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Trig Aug 24, 2019 at 02:51 AM
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Ever since I was young(about 6) I've had the same dreams of me being sexually abused. The thing is is that not only is it reoccurring still(I'm 15, 16 in 2 months) but the Male in my dream is my dad. I talked to him about it and he told me he'd never harm a child. I believe him still, even though my anxiety doesn't trust anyone. I talked to my sister and she told me that sometimes things happen and your brain blocks memories out and then when you reminisce about it, someone else comes up. This is apparently something she suffered with. The only person I could see doing this to me at 5 or under is my extended family "grammy's" husband who I will call justin for his confidentiality. I grew up watching 'Justin' beat my grandmother. The scariest memory is her being held against a wall and him punching her and scratching her. When I was 12, her and I got in a car accident. I cant live with her anymore because they found methamphetamine. Basically all I want is closure so that hopefully these dreams can stop. I havent told my MH professionals because I'm scared if they report it to DHS. I've been bottling it up.

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Hello Rainbowboy: I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to Psych Central.

I'm sorry you are struggling with these difficult dreams. I think it's great you were able to discuss them with your dad! I know you wrote you haven't talked with your mental health professionals about your dreams. And I can understand your concern. But if these dreams continue to occur, this may be something you will want to discuss with your therapist if you're seeing one. In the meantime, perhaps writing about it here on PC will be of some help. Here's a link to an article, from Psych Central's archives, that outlines a technique for eliminating recurring nightmares:

How to Eliminate Recurring Nightmares

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Hi, they can't arrest someone that did something that long ago without proof. You can heal in therapy whether or not you tell them his name or not. I'm sorry you are struggling.
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Ever since I was young(about 6) I've had the same dreams of me being sexually abused. The thing is is that not only is it reoccurring still(I'm 15, 16 in 2 months) but the Male in my dream is my dad. I talked to him about it and he told me he'd never harm a child. I believe him still, even though my anxiety doesn't trust anyone. I talked to my sister and she told me that sometimes things happen and your brain blocks memories out and then when you reminisce about it, someone else comes up. This is apparently something she suffered with. The only person I could see doing this to me at 5 or under is my extended family "grammy's" husband who I will call justin for his confidentiality. I grew up watching 'Justin' beat my grandmother. The scariest memory is her being held against a wall and him punching her and scratching her. When I was 12, her and I got in a car accident. I cant live with her anymore because they found methamphetamine. Basically all I want is closure so that hopefully these dreams can stop. I havent told my MH professionals because I'm scared if they report it to DHS. I've been bottling it up.
first things first you are a teen ager so let me say that its normal for teens to have sexualized dreams. and its also normal for children as young as you were when the dreams started to dream about sex. lets put it this way 15 years ago was 2004, there were tv shows including children's movies that showed romance, love and in my opinion came dangeriously close to porn for children. it was even discovered that a Disney employee was imbedding sexual content into Disney movies. add to that parents sometimes take children to PG rated movies because they are children's movies, and those have mild sexual content in them. theres also tv commercials, and no one is a stranger to those pop ups no matter what website you visit....

my point is having sexualized dreams as a child and teen does not say a person was abused. theres other things that are looked at now days then just dreams when there is no evidence.

you are a minor so yes if you tell someone it will get reported. my suggestion is since you already told a sister the secrets out of the bag. your sister is human and isn't perfect. sooner or later she will tell someone either an accidental blurt during a family get together or together with friends and her friends tell their parents, or out of anger because the two of you start fighting about something or just because she really cares about what happens to you. So that cats out of the bag and someone already knows and theres a possibility of it coming back to bite you in the behind what do you do?

you get ahead of the bite. you tell on your terms. yes it will get reported because you are a minor, and yes DHS will investigate. its the whole USA law.

heres what will happen if you were in my state.....

someone from DHS will come to a place where you can talk all alone with them. they will talk with you with out the parents knowing when and where. this is so that parents cant influence your answers. they will ask you questions. they will also get a court paper allowing them to talk to your doctors to find out any evidence. you see even the mildest form of abuse that we don't think leaves evidence does leave evidence. evidence like what your body looks like during your normal school physicals, times you went in for shots and colds, flu's broken bones, sprains, infections, complaints and comments that you have told the doctor when you were 6, 7 all the way to your present age. and more, all these things that doctors document on your files since you were first seen by a doctor is called evidence. DHS will also read your school files that the schools keep on you, even those if you went to head start or preschool. teachers have to keep very detailed records about children, the activities, grades, how they behave, whether they appeared to be having problems emotionally of physically....lots of stuff.

then if the evidence matches up with what you tell them during your private interview then DHS contact the parents for their private interview. if theres a problem matching things of what the parents say with all the evidence then the child is removed to a short term foster home while DHS interviews relatives and does background searches and more investigating of the abuse "allegations" (don't let that word scare you, its just a big word that means someone feels they may have been abused) you will also have to go through a special kind of physical to match your body today with when you said the abuse happened. you will be given a psychiatrist and therapist who will talk with you and give you some tests to find out if you have any mental problems and whether the abuse happened of if this is just a dream.

then when its safe for you to be returned to your parents because the one that abused you was found, or because the allegation was just a dream, you will be returned home.
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