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Default Mar 06, 2019 at 10:18 PM
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He asks so many personal questions. We are supposed to be friendly but I'm feeling like we're dating. Though were not.

The things he asks like where are you moving to? I said the city. He now knows the apartment building because he asked where in the city, what apartment, what's the address, etc. He is a postal worker.

His daughter he brought in she's sickly but sweet. He once in passing asked if I watch porn. I said no, but seriously? He's a regular. I'm divorced, he's divorced. The rest of our crew is married. But the married coworker hugged him when he came in. He's very personable. But I thought that was too much. Though a female patient hugged me today, and said happy birthday, Monday is my birthday.

I'm kind of trying to step back from him. But there's treatment I do on him and many others actually. So he talks, plus I work the front desk. He likes to visit.

Today he asked what med I take, I specified Latuda he asked what it was for I said bipolar, than added schizophrenia. Now I'm a little worried about saying that, mainly cause I stick my foot in my mouth. I already told him I'm considered disabled. It freaks people out hearing schizophrenia. But part of me is trying to turn him off the other part doesn't want to lose a patient.

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Default Mar 07, 2019 at 07:09 AM
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I am not sure in what capacity you work with him, but as professionals, the onus is on us to set up clear and professional boundaries. It sounds like you are struggling with establishing boundaries with this very curious individual, but you absolutely have the right to say "I'm not comfortable answering that question".
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Default Mar 07, 2019 at 07:14 AM
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I wouldn't feel comfortable telling someone my address and diagnosis, but it's up to you to establish your own boundaries. As Ohseedee said, you can say you don't want to answer a question.
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Default Mar 07, 2019 at 08:13 AM
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I didn't tell him my diagnosis just what the med is good for. But I'm still uncomfortable.

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Default Mar 07, 2019 at 09:21 AM
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I agree with the others that say you need to set boundaries with this guy. If he asks more personal questions, tell him you aren't comfortable answering or that you don't answer personal questions in a work environment.
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Default Mar 07, 2019 at 06:55 PM
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Patient asking you if you watch porn? Or take meds? Ouch. I’d not answer any questions that don’t pertain to his appointment
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Default Mar 07, 2019 at 10:01 PM
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It's possible to be quiet, reserved, keep to oneself and still be likeable in the workplace. I like the "look straight ahead, smile, keep working" method, but that's me. There's a time and place for chit chat. Customers/patients/etc are kept to simple pleasantries in my eyes.
Nothing wrong with an air of mystery either.
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