[deadinside1]

So here is the issue. I had surgery on 5/25 to remove a cyst that was on my right ovary and I am also 3 almost 4 months pregnant with my first baby. Well the morning sickness for the most part is gone but since having my surgery I have been sick off and on. Well my fiance knows we cannot have sex for 2 weeks. Well he wants me to give him pleasure of another kind but with me being sick off and on since my surgery I am unable to and he just started accusing me tonight of messing around on him. This isn't the first time though.it started because I was at work and where I work at my job the cell phone service is hit and miss well when it is miss I do not get any cell service and therefore no text come thdough well he texted me several times when I had no cell service so I didn't get them til it started working again. Well later on he went to view my facebook from his and we are not friends on facebook as he had me blocked for a bit after a fight I know childish right. Well I have my settings were only my friends can see my friends list on facebook so he thought that meant I was hiding something which I am not. I love him very much but sometimes I feel like I should just leave but if I do I would be homeless as my own family will not take me in. I also have ****** credit and wouldn't be able to get a place of my own or a car. He would easily be able to take the baby from me because if I leave he would be the better suited parent even though he smokes pot daily. I do not want to lose my baby after it gets here but he reminds me all the time he could take it from me. I am just so confused.

[*Laurie*]

Welcome to PC.

It sounds like there is an awful lot of mistrust and stress in your relationship. I think it would be a great idea for you to get some therapy before your baby is born so the problems in your relationship don't spill over into parenting issues.
Best of luck to you.

[healingme4me]

One thing that I do know is that a person cannot be claimed as unfit to parent due to their financial situation. Has he used that threat with you, at this point?
There's no harm in making a plan starting now to look out for yours and your baby's future. Leaving is something that need not be of an urgent nature.
I've been in a predicament, myself. The accusations began during my second pregnancy. Not responding immediately to any text or phone call was a hair trigger that was much like living in the twilight zone. That experience during that pregnancy started the wheels spinning for me. Turbulent times, indeed.
You are stronger than you realize. And being pregnant opens up a world of resources that you may not have known of before.
Have you contacted your local community center to see what services can be made available despite your credit woes?
Therapy can be helpful. Maybe a licensed social worker can help you navigate your desire to love your boyfriend but your realization that he's demanding attention from you in ways that doesn't place you in a place of compassionate consideration? His demands seem a little self centered, would you agree?

[Saunders]

It sounds as if the relationship is stressing you out. I don't have the same issue, but my boyfriend can stress me in different ways. That's why I decided to participate in the forum. I would take it one step at a time. You are working, that's positive. What can you do to make your situation less stressful? Please let us know how you are doing.

[possum220]

Welcome to PC.

Totally agree with Laurie and healingme4me.

Your fiance sounds like a selfish manipulative boy. Do you really want to marry him? Get help now.

If you want to stay with him, you and him both need help to make it all work, he needs to trust you

[PumpkinPieHead]

That is very disturbing that he feels you should be giving him sexual pleasure when you are both pregnant and recovering from a surgery. That is a huge red flag.
Like other posters said, he can't take your baby away because of financial situation. I would go down to the women's shelter and ask for help. They have many resources available.

[earthlove]

Definite Red Flags. This situation does not sound safe.
It isn't out of the norm for men to be overprotective when starting a family. They might be a little moody, get worried if you come home late, might display some jealousy if they see you talking with a man they don't know. They will not be unreasonable, play mind games or make threats about your livelihood or your child's.
Previous posters made some good suggestions. Please take the steps to get out before it is too late.

[88Butterfly88]

Leaving would be ideal but it's a tough situation. Maybe you can go to a shelter?