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I just joined after following anything pertaining to Childhood Emotional Neglect.
I'm 66 yo and recently saw a CEN article and said to myself FINALLY! I'm the youngest in my family and always felt that I got lost in the shuffle. Everyone was too busy or someone had more urgent needs....no big deal. Lots of dysfunction but I always said not as bad as other families. Both my parents are now dead. Last year my brother did something Major that interfered with my relationship with my 40 yo son. (I also have 2 daughters older than my son) When I texted him that he was out of line, he replied with an LOL - not being taken seriously is my trigger - and then turned it back on me with a santimonious lecture about my failings. I texted ugly things...he texted ugly things and he ended it with "I hope you get the help you need". The next few months was filled with childhood memories...some new memories....some memories I always had that were filled in - totally changing the impact of that memory. My reality has become a childhood filled with neglect, abuse and teasing that was actually a form of torture. My unstable parents created total dysfunction and each child turned that learned behavior onto the next one. As the youngest, I got trashed by everyone.
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So now I'm working on rebuilding myself. I feel like the person I became was a reaction to the way I was treated and I never had the chance to be who I was meant to be. I've isolated myself from all my family for a year - even my kids. My husband took me out of town for a week....nice cottage on a quiet lake. I'm done surviving and I just want to live and enjoy life. Last edited by bluekoi; Jun 14, 2019 at 10:56 AM.. Reason: Add triggger icon. Apply trigger code. |
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Hi Michigan Senior
For those who feel alone, or simply wanting to reach out for a chat without judgement......Psych Central is the place. There are many good listeners here... we're a pretty good bunch. I have been an active member of this site for 4 years. In that time I have received some really constructive feedback and connected with several others with similar challenges to myself. I have also found hanging out in the Games Forums to be a welcome distraction in times of stress... a great way to clear my head, meet like minded others, and have some well needed fun. New members benefit greatly from perusing the many forums available here...lots to explore. Also after 5 approved posts members have the option to join the chatrooms..or chat one on one with other members. Should you have any questions on navigating this site, please don't hesitate to private message me or any of the other Community Liaisons who will be more than happy to help. Just click on the screen name above my avatar. Please be kind & generous to yourself Michigan Senior, and welcome to P.C __________________ The devil whispered in my ear, "You cannot withstand the storm." I whispered back, "I am the storm." |
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Hello Michigan Senior: Thank you for sharing your struggle. Since this is your first post, here on PC, welcome to Psych Central. (By the way, you mentioned you're 66. I'm 70!) One additional forum that may be of interest to you would be the relationships & communication forum. Here's a link:
https://psychcentralforums.com/relat...communication/ And then, since you're a bit older, the seniors' lounge may be of interest: https://psychcentralforums.com/seniors-lounge/ Plus... a lot of us older folks tend to hang out in the games forum. So here's a link to that one too: https://psychcentralforums.com/games/ You mentioned "following anything pertaining to Childhood Emotional Neglect." I wasn't sure what-all that might include here on PC. So here's a link to a blog, from Psych Central's archives, on the subject of healing from CEN plus a link to one additional article on the subject. Hopefully these are not things you've already seen: Healing from CEN | Childhood Emotional Neglect Recovering from Childhood Neglect I hope you find PC to be of benefit. __________________ "I may be older but I am not wise / I'm still a child's grown-up disguise / and I never can tell you what you want to know / You will find out as you go." (from: "A Nightengale's Lullaby" - Julie Last) |
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