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Jul 30, 2018 at 08:28 AM
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I am 10 weeks pregnant and in an abusive relationship, both physical and mental. I'm scared to leave, he has agreed to let me go to my moms to have the baby, but every time I try to put a timeline together he shuts it down. I am trying so hard to be strong in this, but it's so hard. Yesterday was my birthday, he didn't make it special, but he wasn't terrible, until he came to my job, imma bartender, and a man was talking to me about toll roads and flat tires (he needed to be cut off) he wouldn't talk to me, and then ended up leaving. I knew what was waiting for me when I got home. He accused me of "flirting" and hit my in my face a few times. I'm so tired of living this way. I'm not happy.
I feel like my entire life has been thus way, why do some people have it so good, and others struggle with simple day to day life. |
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Jul 30, 2018 at 09:11 AM
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If you don't want your child to see this, get away. That baby already feels the stress from it
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Jul 30, 2018 at 11:37 AM
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Can you manage to survive on your own? There's services available to pregnant women.
If you need to get to your mom's, why share a timetable with him? |
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Jul 30, 2018 at 12:39 PM
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There are options available for you, a battered woman’s shelter, calling the police, get a restraining order and go to your moms when he’s gone. If he tries to contact you at your moms call the police. They WILL enforce the restraining order. Anyway you need to leave. It’s only going to get worse, not better. Think of your child...do you want to raise a child in such a toxic environment?
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Jul 30, 2018 at 12:58 PM
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I strongly agree with what others on this thread have posted. I also suspect that you know very well what the best choice for you and your child would be, and I encourage you to be honest with yourself and your child. Best of luck to you.
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Jul 30, 2018 at 08:06 PM
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Maybe you could have a chat to your mum and see if you could move there now? He doesn't deserve you.
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Aug 01, 2018 at 09:18 PM
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If you are in the US there is the National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) that can help you make a plan for leaving so you can do it as safely as possible. They can walk you through the steps. If you aren't in the US there may be similar numbers in your country. I am sorry you are in this awful situation and hope you can get out safely.
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Aug 04, 2018 at 11:17 AM
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Aug 04, 2018 at 03:46 PM
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Would you please give us some feed back or an update? We are all worried about you and your baby.
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Aug 04, 2018 at 09:27 PM
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Please talk to your mom and any other friends you have. Please seek help. ❤️
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Aug 10, 2018 at 05:04 AM
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From a grown up survivor of an abusive father in which my dad was abusive to my mum, it doesn’t get better. Pregnancy can make men more abusive and you need all the support you can. I don’t know your personal circumstances, but once emotionally and physically abusive, most, if not all, continue to be.
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Sep 12, 2018 at 06:51 PM
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Please post again. Are you OK?
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