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This is quite embarrassing for me to ask so I'm asking here.. im very nervous about going to my doctor as it is so intimate!!
I was sleeping, when my partner woke me and began to kiss me. We then began to have sex, but I could not understand what we were doing. It was like my brain had completely glitched, I suddenly had no idea what sexual intercourse was and felt I had no idea on what to do. I enjoyed it, it felt good... but I couldn't understand what was happening or how long it was going to last etc.. When we stopped.. I went to the bathroom and I still felt that way while cleaning up for 5-10 minutes or so. After, I began to cry because it scared me so much, I couldn't explain to him what had just happened and he said maybe I was just still asleep. I have never experienced anything like this, I'm almost 30 and it really scared me!!! Should I be concerned? Or is my anxiety playing up and I should forget it? Thanks in advance Last edited by bluekoi; Dec 17, 2018 at 12:09 PM.. Reason: Add triggger icon. |
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I think it is a good time to see your OBGYN. I am sorry to say that what your partner did, could be considered a sexual offense and your doctor is trained to walk you through the steps to healing your mind and body. Be sure to be firm with your feelings to your partner and tell him you are uncomfortable with what happened. Ask as many questions as you need to and if he is violent in any way, don't hesitate to call an emergency response team (police 911). Here are other hotlines and crisis resources: Domestic & Teen Dating Violence (English & Spanish) 800-992-2600 Sexual Assault Hotline (24/7, English & Spanish) 800-223-5001 National Domestic Violence Hotline 800-799-SAFE Please also find time to read about what you are experiencing: Preventing Interpersonal Violence in Relationships, Part 1 Recognizing the Signs of Domestic Violence 11 Warning Signs of Emotional Abuse in Relationships |
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Thank you for the answer!! The strange thing was, I felt completely aware and awake. When we began to have sex, I took my pants off. It was like sex had just disappeared from my memory completely, when we started, it was almost as if I suddenly felt like I had never done it before. I have, I have 3 children.
I'm not sure even how to explain it, just a temporary loss of memory. I'm going to mention it to my doctor.. it's just awkward to explain. Lol. |
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Thats' ok. But I think we may need to add a trigger warning here. When I wake up, I feel refreshed and sometimes need a cup of coffee to motivate my body, but my mind is awake. Are you taking medications? Has your relationship with your partner moved passed the point of verbal communication.
I highly recommend finding a way to speak with your OBGYN, even if just to visit and say you had sex and leave out the personal backstory. But if your mind was not present, you might also consider speaking to a psychologist, a psychiatrist or seeking a therapist to work with. I am sorry I can't be of more help here. Talk to your current doctor and see what they offer. I also recommend working on your relationship with your partner and researching domestic violence. Yes, I agree, this subject is a little awkward |
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I left a violent relationship, have stayed in a women shelter so I do recognize signs. I do want to add, thank you for spreading awareness of DV!!! Its super important!!!
However, this was completely consensual, I was aware of that I was kissing him and the act felt more routine and instinctive for me, like I wasnt sure what it was I was doing, it just felt normal. Such a horrible experience afterwards, but not during. I am on medication for anxiety and depression, have been for 2 years or so now. Recently I have been having heart palpitations, I had an ecg done 3 days ago and waiting for my follow up with the doc... maybe this is a sign something is wrong. I will bring it up with my doc on Wednesday. Thank you for the answers. It was such an odd experience. X |
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How did it go at the doctors? Hope they could give you some explanations for it. Heart palpitations my be a sign that your anxiety is higher than normal.
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Was the ekg testing done before or after this happened to you? Could you have been going through something akin to derealization? How long ago did you give birth to your youngest child?
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Hey guys! My doctors appointment went okay, she ordered more tests including an EEG and CT just to be on the safe side. She said it was most likely due to past trauma and a sign my anxiety is on the rise. My medication got doubled and added an benzo for emergency.
To be honest, I'm feeling better now that I have upped the meds, a little sad because my plan was to be off them soon, but I think I carry too much trauma that needs to be released before I do. Going to look into therapy of some sort and make my mental health a priority Thank you again for the replies. |
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Our mind and body sure can be strange at times... lol! |
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I am glad you feel better now. Medications are there for a reason. If we need them we need them. Good luck in finding a therapist. |
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