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Default Jun 16, 2020 at 06:20 PM
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Hi all!

I'm relatively new to the "seeking mental health" community, so I apologize if i'm wasting your time with this! I'm not entirely sure if I should get therapy or not, so I figured posting on a forum would be the best option for me until I decide.

If I were to get therapy, it would all be out of pocket. Call me petty, but my mother has been really cracking down on me to get a therapist, but I don't want or need her help, because she just tends to make however i'm feeling worse. So, before exploring options that are 100s of dollars a month, i thought this would be a good idea.

I thought this would be a good place to post all of this. I have been sexually assaulted twice. I ended up in a relationship with the person who did it the first time, and though I have mentally blocked most of it out, I know that it has messed with my body image in more ways then I could count. I have also bounced form one toxic friend group to another for most of my teen years. However, I am now in college and in an amazing group of people. I have a loving, supportive boyfriend, and it would seem like I have my life together.

However, my internal struggle could not be more turbulent. Over this last year, I find that my mental has started to affect relationships that i had before this all started, and the new relationships i've just formed. It's straining all of them, and I don't know how much more of me my friends and boyfriend can take. I know that in order to love them, I need to love myself. But my self esteem has never been lower...Help? Quarantine isn't helping my mental state, but then again, it hasn't really changed all that much from October.

Of course there's more I could talk about, but i feel like this is a good intro? i don't really know what I'm doing and I refuse to ask my family for help, so I'm asking random people on the internet.
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Default Jun 17, 2020 at 09:25 AM
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It sounds like you could definitely benefit from therapy. That said, my advice is to interview a few therapist's and decide upon which one feels best to you. Don't see a therapist that you think you should, but don't feel right about. That can end up creating a major tangle of problems.

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Default Jun 17, 2020 at 03:06 PM
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I have been sexually assaulted twice. I ended up in a relationship with the person who did it the first time, and though I have mentally blocked most of it out, I know that it has messed with my body image in more ways then I could count.

However, my internal struggle could not be more turbulent. Over this last year, I find that my mental has started to affect relationships that i had before this all started, and the new relationships i've just formed. It's straining all of them, and I don't know how much more of me my friends and boyfriend can take.

Of course there's more I could talk about, but i feel like this is a good intro?
Ok, I get the financial bit. If you're wanting to start here first, it'll help if you can elaborate how this internal struggle is affecting you and your new relationships. For example, what's happening now? How's your body image affecting you today? What are you hoping to improve in your life, specifically?

I agree with your mom, therapy is a good idea. This is a sensitive topic so I'm not sure how willing you are about getting into it on an open forum. Sometimes the cost is worth it.. even if it's for a couple of visits.
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Hello adelin: Thank you for bringing your concern here to PC. I believe this is your first post. So... welcome to Psych Central.

I'm not a mental health professional. But from my lay-person's perspective, I would think seeking the services of a mental health professional might be an important step for you to take. At least I would think it would be worth a try. Do keep in mind, though, that not every therapist works well with every client. Sometimes it can take a few tries to find the right therapist for you.

Here are links to 10 articles from Psych Central's archives. The first 4 deal with healing from sexual assault & emotional wounds as well as on coping with flashbacks. The remaining 6 talk about knowing when it's time to see a therapist & finding the right therapist for you:

Healing from Sexual Assault

Dealing with Sexual Trauma: 3 Phases

8 Tips for Healing Emotional Wounds

Coping with Flashbacks

5 Sure Signs It's Time to See a Therapist

https://psychcentral.com/blog/5-reas...e-a-therapist/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/why-se...rong-not-weak/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/5-tips...ght-therapist/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/tips-o...ght-therapist/

https://psychcentral.com/find-therapist/

I hope you find PC to be of benefit.

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