could they not see through her lies in over a year? They knew of the lies she told everyone else, none of her stories added up, she contradicted herself and the stories kept changing to suit. She is a scheming and manipulative bully. She plays dumb but she knows exactly what she is doing. She's great at telling only part of a story and letting you fill in the blanks with all sorts of sordid details. It's not so much in what she says, it's what she doesn't say. She leads you on to believe something that it is not and always turns things around on you. She has never taken the blame or responsibility of her actions and always blames others for her wrongdoings. I was constantly blamed for everything when I was living with her and was always my fault. Eventually when I left her it was because she had an affair. She told the kids that she had kicked me out because I was having an affair?? Anyhow I have the guys name and mobile number of who she was having the affair with and a fair few of their texts between each other, and she was even lying to him with her sob stories. She makes herself out to be weak and vulnerable to make you pity her and take her side. But now everybody knows what she is like and it would be best for her to remain away, she is definitely not safe to show her face around town. I think she even believes her own lies, that's how she acts. She will defend the lie until proven against her then suddenly it changes to something else.
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Default Jun 09, 2019 at 05:08 AM
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She is a very manipulative and vile woman. In her contact with the kids she has been talking to them about going back to live with her, she is unsettling them. One of my daughters asked me when they were going back to their old house and the other daughter told me that I am bad and mum is good. They think they are going back with mum. Right on the point where she has requested someone neutral to come in and speak to the kids and ask how they feel living with me their dad. Way back at the beginning my youngest who was harmed the most was screaming to live with me and not go back to the house where all this happened to her, yet not one single person in authority listened to her and they insisted on placing all children back to the crime scene and with nasty manipulative people. I asked back then for either different Social Workers or for someone independent to look at it but told that couldn't be done. Just to put icing on the cake, this weekend she had contacted her eldest daughter by telephone. There are five children involved, the three youngest are mine and two older children to a previous partner. I currently have my three and the two older ones are in foster care. The two older ones are teenagers and still at school. Basically the mother told her eldest daughter that she (who was 14 at the time) was to blame for her little sister (of 4 year old) for getting abused. This vile, evil woman is blaming the abuse on her eldest daughter who had also been abused. There is evidence of her giving and even forcing alcohol on her eldest daughter (so much that she passed out) and even making the youngest drink alcohol. Despite of her actions and lies she is free from prosecution. Either she has played the mental health card or made a deal with the prosecution for a conviction on the guy that she let carry out the abuse. She couldn't have failed to notice what was happening and even helped in covering up bruises, keeping the kids hidden and making up stories about how they were bruised to anyone that saw them. She has given so many different versions of what happened that I can't believe anything she says. I personally believe she has been taking money to turn a blind eye and allow the abuse to happen. She really is that vile, she only thinks of herself, she wants the kids back because they are her income, she has lived off the state all her life. They are just money for her.
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