My Affirmations

I wanted to share something I wrote and get some feedback from everyone.

These are affirmations that I read into my phone speaker and I will play them back while relaxing. I don't beleive all of them yet, but I am hoping they become more true in my life.

You can replace "God" with "higher power" or "universe", etc. if you like.

Also, I am only speaking about adults. I don't assert myself on children this way.

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I don’t have to fix everything for everyone. I know I can feel other people's feelings, but there is a lesson in it for them. If I jump in, I’m depriving them of valuable learning.

It's ok to let someone be upset. Another persons response to my thoughts and feelings is not my fault.

It's ok to be upset with someone else's thoughts or feelings. My reaction is mine to keep. It makes me who I am. I have a past and that makes me special.

Other people may never change their behavior. It's ok to make a critical judgement of someone else's behavior. I am not a bad person for labeling others with bad behavior. I have strong gut feelings for good and bad, right and wrong. This makes me a strong person.

I am allowed to say the following with a firm and loving tone at any time or place:
No! I don't want you to do that. I don't like it. Please don't do that. It hurts my feelings. It makes me upset. No!

I don't need to feel guilty for my opinions. I am proud of my well thought out opinions. They make me who I am.

My thoughts and feelings are important to share even if it makes others upset. I can take my time to calmy and confidently explain myself. I have the right to speak up for myself. I can give myself the same level of attention as I give others. I am equal with others.

I have PTSD from childhood abuse and relationships with cheaters and abusers and that's ok. I am rebuilding my self esteem, self awareness, and self assertiveness every day that I am conscious. I am very perceptive when it comes to peoples' behaviors and personalities. I am physically, mentally, and spiritually strong. I have a God who cares about me. I am a child of the one true God. I have many talents and abilities. I have a strong foundation that cannot be shaken. If everything was taken from me I could rebuild myself.

I do not need to live in the past or replay past trauma in my mind. This is self harm. I can live in the present. I can have peace of mind. I have tools to help calm me and put me back in control of my mind and heal.

I don't have to put more time into understanding others than I do for myself. I am worthy of my own time. I do not need to understand others more than myself. I am independent of others. I am able to take care of myself. Others do not depend on me for their self preservation.

I am not deserving of abuse, neglect, or disrespect. I deserve love, attention, and respect. I am worthy of love. I have love to give. I have a God who loves me as His child. He will take care of the needs I cannot. He will give me the love I cannot. He will help others I cannot.

I cannot please everyone. I will not take care of everyone. I have chosen specific people to be in my life and I can choose to leave others out. The people in my life deserve my love, attention, and respect. People outside of my life do not need me. I will take care of the people in my life, but I will not allow them to take advantage of me, abuse me, shame me, fool me, push me, silence me, grieve me, or traumatize me. I will stand up for my family. I will stand up for myself!

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Any thoughts?

Dear guy1111,

Thank you so much for that. I think your affirmations are very helpful and will lots of people here. You are so kind to share them. Best to you!

Sincerely yours, Yao Wen