[Xynesthesia2]

I don't often come to this forum and have never posted here before (don't identify as an abuse survivor, I am more just interested), but some of you might find this interesting. A website (and a lot more online if you want to explore) by someone who identifies as a narcissist socio/psychopath but apparently uses this online medium, in part, as his own learning tool and to empower abused people on the go.

It is centered around the so-called "narcissistic abuse", the popular narcissist-empath dynamic, even though I personally think narcissism has become way too much a superficial buzzword these days; it is thrown on nearly everything unwanted.

The site takes a bit of time to get used to in terms of navigation and the articles can be quite disturbing to some people, so please read with that prior awareness.

I personally find it entertaining as well and the writer is definitely very articulate. I command him/her (he anonymously identifies as a male) for this type of endeavor and business instead of becoming a psychotherapist, for example, or many other shady positions, although I am sure he is evil enough as is.

https://narcsite.com/

[MrsA]

I've been curious about this guy too, but haven't really wanted to read his writing. My impression is that it is another platform for a narcissist to get attention. But if it can help other narcissists gain self awareness and self control, the site may have some social value.

Regarding what you said about the term "narcissist" becoming overused, it is because people don't usually differentiate between normal levels of narcissism and pathological narcissism.

Every healthy person needs some degree of narcissism to ensure their survival. Natural narcissism makes babies demand food and attention from carers. And in adults, it ensures your survival by motivating competition for resources and social status.

Abusive narcissists usually have pathological narcissism (NPD) where a mental health problem lets this trait get out of control and become dangerous. I also hate the way people keep labeling others narcissists over social media behavior. I think that pathological narcissists are more likely to call normal people narcissists because they can't bear to share the spotlight and perceive other people's self-esteem or success as offensive traits.

I've only recently realized that a close family member is probably a narcissist. She calls me a narcissist and says all her friends are narcissists behind their backs. It's hard to spot them up close. For 30 years I thought she was a good person with a bad temper and that her occasional violent acts was just immaturity she would eventually outgrow.

The thing I find repulsive is that my narcissistic sister is really proud of daring to say or do things that are out of other people's comfort zones, as if it is a form of superiority. One of these things was, she would glare at babies and toddlers in checkout lines and loudly say "I hate children." When people she doesn't like are mentioned, she would declare "I hope she gets raped." These statements somehow make her feel proud or special.

Thanks for giving your opinion about that website. I might have a look one day if I think I have the stomach for it.

[Mendingmysoul]

In my quest to find the answers to certain experiences in my life I started to read about narcissism. Watched you tube,read books,read blogs online.I have read the writings on this site almost every day for a year.Lo and behold his writings are so similar to the behaviours of some people in my life.I could have easily written that as my experiences. He is a good writer too.

[Fuzzybear]

Thanks for sharing this link and for giving your opinion on it. I might have a look at that website (if I can bear to )

[Xynesthesia2]

One interesting thing about the blog is how well it recreates a form of the dynamic that often goes on between abusers and their victims. There are very active interactions on the site, many people comment and the owner engages with them. He says he does not use the blog to get attention and does not manipulate people there but it is obviously not true. What he does there is definitely more subtle and benign than the stories he writes, but very clearly present. There is a large bunch of commenters that idealize and adore him, knowing full well what he is. Some explicitly say it is addictive but much better to be hooked on a website and a virtual stranger than the narcissists in their life. It is also obvious that the guy wants to dominate and control the people on the blog, when something is not to his liking and when posters challenge him, he can be quite condescending and even hostile.

I definitely have the impression that a lot of the persona, stories etc he presents may be fake, but I guess that's expectable from someone like him. His presentation is definitely superficial in that he makes himself look very successful, kinda invincible and does not talk about his own inner chaos and suffering much other than passing references. But maybe that's good because it keeps the focus on people resolving their abusive situations without too much sympathy for the perpetrator he represents. For me, his blog and other works are things better explored from a distance, without engaging with him. Don't know how he is in the paid consultations he offers, many of the commenters speak very highly of them, but I am not sure they are unbiased. The information he offers is very good but more on the practical side, there is no compassion and emotional relating in it.

[Open Eyes]

If he is a narcissist he is a manipulator and gaslighter and takes pride in being that way.