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Thumbs up Apr 30, 2019 at 01:37 AM
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I’ve been doing a lot better lately. I started taking (less than prescribed) dose of Buspar for anxiety and CBD oil. I feel it has stopped the waterworks and lifted depression.

Today, I called a family meeting with my youngest son and husband. Son has been struggling in his science, math, and english while he excels in music and leadership. In the past, just getting both of them to the table would most likely end in such a struggle and me losing it and giving up. Today, I approached it like a board meeting. I said “Here are the items on the agenda we want to discuss. Do you have anything to add, son, like telling me to go jump in the lake before we even begin?” Lol. He was ok to proceed.

Then I had to focus him and husband, trying to stay calm, like herding cats. I successfully discussed the problem in each class one thing at a time and we found easy solutions. Then we looked on college websites for his possible goals and what he needs to be eligible.

I assured my son we are proud of him, he is not dumb (he said he felt dumb), he had ADHD, it’s not his fault, and we are all feeling quite good from the meeting. Yay me and proper meds!

Hang in there, saidso. It’s herding cats! Lol
Way to go TishaBuv!!!! Yes it's exactly like herding cats, and then when exhausted with the cat management outside I seem to need to herd cats internally!!! It has helped having my friend tell me to just be in the moment. I have a difficult task coming up Thurs/ Fri. On Sunday/ Monday thanks to you all I let myself sleep and play computer games as much as my body demanded of me instead of fretting. I even sleep during the daytime.

I had to tell some people, "sorry I'm late with this but I've been sick and I'm totally exhausted" and you know what - people were helpful and understanding!!!!! That's big for me. .

Thank you for being here! Whew. After I get back home next weekend, I will do the doctor's fasting blood test and we will see.

I did get one sarcastic e-mail from cousin who is suffering from cancer, but that's ok. It's super important to me that everyone else is on task without my "herding" them: it's a revelation for me that people can co-operate without being forced to do so. Yay!!!!

I'm glad to hear that your new approach worked for you. A wave to @sarahsweets also - love to you both this morning!

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I find that managing anyone, even myself is difficult. Most of my meltdowns are when I am disappointed or upset because things didn't go how I wanted them to go. I have fits of anger and rage. I never physically harm anyone, I mostly yell, scream or slam things around, often breaking them but not meaning to. These meltdowns usually conclude with calling myself stupid and often end with me being embarrassed. Happens more than it should, especially around my husband.

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We were talking about managing men on projects, and how men procrastinate. I said that I'm learning how to be firm without nagging, but main problem at the moment is managing my own emotions.
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I find that managing anyone, even myself is difficult. Most of my meltdowns are when I am disappointed or upset because things didn't go how I wanted them to go. I have fits of anger and rage. I never physically harm anyone, I mostly yell, scream or slam things around, often breaking them but not meaning to. These often end with me being embarrassed or feeling like I am stupid.
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