I think my uncle is abusive...

I really don't like how my uncle treats me... He'll do really nice things for me.... But then he'll ask me to do things that I am uncomfortable with or sometimes even illegal and if I tell him no he either guilt trips, get really angry and starts slamming things, yells at me, then he tells other relatives his story, always twisted to make me sound like the bad person, and then they harass me... I'm 37 almost 38 and I feel like I'm being treated worse than a child... My case manager through mental health became involved and he wants me to get a payee because the number one thing my uncle tricks me out of is money...

I'll give you the latest incident... I have my own apartment now, but I was so sad over the loss of my husband in December due to illness that I stayed with my uncle and his housemate for awhile... My uncle got the idea if nobody was in my apartment then maybe my uncle's grandson and his girlfriend should stay there because they kept getting kicked out of places... Umm those kids did damage to my apartment, my uncle was making me pay all the bills and groceries for them too. I told my social workers and APS got involved after my uncle yelled at a social worker over the phone, I had a meltdown so bad I had to stay in the mental ward for awhile... My landlord banned the kids from my place. Later incredibly my uncle wanted the kids back in my apartment saying I had to keep it a secret... Then my uncle got his daughter involved and she threatened to call the police on ME for abusing her dad... She had the situation all twisted... So I left and went back to my place to live.

Today, he got mad at me again because I wouldn't drive his grandson quite a distance to pick up his girlfriend... Well I threatened to just go back home... So he checks my van (he's a mechanic) and buys oil and brake fluid for it, that made me more likely to go and I did... But still his way of making me do things seems totally manipulative to me and I'm tired of it...

That is really manipulative. Is there a way to completely avoid your relatives? Mine are a bit like that, always spreading stories about how they did things for me and that I am ungrateful. You can't reason with people like that so I hope you find a way to protect your own property and finances. I'm so glad you have a social worker. I hope they can help you out of this.

The only way to stop his abuse is no contact.