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Trig Oct 04, 2019 at 08:38 PM
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My parents and 2 of my siblings hate me.
I'm 26 years old but I want to take you back as far as I can remember to where the hate has started.
I was 8 the first time I can remember my mother calling me a *****. She seemed to have always hated me. She has hit me and put me down since I was little. She would call me ugly and insult my intelligence and physically hit me. My father is almost as bad if not worse in my opinion because he would know about my mother and not do anything. The first time my mother gave me a black eye I called my father and he said "what do you want me to do about it I'm 1,000 miles away". He was a truck driver. You also need to know I have 3 brothers. Two are in their 30s and the other is only 9. My mother was abusive to me and my older brothers. When I was a teenager I would try to leave and go on a walk just to get out and away from all of it. I would always come back. I tried to run away once but couldn't make it far and I was scared so I called my dad. He came and got me and it was not good. He hit me with a switch and didn't care that I left because my mom hit me. I finally decided to tell on them. I told my preacher and was going to tell the police the next day. My parents took me home and made me afraid to tell on them. They said I'd never see my brothers again. I went back to my preacher and told him I was lying with my dad and one of his friends in the room. My parents painted me out to be a spoiled brat who was throwing a fit about a guy. I have always thought it was crazy how people believed my parents even when I had black eyes. I regret not telling the truth on them. Flash forward to now and I see my parents 5 days a week. Only because I watch my youngest brother for free. I watch my brother 12 or more hours a day. I feed him and stuff for free. I've cleaned my parents house multiple times for free and multiple other things I do for them. They still disrespect me. It's more my father now than my mother. My mother now generally tries to get a long but usually wants something. My dad just tries to annoy me on purpose. He will openly admit to it. He thinks it's fun. When we disagree he gets in my face and tells over me and interrupts me. Then he'll act like I'm the problem.
My brother hates me. He thinks everything is a competition and I don't understand why. I am doing good money wise and I own my own house but I have never bragged about it or said anything negative to my brother about his situation. Me and his family all lived together 6 years ago. I paid half of rent and bills and helped with food. I lived with them for 8 months. I moved into a 3 bedroom house and that's when the hatred began. He felt like his family deserved the house and I should give it to them. I got a good paying job and he was upset about that too. Recently he was mad because I wouldn't let him Barrow money but I've let him Barrow money multiple times and he rarely pays it back. He has followed me to Walmart and cussing at me. He has drove by my house multiple times. He tries to say I never come over but seriously that is the farthest from the truth lie I've ever heard. He acts like I owe him something.
My question is what do i do. I know logically i should stay away from these people but i love my little brother like he's my own. I got a job at 16 so my mom could stay home with him and I watched him on my days off and I've watched him till this. I can't just leave my brother. He loves being with me and misses me when hes not here. I don't know what to do when in t comes to my brother. I would like to see my nieces but I don't want to argue with him and that seems to be all he wants.
What do I do. Is there a way to make my family better or what.

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Default Oct 05, 2019 at 12:58 AM
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Honestly at this point I can’t imagine them changing to be honest.

The only thing you can learn to do is put up boundaries and limits in what you will allow them to do or treat you.

How are you able to work and own a home yet watch your brother for 12 hours all the time ??

Do you have a Therapist? If not you really should.. you need help to process all the emotional and physical abuse you suffered and the hell that still gets thrown on you. A Therapist can help you learn what boundaries you need and how to effectively use them to protect your own well being.

Do your parents also abuse your brother???

I’m sorry your in such a terrible situation.

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You should consider therapy first and foremost. Do they abuse your 9 year old brother? Your older brother sounds like he stalks you and that is not ok either. I know you feel like your 9 year old brother is your responsibility but he is not. If you feel like will be abused by your parents without you helping him you need to call the authorities and report them. Would you ever consider getting custody of him>?

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Default Oct 05, 2019 at 02:57 PM
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I am so very sorry for what you have been through. No human being deserves that. You must be a very strong and determined person to make it through all that and still have enough left in the tank to get what must have been very good jobs and buy a house at your age. It is impressive. That said, as alluded to above, the million dollar question is, is your little brother being mistreated right now? Is he?

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