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HD7970GHZ
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Hi all,
This is a question for everyone. Please share your thoughts and insights. Typically when someone survives trauma, their perspective about the world shifts dramatically. What once appeared to be a safe and trusting world - soon becomes dark and scary. We lose faith in humanity and begin to question human nature; are humans inherently good? Are they inherently bad? Is it something in between? How can those who abuse us do so without feeling an ounce of remorse and why do so many humans in positions of power abuse with impunity? The lines that separate good people from bad becomes lost in our desperation to make sense of the world after experiencing trauma, and in the end everyone becomes a potential threat. If one human being can abuse us, is it not possible that others may do the same? All humans are potential threats. Then we go into isolation. We retreat from life and hide from everyone because if our abusers could pull the carpet from under our feet - so too could any other human being... We don't trust anyone and (arguably) for good reason... But are we missing out? Or, are we simply able to understand the world more accurately as a result of our traumas and thus, the smarter ones? What do you all think? Thanks, HD7970ghz __________________ "stand for those who are forgotten - sacrifice for those who forget" "roller coasters not only go up and down - they also go in circles" "the point of therapy - is to get out of therapy" "don't put all your eggs - in one basket" "promote pleasure - prevent pain" "with change - comes loss" |
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I never saw the world as a scary place. I survived a childhood of fatherlessness and abuse by a mentally violent mother....molestation and poverty I joined the army right out of high school; married an abuser, got a divorce after 31 years; and there is much more, but I guess I was born with a free spirit standing up and talking back; I still see the world with wonder and hopel My life story won a scholarship and I started school at 60! I refused to let all of the abuse define who I was/am....When we educate ourselves, we can form good boundaires and not allow any abuse in our lives.
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Sadly, my view of the world is quite cynical. I have difficulty trusting people and the trauma I suffered from my childhood has greatly impacted my romantic relationships. I almost always believe someone has an ulterior motive in befriending me and for that reason, I live the life of a hermit. I feel cheated and betrayed by my own mother. During my twenties, I had "friends" who dragged me into the drug world, where I found an escape from the hatred I felt within. I never hated anyone, only myself. Sadly, my mother passed away 9 years ago and the hope I had that she would change died as well. That feeling is somewhat bittersweet.
Luckily, this cynicism has never resulted in job instability, where I still have the same job for the last 11 or so years. In that way, I am fortunate. |
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I had extensive trauma and don't really trust anyone. I didn't "survive" it, I was raised in it. But I believe in the goodness of people. I believe that because *I* am a good person. I see good people around me all the time. I know it is human nature to seek connection with others, and to bond with others. I see in myself that I am too afraid to bond with others because of my experiences. But I see that other people can bond, and that it appears to be genuine and safe. But I cannot do it.
Yes, I know there are some truly awful human beings in the world. There always will be. But I think on the whole most human beings are just trying to do the best they can and have good intent. Even though most are good some are incredibly awful. Yes, I think I am missing out on a lot of good stuff because I won't risk any more of the bad. |
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