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Old 02-07-2019, 12:41 AM #1
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I have very little interest in fashion, hair, and makeup. I am a nerd and I'd rather buy books than makeup. I don't really have much of an opportunity to dress up, as I work in healthcare, and am a frugal minimalist who don't go to fancy restaurants. I am also single and happy right now and really have no one to impress.

I think I can relate to the mentality of my girlfriends who cut their hair really short, wanting to have "less things to worry about" because it was too much to manage.

Now, don't get me wrong: I do bathe and groom. But putting on makeup feels like that "extra thing I need to worry about on my list," like a chore...

But I know I need to put makeup on because I often get commented about how "pale" or "tired" I look.

How can I make working on my looks more enjoyable and not so painful?

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Maybe try one thing at a time? I just now put on some eye cream, because my eyelids have been so dry after my shower the last couple of times, they actually cracked the next day. Then when i put my eyeglasses back on to leave the bathroom, i looked at myself and was mildly shocked at how good my eyes looked. As you said, not AS tired.

My mother never taught me to take care of myself, it was always "it doesnt matter, nobody cares." So it takes a major attitude adjustment too.
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I can't say I really enjoy putting on makeup and such, but I do like what I look like afterwards--maybe that's something you can keep in mind, so it doesn't seem as painful.
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I agree with luna, start with one thing at a time. Boy was I ever miffed back in October when a stranger made some off handed comment *about me looking stressed. I, too, grew up being told that natural looking women who didn't have a full face on were more attractive. That beauty comes from within and on and on and on.
So, I very much appreciate and relate to your frustration. I'm still fuming because now a little mascara and either a swipe of lipstick or gloss is not enough. Now I must find ways to hide my 'tired'.
I've notived too that since I've embarked on this quest to hide not just tired but something that is completely genetic-i give you my three sons as examples 1, 2 and 3--they have it too the darkness/shadows under their eyes but they get to be so fortunate in certain ways because women are judged harder*-that I've gotten comments by those who otherwise never had nor would comment about looking more relaxed and less stressed. I don't have puffy *so I don't need that type of eye cream
Sooo....a caffenaited eye cream for me it is with a nice japanese makeup primer for under those eyes with 2 different tones of concealer..a concealer brush, then a brushing on of a translucent setting powder and voila. I have been wearing eyeshadow using some online tips from various youtubers. I'm not going smokey for work just a light shadow on my lid to make my eyes look more alert.
I used to read all these beauty tips etc as a teen and would spend hours back then. Then I grew out of feeling like it was important enough just some mascara and lipstick and even then I was concealing my undereyes.
Skin care though.....it starts with skincare.

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Youtube has great tutorials.
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Iím a minimalist also. It doesnít even look like I have makeup on when I wear it but people tell me I look tired if I donít. I want to learn contouring. Now that I am almost 50 I can tell my makeup application techniques are dated and not doing me many favors.
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I think some department stores have folks who will make up someone's face for them and recommend their products. You really aren't under obligation to buy what they suggest. You might find comparable cheaper products somewhere else.
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I also never cared. But it feels nice to look nice. YouTube has tons of tutorials, for whatever you're looking for. I've started using a basic moisturizing cream at night after I wash my face, I don't go full face make up yet either tho I'm thinking of it. (Maybe) right now since I have pretty fair skin I stick to light colored eye shadow like white, pink, rose gold, gold, silver and glitter. And I use eyeliner and mascara. Sometimes lip gloss tho I don't like junk on my lips except chapstick. Lol. The whole thought of a face full of makeup seems like to much. Layers seem like to much. My skin is fair and even, no blotches or pimples. So why cover it? I was this way in school too. Everyone was doing the makeup thing and I just did my eyes. I tried the foundation and powder and blush and stuff but ugh... I do mess with my hair. Just chopped it off a few months ago, now growing it back out. Needs to be bleached again, add some cool colors in.. and it's kinda curly. So fun.
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Youtube has great tutorials.
I've been watching the "one minute makeup" tutorials, wanting to spend the least amount of time on the routine as possible...but I may need to move up to
2-minutes since I still look tired with a minimal makeup.
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I learned recently while shopping that Ulta will do it for free. Of course, I haven't researched to verify but it was an online discussion whilst shopping that the Sephora/Ulta topic came up for something similar for someone else.

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Contouring involves bronzer/blush/highlight. I think Wayne Goss has some of the better tutorials.
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