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Default Nov 05, 2020 at 07:17 PM
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I am sorry MsLady it’s tough to be the subject of a smear campaign or a narcissistic rage vent when they don’t get their way. I guess he has some flying monkeys he runs to that believe his BS and show you those stares and dirty looks.
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Default Nov 06, 2020 at 07:40 AM
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Covert Abuse

1) Grooming/ Re-grooming
2) Gaslighting / Distorting Reality
3) Confusion / Muddying the waters / Word twisting
4) Playing the Victim
5) Accusing the Victim
6) Hidden Blame Shifting / Guilt Tripping
7) Subtle Putdowns/ Shaming
8) Circular Conversations
9) Diverting / Evading
10) Denying /Minimizing / Rationalizing
11) Feigning ignorance, Innocence, or Confusion
12) Induced Helplessness
13) Rewriting History
14) Lying by Omission
15) False Remorse and False Apologies
16) Punishing / Silent Treatment
17) Covert Control
18) Isolation
19) Covert Intimidation through Fear Mongering
20) Sabotage
21) Intermittent Reinforcement
22) Covert Physical Aggression
23) Accusations
24) Fake Empathy
25) Image Management
26) Smear Campaign
My husband has used all of these tactics on me.

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Default Nov 06, 2020 at 09:13 AM
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Those 26 items are VERY accurate along with the one added. It is fascinating, scary and a gift to finally wake up as see these people for what they really are. To be able to quietly observe how they operate now that we know what to look for. They are very pathological and don't care about anyone except themselves. They NEVER change for the better. My mother used to create severe unnecessary drama, sit back and watch the fallout, because it was all about her.This was every day of my life; half of it spent being psychologically punished by her or me hiding because I had NO idea what was happening. I was a slave to her covert narcissism and had no idea for decades. Honestly, I only was able to put the pieces together after she died. Then I get hooked on a covert narc therapist, repeating the same dynamic, just a different platform. Dumped him recently and he blamed me for it all......according to him, I the sick one! Typical BS from an abuser.
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Default Nov 11, 2020 at 07:10 PM
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I can associate with all of these.

MsLady.... I love Helena! Are you in her C2C group?

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I can associate with all of these.

MsLady.... I love Helena! Are you in her C2C group?
I don't know Helena.. what group?
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