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Default Jun 27, 2019 at 11:16 PM
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Baby gender preference: New research suggests American parents no longer prefer boys — Quartz

Many cultures have traditionally valued boys more than girls. Perspectives are changing in America according to the above article.

Do you feel that having a son in the household automatically translates to family honor?

What if you have two daughters and a son and the oldest daughter marries a Prince and becomes a Duchess, the youngest daughter becomes a Presidential nominee, but the son becomes an infamous criminal and bring family shame?
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Default Jun 28, 2019 at 09:24 AM
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I'm glad to hear the gender preference is ending. For some reason, I prefer boys, too. I think I would have had more emotional issues dealing with a daughter and am glad I "got" two sons.

That said., I would love a granddaughter, now that I have had more therapy!

I think part of the male thing is passing on the family name. If that would change--like women just keeping their maiden name upon marriage, then that would help, too.
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Default Jun 28, 2019 at 09:46 AM
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I think there is a general shift, and it is just as concerning as it is a relief. For boys are very problematic and wild and selfish, begin early to imitate the loutish swagger of their stupid fathers, while girls are generally sweet, caring, are given nice dresses, learn to be practical and helpful, brush their teeth and their nice silken hair to a sheen, etc. So, if they become preferred, unhappy boys will become more and more neglected and become miserable and sexually unattractive men. And maybe girls will change into demanding, selfish, hyperactive, loud, and brutal boy types?
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Default Jun 28, 2019 at 12:00 PM
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My grown sons are nice fellows and certainly not "loutish" as boys. And not all girls are "sugar and spice and everything nice." In fact, parents tell me that girls are actually more difficult to raise!
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I think there is a general shift, and it is just as concerning as it is a relief. For boys are very problematic and wild and selfish, begin early to imitate the loutish swagger of their stupid fathers, while girls are generally sweet, caring, are given nice dresses, learn to be practical and helpful, brush their teeth and their nice silken hair to a sheen, etc. So, if they become preferred, unhappy boys will become more and more neglected and become miserable and sexually unattractive men. And maybe girls will change into demanding, selfish, hyperactive, loud, and brutal boy types?
yeah that's what my grandma thought when I came along as the only girl of all her grandchildren. Finally someone she could make dresses for!
Didn't really turn out that way

That Is a lot of stereotypes in your post.
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Sons over daughters? yeah that's what my grandma thought when I came along as the only girl of all her grandchildren. Finally someone she could make dresses for!

Didn't really turn out that way Sons over daughters?


That Is a lot of stereotypes in your post.
True, but I'm from Germany, that explains the stereotypes.
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Default Jun 28, 2019 at 06:28 PM
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I have 2 of each. All had different personalities and issues. If I had a preference I guess it would be girl because fun clothes and toys. None of my kids have been in jail, so there's that. Lol

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Default Jun 28, 2019 at 10:57 PM
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I'm glad I had a girl. The daughter has one of both but I prefer my granddaughter. I know I shouldn't but I do.

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Default Jul 02, 2019 at 03:54 PM
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It doesn’t matter for me.

In my family men and women lead the same level style, as far as several generations before me women in my family are professionally employed and career oriented, we aren’t homemakers and our place isn’t in the kitchen so it’s no matter to us if we have boys or girls. Everyone is an independent adult.

My husband and I have three adult daughters but we have four adult nephews and there is no difference between how they all live. Gender differences are in the past
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It doesn’t matter for me.

In my family men and women lead the same level style, as far as several generations before me women in my family are professionally employed and career oriented, we aren’t homemakers and our place isn’t in the kitchen so it’s no matter to us if we have boys or girls. Everyone is an independent adult.

My husband and I have three adult daughters but we have four adult nephews and there is no difference between how they all live. Gender differences are in the past
That's awesome. That's a real equality, where no one is disappointed that they are having a girl.

They say boys can carry the family name, but so can girls: Some women don't change their last names even after marriage.
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Default Jul 11, 2019 at 12:41 AM
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Two our of three of my children have my last name. I also come from a long line of professional women, most of whom did not change their name after marriage. My great grandmother was a dentist, her sister was a pharmacist, etc. Her daughter chaired a department at a university. Another grandmother was director of a medical laboratory.

When I fantasize about having grandchildren, more often than not I am picturing a girl in my mind's eye, but I know this is because I am identifying with that fantasy grandchild - myself having been brought up to a large extent by grandparents.

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Default Jul 11, 2019 at 02:43 AM
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I have 2 daughters and 1 son- 15,19 and 23. My son was a very active semi-consuming little boy. When he hit puberty and became a teen and now young adult he changed and became very laid back and generally good. My daughters were much easier when they were little but by the time they each hit 11 the hormones and drama kicked in. More so with the older one. I threatened to take the door off the hinges its been slammed so much.

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