advertisement
Reply
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 10-07-2019, 08:29 AM   #1
isotrope010
Junior Member
isotrope010 has no updates.
 
Member Since: Jan 2019
Location: found object
Posts: 13
Default How to talk to people who yell and scream?? Who else are they yelling at?

My neighbors are yelling again. They scream and yell all the times, making fools of themselves and everyone around them. They are high on steroids or something like that. Steroids and sex making. They are almost 50 and I know they still have sex. They also abuse animals. They do not want to do any cleaning, so they hire people to clean. I heard a yelp and squeal and I looked out the window and two very tall screamers were towering over a dog, the dog walked away limping. Later that evening I took the dog home with me. He is a stray, but keeps himself clean. His ankle is hurt bad, I won't let him out of my sight, not even if someone is blocking my doorway, not even for 2 minutes. My mom says we can't keep him here. She says we need to surrender him to the pound. I am very sad about that.
isotrope010 is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
Hugs from:

advertisement
Old 10-12-2019, 03:08 PM   #2
Access Denied
Member
 
Access Denied's Avatar
Access Denied has no updates.
 
Member Since: Sep 2019
Location: UK
Posts: 298 (SuperPoster!)
70 hugs
given
Default Re: How to talk to people who yell and scream?? Who else are they yelling at?

Quote:
Originally Posted by isotrope010 View Post
My neighbors are yelling again. They scream and yell all the times, making fools of themselves and everyone around them. They are high on steroids or something like that. Steroids and sex making. They are almost 50 and I know they still have sex. They also abuse animals. They do not want to do any cleaning, so they hire people to clean. I heard a yelp and squeal and I looked out the window and two very tall screamers were towering over a dog, the dog walked away limping. Later that evening I took the dog home with me. He is a stray, but keeps himself clean. His ankle is hurt bad, I won't let him out of my sight, not even if someone is blocking my doorway, not even for 2 minutes. My mom says we can't keep him here. She says we need to surrender him to the pound. I am very sad about that.
I am sorry you are in such a hard place about these noisy neighbours, but I advise you to tell your mum and dad, or whichever you get on best with and ask them to go and talk and get them to quieten down. Your neighbours are being very inconsiderate, especially as you are young and you don't need to hear all this.

You could listen to some quiet music on your phone to prevent hearing them. Perhaps if you have difficulty sleeping at night, listening to oceanic sounds could be very restful. Such as this website I subscribe to and my preteen daughter.

Unreal Ocean • The Ultimate Ocean & Waves Ambience

I do not think it would be at all wise if you went on your own to see them. This issue is absolutely and only for parents to sort out; after all, you are a minor and mum and dad should be only too glad to take these inconsiderate people on and get them quietened down.

You are obviously soft-hearted with animals and I really feel for you. I don';t think your mum is being a hard*** because actually, having a dog or any pet involves spending money and quite a lot of it would come out of your parent's income. Also, vet's bills if they are anything like as costly here in the UK, your mum is worried that getting the dog's injury put right, will cost a lot of money. Unless your parents have pet health insurance, the likelihood of taking that poor doggy in would probably be nil. Again, I feel sorry for your feelings.

It's quite understandable how you feel and your mum may have sounded harsh, but her concern is keeping the dog when it might need more veterinary attention, even medicine. I am very sorry, but you must respect your mum's wishes, and I know it is hard because I had a mum wh was a disciplinarian , even though she's since sadly passed away.

Being a teenager is tough. I honestly understand, not because I was a teenager once, but nearly all my patients have some kind of angst. But on the forum here, I am more than willing to listen to you.

I wish you all the best.
Access Denied is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
Old 10-12-2019, 04:14 PM   #3
isotrope010
Junior Member
isotrope010 has no updates.
 
Member Since: Jan 2019
Location: found object
Posts: 13
Default Re: How to talk to people who yell and scream?? Who else are they yelling at?

So much thanks to you for your concern. Earlier this year my neighbors would yell and scream so much I just silently wanted to kill myself. I feel bad I guess for them because they will never know. Not all doggies need vet's attention. Many animal behavioralist can correct doggie problems- so they may not all need to be so much expensive. any problem can be corrected with love and kindness and pets and praise. this is a world I don't want to live, in with only listening but not hearing or understanding. I couldn't even know myself if I hadn't found my way, but yes my mom and my dad won't even talk with them. They only yell and scream back at them. I think there is no winning this way but my way makes the most sense. I wish I could have all the money in the world so I could see what I am missing. everything is so hard. and everything is too hard all alone. even when I am surrounded by people.
isotrope010 is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
Hugs from:
"Thanks for this!" says:
Old 10-12-2019, 05:05 PM   #4
Access Denied
Member
 
Access Denied's Avatar
Access Denied has no updates.
 
Member Since: Sep 2019
Location: UK
Posts: 298 (SuperPoster!)
70 hugs
given
Default Re: How to talk to people who yell and scream?? Who else are they yelling at?

Quote:
Originally Posted by isotrope010 View Post
So much thanks to you for your concern. Earlier this year my neighbors would yell and scream so much I just silently wanted to kill myself. I feel bad I guess for them because they will never know. Not all doggies need vet's attention. Many animal behavioralist can correct doggie problems- so they may not all need to be so much expensive. any problem can be corrected with love and kindness and pets and praise. this is a world I don't want to live, in with only listening but not hearing or understanding. I couldn't even know myself if I hadn't found my way, but yes my mom and my dad won't even talk with them. They only yell and scream back at them. I think there is no winning this way but my way makes the most sense. I wish I could have all the money in the world so I could see what I am missing. everything is so hard. and everything is too hard all alone. even when I am surrounded by people.
Again, I just feel so much for you over the frustration of having such inconsiderate selfish neighbours. Are there any other neighbours or friends that your parents could call on to help? Is it worth asking your police department to talk to them?

I do understand about this poor doggy you rescued. But again, you are living under your parents' roof and have to, and I mean have to, abide by their house rules. You know, when you get older and have a place of your very own, you also will want to make house rules even for your friends, and I say this because everyone needs to be aware of one-another's thresholds. We all have limits to our patience, and having said that, only tonight I came home to hear my preteen shredding on her Fender Strat. Worn out after a 12 hour shift, I had more than a bit of the OMGodz.

Playing loud music? Think of your parentts having had a long tiring day, then switch to headphones when they want to chill back and relax with a cuppa coffee or a cool beer. My preteen agrees with me that we all need some times of quiet, though she acts much older for her 11 years going 12. And yeah, she did stop shredding on her guitar. But I did have a bellow.

Do you see a teen counsellor? Or a behavioral therapist? It would definitely help you, perhaps some CBT. Also there are breathing exercises to help lower your anger levels. Or do you have an acoustic guitar to play? I do. I have a vintage Martin D-28 whose sound is so soothing and calming after what some work days can only be described as plain awful. Having the guitar's sound box against my chest makes me feel at peace.

While I remember, you can add another layer of white noise such as falling rain to that My Noise website. It's called Online Rain Sound Generator and Forecast | Rain.today

If you have a laptop, add both to your browser's toolbar so they can mesh together. I find both sites so calming, even now.

I also wish I had all the money in the world to help make things right for my friends and online friends. But we have to at least try and make the effort to accept what we have been given and make the best of it.

Do feel welcome to contact me any time. Now I must get back to my partner. Like me, she's had quite a rough day.

All the best,

Rosie
Access Denied is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
Old 10-12-2019, 06:21 PM   #5
isotrope010
Junior Member
isotrope010 has no updates.
 
Member Since: Jan 2019
Location: found object
Posts: 13
Default Re: How to talk to people who yell and scream?? Who else are they yelling at?

If I saw a teen counselor I would tell them I have much respect for my mum and pop. and I respect my neighbors too. they do good for themselves and expect only good from others. they do accept they do not know everything, and cannot expect their son to respect their law as law when they enforce with only fear and yelling and screaming like animals morning, noon and night. my mum and pop know better. not a friendly environment for a son, actually this is considered a traumatic and violent environment. so if they want me to do something all they have to do is ask. I'm good like that, no? of course, taking my dog away in any sense is not an option !
isotrope010 is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
Old 10-12-2019, 07:21 PM   #6
Access Denied
Member
 
Access Denied's Avatar
Access Denied has no updates.
 
Member Since: Sep 2019
Location: UK
Posts: 298 (SuperPoster!)
70 hugs
given
Default Re: How to talk to people who yell and scream?? Who else are they yelling at?

Quote:
Originally Posted by isotrope010 View Post
If I saw a teen counselor I would tell them I have much respect for my mum and pop. and I respect my neighbors too. they do good for themselves and expect only good from others. they do accept they do not know everything, and cannot expect their son to respect their law as law when they enforce with only fear and yelling and screaming like animals morning, noon and night. my mum and pop know better. not a friendly environment for a son, actually this is considered a traumatic and violent environment. so if they want me to do something all they have to do is ask. I'm good like that, no? of course, taking my dog away in any sense is not an option !
I don't doubt your respect for your parents, but in my experience, not every teenager does exacty what their parents ask because at some during their lives they behave in a rebellious manner and some get very angry. While you say of being open to their asking you something, would you really do as they request without condition?

Much as your mother knows you obviously love your doggy, she like most parents has a budget to live on same as your father, and as you mentioned your dog's ankle "hurts bad", that would mean having a vet check your dog out in case it's got a fracture. Such as a tendon. And that will cost. Can you pay the vet's bill? Factor in the dog is a stray: When was its last vaccinations? You don't know that. And it's the not knowing that worries.

What if you don't have the dog checked out and it gets very sick with a disease? And animal vacs will cost! So perhaps you have the money to pay - just saying - then reason with your mum to allow you to keep the dog on the following conditions: You pay for its veterinary healthcheck, medicines if need be, food and have the time to regularly exercise it. And bag up its poop.

I don't own a dog though my blacksmith partner has a flipping enormous black cat, when it walked in to make home with us, my partner had him taken to a vet to get vaccinated. Cost? 77 + VAT for the full course with Feline Leukemia Vaccine (FeLV) plus an antibiotic plus worming tablets and a full bodily checkup. Total kitty cost, 115 + VAT. It's all money even though "Sooty" is well worth it, cats can take themselves for a walk.

Fancy taking your dog out in a Force 9 gale in piss-pouring rain after a 12 hour shift and it's pitch black outside? I should coco.
Access Denied is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
Reply

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off



All times are GMT -5. The time now is 09:16 AM.

Powered by vBulletin® — Copyright © 2000 - 2019, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.



 

advertisement

Psych Central Forums

Psych Central is the leading mental health website, overseen by mental health professionals since 1995.

 

Helplines and Lifelines

The material on this site is for informational purposes only, and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment provided by a qualified health care provider. .

Always consult your doctor or mental health professional before trying anything you read here.
Please read the full disclaimer.