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Default Apr 12, 2019 at 04:34 PM
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I have an infection on my head that’s causing a lot pain and my antibiotics are making me feel super sick, and I still made it through my whole shift. I’m really happy about that. And I’m happy it’s the weekend.

But there’s someone at work who I think should get a promotion over another person. Even this person thinks so. But I don’t think that’s going to happen.

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I've been putting in a lot of overtime to get a project launched. I'm exhausted.

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I'm a little pissed off about something, but I have to let it go, in understanding that this is the kind of crap that happens at work. But really, here we go again?? Seriously?

We have company meetings periodically whereby kudos are given to those who have worked hard and/or achieved something big. Awards or gift cards are given to those who are nominated for achievement recognition.

Well, I had achieved something pretty major. My boss told me he would mention it in the next company meeting. We had a talk about it the day before, and I mentioned again the specifics around those achievements.

Well, when it came to my boss's turn to speak about our team and to give a shout out to specific members, he mentioned me and one of my smaller achievements, but he didn't even mention the biggest and most important of all. I got a client's website to rank on page 1 of Google for a very high volume search term (74,000 searches/month) that they had lost ranking for a year ago, contributing to a major loss of web traffic and subsequently revenue for the last year. Well, my boss didn't even mention this part!!!!! And I had even reminded him of it the day before!

Now, my colleague who was just promoted had been on this same client account before me, and he did not resolve that ranking loss himself. Nor did he bring in more revenue and traffic for this client, like I have achieved. So I am thinking that this was purely political on my boss's part, to avoid any conflict. Not only that but potentially it shows favoritism and is unprofessional, which concerns me a little.

So I am upset that the acknowledgement was seriously watered down. That was a big deal, to regain that one ranking, which now has brought traffic and revenue near to its level from last year. The website has struggled for an entire year with massive revenue and traffic losses, and I am helping to resolve that now. This colleague is also friends with my boss & drove him to the airport the other day.

I guess what upsets me the most is that this is a pattern in my life whereby bosses don't want to acknowledge, celebrate and nurture my talents and successes. In fact, many bosses have tried to squash my success. It really angers me. And I feel my current boss is doing something similar.

I may approach him next week to casually ask him why he did not mention this ranking gain. I won't be confrontational at all, but I want to ask him and let him know that it did not slip my attention.

Luckily, I had thought to inform the company CEO myself of this achievement prior to this meeting. If my boss won't celebrate or acknowledge it, then I will have to toot my own horn. A hard lesson I've had to learn in the work environment.

Thanks for listening. I really needed to vent!!!
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Default Apr 13, 2019 at 11:40 AM
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Congrats @golden_eve. That sounds like a big achievement and I'm glad you told the CEO about it.

I've been sick and haven't been at work for a week. I've been doing some work from home, but I'm ready to get over this cough already.
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Congrats @golden_eve. That sounds like a big achievement and I'm glad you told the CEO about it.

I've been sick and haven't been at work for a week. I've been doing some work from home, but I'm ready to get over this cough already.

Thank you!

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I'm a little pissed off about something, but I have to let it go, in understanding that this is the kind of crap that happens at work. But really, here we go again?? Seriously?

We have company meetings periodically whereby kudos are given to those who have worked hard and/or achieved something big. Awards or gift cards are given to those who are nominated for achievement recognition.

Well, I had achieved something pretty major. My boss told me he would mention it in the next company meeting. We had a talk about it the day before, and I mentioned again the specifics around those achievements.

Well, when it came to my boss's turn to speak about our team and to give a shout out to specific members, he mentioned me and one of my smaller achievements, but he didn't even mention the biggest and most important of all. I got a client's website to rank on page 1 of Google for a very high volume search term (74,000 searches/month) that they had lost ranking for a year ago, contributing to a major loss of web traffic and subsequently revenue for the last year. Well, my boss didn't even mention this part!!!!! And I had even reminded him of it the day before!

Now, my colleague who was just promoted had been on this same client account before me, and he did not resolve that ranking loss himself. Nor did he bring in more revenue and traffic for this client, like I have achieved. So I am thinking that this was purely political on my boss's part, to avoid any conflict. Not only that but potentially it shows favoritism and is unprofessional, which concerns me a little.

So I am upset that the acknowledgement was seriously watered down. That was a big deal, to regain that one ranking, which now has brought traffic and revenue near to its level from last year. The website has struggled for an entire year with massive revenue and traffic losses, and I am helping to resolve that now. This colleague is also friends with my boss & drove him to the airport the other day.

I guess what upsets me the most is that this is a pattern in my life whereby bosses don't want to acknowledge, celebrate and nurture my talents and successes. In fact, many bosses have tried to squash my success. It really angers me. And I feel my current boss is doing something similar.

I may approach him next week to casually ask him why he did not mention this ranking gain. I won't be confrontational at all, but I want to ask him and let him know that it did not slip my attention.

Luckily, I had thought to inform the company CEO myself of this achievement prior to this meeting. If my boss won't celebrate or acknowledge it, then I will have to toot my own horn. A hard lesson I've had to learn in the work environment.

Thanks for listening. I really needed to vent!!!

I think what this may mean and point to is me working for myself again. I cannot keep going through this torture again and again with bosses who won't recognize my talents and successes. What the hell?

I am not ready now, but I may be again in a few years. Maybe two years.
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I’m not looking forward to work at all tomorrow. But who does after being off all weekend?

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I completely understand you Golden Eve. Several of us in my department are feeling totally unappreciated and unrecognized for our work. Our boss only likes the people that suck up to her. With me, she has become hypercritical over issues when the problem is really her not undestanding things. It is so demoralizing. I honestly don't respect her and think she's a terrible manager.

She has some sort of health problem that has her going out on long medical leaves at times. It sort of follows this pattern of her becoming more and more dense and difficult to deal with, then she takes some time off for doctor appts and then leave is announced. I wonder if her issue is neurological. My husband had a boss that showed similar behavior and she had been diagnosed with a neurological problem. I am really hoping we will be hearing that she is going on leave soon. I can't take much more. Like you, I sort of would like to freelance again. But my husband and I just bought a house, so we need this income for now.

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I am trying to deal with this client that is a fairly easy gig but they tend to take up a large portion of my time and I have actually tried to quit them a couple of times. I think what's most annoying is that I'm finding it hard to deal with a client who is so comfortable being so small time. Not committed to excellence in any of their marketing or communications or anything, and it sort of is starting to reflect poorly on me, I feel. Like people come to me about stuff I don't consult for them on and ask my why there are mistakes or why things are left out or why it's poorly designed. And so it affiliates me with this poor quality. They are a chamber ensemble and the musical quality is fantastic, it's just that they seem to not care too highly about the quality of how they present themselves as an organization. Sigh...I just need to bear it out a little while longer then I can probably safely and kindly extricate myself at the end of the season. The biggest problem is that I could do a lot of things for them but our contract is not set up to allow me to do those things. I think I will actually communicate that to them, and why it's becoming a problem for me. Asking me for things outside my scope of work that I can't/won't get paid for, etc. I want them to succeed; I love their little organization, but we have to work out a different consulting scope of work and payment for this to keep working for me.

Okay...time to get going...

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I completely understand you Golden Eve. Several of us in my department are feeling totally unappreciated and unrecognized for our work. Our boss only likes the people that suck up to her. With me, she has become hypercritical over issues when the problem is really her not undestanding things. It is so demoralizing. I honestly don't respect her and think she's a terrible manager.

She has some sort of health problem that has her going out on long medical leaves at times. It sort of follows this pattern of her becoming more and more dense and difficult to deal with, then she takes some time off for doctor appts and then leave is announced. I wonder if her issue is neurological. My husband had a boss that showed similar behavior and she had been diagnosed with a neurological problem. I am really hoping we will be hearing that she is going on leave soon. I can't take much more. Like you, I sort of would like to freelance again. But my husband and I just bought a house, so we need this income for now.

Hi Rechu, I'm so sorry to hear this. That IS demoralizing. It impacts employee morale greatly, dealing with a boss you don't respect. I've been there too many times in my life, so I can fully relate and empathize! ARGH.

I despise suck ups and don't do well with that myself. I am not a suck up, nor am I a fake. When sucks ups receive favoritism, it's just not right. What about those who work hard and earn their way?

I hope your boss goes on leave, for your sake. It sounds like she needs to, if she's out of work so frequently.

I wish I had better words of comfort for you, or even some good advice. It just sucks when you have a crappy boss. (((((((((hugs))))))))
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I am trying to deal with this client that is a fairly easy gig but they tend to take up a large portion of my time and I have actually tried to quit them a couple of times. I think what's most annoying is that I'm finding it hard to deal with a client who is so comfortable being so small time. Not committed to excellence in any of their marketing or communications or anything, and it sort of is starting to reflect poorly on me, I feel. Like people come to me about stuff I don't consult for them on and ask my why there are mistakes or why things are left out or why it's poorly designed. And so it affiliates me with this poor quality. They are a chamber ensemble and the musical quality is fantastic, it's just that they seem to not care too highly about the quality of how they present themselves as an organization. Sigh...I just need to bear it out a little while longer then I can probably safely and kindly extricate myself at the end of the season. The biggest problem is that I could do a lot of things for them but our contract is not set up to allow me to do those things. I think I will actually communicate that to them, and why it's becoming a problem for me. Asking me for things outside my scope of work that I can't/won't get paid for, etc. I want them to succeed; I love their little organization, but we have to work out a different consulting scope of work and payment for this to keep working for me.

Okay...time to get going...

Oh I hear you on that!!!

Why do so many organizations settle for mediocre? I just don't get it.

I feel for you and know that feeling of not wanting to be associated with poor quality work, especially when with your own work, you strive for excellence. I get it. At least you have an end date in site, or you negotiate a different scope of work. That sounds promising. Yes, make it work for you. Sounds wise!
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Oh I hear you on that!!!

Why do so many organizations settle for mediocre? I just don't get it.

I feel for you and know that feeling of not wanting to be associated with poor quality work, especially when with your own work, you strive for excellence. I get it. At least you have an end date in site, or you negotiate a different scope of work. That sounds promising. Yes, make it work for you. Sounds wise!
Yeah, I actually had my monthly call with them and they are so sweet, and I'm like, oh maybe I'll keep helping them...I'm such a sucker. Doh!

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Yeah, I actually had my monthly call with them and they are so sweet, and I'm like, oh maybe I'll keep helping them...I'm such a sucker. Doh!

LOL. That's understandable. Maybe think about how best you can help them, like you said above, and aim to expand beyond your contract with them, if I understood correctly.
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A manager pulled a coworker aside to do something else and didn’t fill her position. So the work was piling up and the manager was yelling at us like it was our fault. We were griping to ourselves and saying “Put someone in her spot if you want us to keep up.”

Also it was kind of weird but when we were cleaning up it was like she was telling us to stay later. I kept telling her it was time to go. And she wasn’t listening and she was saying “15 more minutes” and just talking over me. I want to say she just didn’t hear me. She’s not usually the manger working with us. But finally she said “oh what time is it?” My coworker was thanking me for standing my ground because she was clamming up. Work was just a mess today but I figured it would be.

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My coworker is kind of being a jerk to me. I asked the manager for something and the coworker mocked me. I just shrugged it off. Then today she put the pen we use to clock in in her pocket and walked off with it. I think she did it on purpose because she glanced back at me. I can see where she’s coming from because I am more accepted in the work place by other coworkers and management and I’ve been told that. I get more hours than her and I get to do better tasks because I perform them better. I’ve always been an easy target too. I’m just blowing it off and not letting it bug me. She’s just a jerk.

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Hi Rechu, I'm so sorry to hear this. That IS demoralizing. It impacts employee morale greatly, dealing with a boss you don't respect. I've been there too many times in my life, so I can fully relate and empathize! ARGH.

I despise suck ups and don't do well with that myself. I am not a suck up, nor am I a fake. When sucks ups receive favoritism, it's just not right. What about those who work hard and earn their way?

I hope your boss goes on leave, for your sake. It sounds like she needs to, if she's out of work so frequently.

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Thanks Eve. I really hope she takes leave. She is more unbearable every day.
Usually she doesn’t do much editing, but yesterday she decided to edit everything I sent to editing and nitpick constantly. More than half the time I actually was right. I add notes to explain anything I worry may not be understood by an editor or someone else that works on the project later, as per her instructions. But, she wasn’t reading the notes. She was asking about things that were explained in the notes I had added. Lovely, she always tells others to add/read notes but doesn’t bother with it herself and I end up having to waste time re-explaining stuff. I did in the end copy/paste the notes and send them to her, sort of saying, if you had looked, you wouldn’t need to ask me. She just wanted to jump all over anything I did.
She also did things like add text to what I have written that you are not supposed to. For example, we have a field for the description of a project. That is only supposed to include things that don’t have their own designated field. She added the location to the description. There is a designated field for that. Had I done that, you know I would hear about it.
I really think she wants me to quit. She’s done this to others. Sours on them and either fires them or becomes overly critical so they quit. I have been there a while, so they will owe me a decent severance package. If she says she wants to fire me, upper management will not be happy about having to pay. If she wants me gone, they can pay me. I don’t have anything lined up right now, and I need the job. So for the time being I will stick it out. At least we have this space to vent.
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And another annoyance. Some of the projects I have worked on lately are things that were way out of date because none of my co-workers could get information. I was able to get info and update them. Do I get as much as a "well done" for being able to do that? I think you know the answer, of course not!!
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It turns out I was most likely having a reaction to my antibiotic. I have stopped the antibiotic and am taking Allegra now. I was in distress yesterday at work and my coworkers could tell. I hope tomorrow goes smoother. Also I have to leave work 50 minutes early next Tuesday for my doctors appointment. It was all he had and I was told today he defiantly wants to see me. I hope work doesn’t give me a hard time about it.

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I’m worried the workload is just going to keep piling on. I’m at my limit and don’t know how much more I can take.
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Work wasn’t too bad today. It’s just because we are closed on Easter that people are freaking out.

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