Is this anti-woman?

Jan 18, 2019 at 11:25 PM

Is it anti-woman of me to not side with women all the time? There are some cases in which the woman is clearly doing something wrong against a man (for example, in a certain divorce case I know).

Can't I sometimes just look at people not as a man or a woman but from a logical and generic standpoint: Who as a person, as a human being, is doing what is right in this situation?

sarahsweets · Jan 19, 2019 at 04:37 AM

No I dont think so at all. I think its admirable that you are using your own mind and judgement to form an opinion. I think its great that you are willing to be so fair. I do not think anyone should side with one gender or another simply because you are that gender.

romantic rose · Jan 19, 2019 at 05:55 AM

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Originally Posted by ennie

Is it anti-woman of me to not side with women all the time? There are some cases in which the woman is clearly doing something wrong against a man (for example, in a certain divorce case I know).

Can't I sometimes just look at people not as a man or a woman but from a logical and generic standpoint: Who as a person, as a human being, is doing what is right in this situation?

Exactly, it's sexist to agree with someone based on their gender rather than their argument/behaviour. If we were truly gender blind we would just agree with what was right. You are the one in the right here, not these sexist women.

Jan 19, 2019 at 01:42 PM

It seems obvious that you wouldn't agree with someone simply because they are female. Or male for that matter. Is someone in your life trying to convince you otherwise, Ennie? Perhaps you need to take a step back from the relationship for a moment if someone is trying to get you to agree to things you do not support. Set a boundary. Good luck

healingme4me · Jan 20, 2019 at 11:23 PM

I say that it's not anti-woman to disagree with another woman. I'm all for moral support and all, but enabling poor behavior and choices(thinking about specific related threads) is not being supportive, in my humble opinion.

AspiringAuthor · Jan 26, 2019 at 09:32 PM

I think you are doing the right thing.

Travelinglady · Jan 27, 2019 at 11:40 AM

I agree with all the other women on this thread, but not always with someone just because she's a woman.

Albatross2008 · Jan 27, 2019 at 11:28 PM

If a man is correct and a woman is incorrect, I think it would be rather silly to agree with the woman just because she's a woman.

12:32 PM

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Originally Posted by HopefullyLost1211

I Is someone in your life trying to convince you otherwise, Ennie? Perhaps you need to take a step back from the relationship for a moment if someone is trying to get you to agree to things you do not support. Set a boundary. Good luck

That's true. In a divorce case that I know, I feel pressured to join the "female team" and I am seen as either cold or a party-pooper otherwise. But I just can't support vindictive behaviors, or lie for someone. In other words, I don't want to do something that violates my conscience just to fit into the female team.

Jan 30, 2019 at 08:00 PM

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Originally Posted by ennie

That's true. In a divorce case that I know, I feel pressured to join the "female team" and I am seen as either cold or a party-pooper otherwise. But I just can't support vindictive behaviors, or lie for someone. In other words, I don't want to do something that violates my conscience just to fit into the female team.

Of course you don't want to do that. Understandable. We must always be true to our own value system...female or male really has nothing to do with it. If the folks in the divorce case are suggesting otherwise, I might speculate that there is really something else going on with their motivations and drives. We can't support anyone, male or female, via vindictive behaviors or lies.

I hope you are able to have distance from the folks you mention. That is not good energy to have around you. The older I get, the more careful I am about the energy I allow into my life. There's no 100% fix of course because we all need to work with difficult colleagues at times or run into a rude stranger etc. But if these folks are close to you, you might like to take a step back for a while. Peace and positive energy to you Ennie

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sarahsweets Threadtastic Postaholic Member Since Dec 2018 Location: New Jersey Posts: 6,006 (SuperPoster!) 5 192 hugs given	Jan 19, 2019 at 04:37 AM #2 No I dont think so at all. I think its admirable that you are using your own mind and judgement to form an opinion. I think its great that you are willing to be so fair. I do not think anyone should side with one gender or another simply because you are that gender. __________________ "I carried a watermelon?" President of the no F's given society.
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Anonymous57363 Guest Posts: n/a	Jan 19, 2019 at 01:42 PM #4 It seems obvious that you wouldn't agree with someone simply because they are female. Or male for that matter. Is someone in your life trying to convince you otherwise, Ennie? Perhaps you need to take a step back from the relationship for a moment if someone is trying to get you to agree to things you do not support. Set a boundary. Good luck
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healingme4me Perpetually Pondering Community Liaison Member Since Apr 2013 Location: New England Posts: 46,298 (SuperPoster!) 11 4,168 hugs given	Jan 20, 2019 at 11:23 PM #5 I say that it's not anti-woman to disagree with another woman. I'm all for moral support and all, but enabling poor behavior and choices(thinking about specific related threads) is not being supportive, in my humble opinion.
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Travelinglady Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Sep 2010 Location: North Carolina Posts: 48,023 (SuperPoster!) 13 22.9k hugs given	Jan 27, 2019 at 11:40 AM #7 I agree with all the other women on this thread, but not always with someone just because she's a woman.
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Albatross2008 Grand Poohbah Member Since Nov 2017 Location: USA Posts: 1,627 6 342 hugs given	Jan 27, 2019 at 11:28 PM #8 If a man is correct and a woman is incorrect, I think it would be rather silly to agree with the woman just because she's a woman.
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