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Default May 10, 2020 at 04:36 PM
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I hope work really does listen to the whole social distance 6 feet apart thing when they do open. We were working in very close quarters before. I wonder if anyone will have the balls to say anything. There’s always the anonymous hotline I could leave a message for.

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I taught the same student who wrote a long letter about me to management. She seemed more receptive. I believe, I did my best to teach her today. I will wait to see if she fired off another letter complaining about me. What a life!! I am dependent on the reviews of students now!!???? But, such is life. Most of my students are happy. So, I was taken for a surprise from her. But, all is well now and am crossing my fingers that it is.
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Default May 11, 2020 at 05:17 AM
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I haven't been at my job in so long I realized I don't want to go back at all 🤷 I don't hate the job, I love my boss, but I hate working lol

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Default May 12, 2020 at 02:19 PM
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Another change in my schedule... Why can't I keep people? Is it me? Or am I taking things personally? I felt helpless. I am sad that it happened and I don't understand the reason. I think it was sure laziness!!

Do I find a different job? Am I happy where I am?
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Default May 12, 2020 at 05:59 PM
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I am almost out of moronic managers.

Call me Ishmael.... (With apologies to Herman Melville) Now me hearties, listen ye to a tale of the sea led by our Captain Ahab. Ahab t'was a young lad who had connections and thus was given ship to lead, our brave ship, the Pequod. Arrrrr, his youth, inexperience, bullheadedness, lack of social skills, inability to listen and misogyny led to his own downfall. Alas, Ahab knew that he was always right and so there was no need to heed anyone beneath him, nay. Ahab had learned it all in eight years of sitting on a desk and so he could lead anyone in any occupation doing any type of mission. Arrrrrr.

To prove his worth, intelligence, knowledge and experience and shove it in the crews' faces he had to destroy his own ship. He immediately went about attacking, persecuting and crushing the most experienced and productive members of the crew. To bolster his strategy he then went about rewarding the laziest and most incompetent members. Oh thou workest 18 hours and makest all of this happen? BAM, seize her! Floggings will commence. Oh, thou sattest and watched TV for 6 hours and then thou wentest home? Award for thee! Promotions all around!

My best friend and matey was the most competent member of the crew, outperforming the entire rest of the scurvey dogs by seven orders of magnitude. I watched her bang out several reports while another friend, who sat next to us, complained that he was tired of surfing the Internet all day and that he was so bored. Another read comics for hours. Another talked to friends all day. Another planned baby showers. After my friend pointed out his unethical behavior for altering reports, every Monday, Ahab would attackest my friend for doing too much and would spend hours inventing accusations. No false accusation was too outrageous. In half a year, the Pequod began to sink and no one was catching any whales. Walk the plank and keelhaul her! "And he piled upon the whale's white hump, the sum of all the rage and hate felt by his whole race. If his chest had been a cannon, he would have shot his heart upon it." Arrrrrrr. Senior people began to retire at an unprecedented rate and transfers out were like rats abandoning a sinking ship. Well, not like, the Pequod was sinking. Still, Ahab persisted in his vendetta, his obsession conquering any chance of success or survival.

As he closed in on my friend amid EEO complaints and the impending destruction of his own ship, he cried out, "...to the last I grapple with thee; from hell's heart I stab at thee; for hate's sake I spit my last breath at thee."

And then, I wentest to the very top to report Ahab's sinking ship along with numerous surviving crew and alas, the Pequod sank along with Foolish Captain Ahab.

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Default May 15, 2020 at 01:04 AM
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The manager said I would be getting more students and said I need to meet with the head teacher to prepare for getting more students. Well, I was wondering, don't they have more teachers besides me? I like the money but have to consider my mental sanity. I wanted just to work 20 hours a week and am not there yet but am almost there. I can't refuse students though so am in a dilemma of maintaining my sanity and taking on more students. I am flattered that they like me as a teacher. However, I don't feel the need to jam pack my schedule with students to earn more money. I am happy as is, some what. I like money, don't get me wrong, but not at the expense of my mental health. I feel tired these days already. I don't even have that many classes. I feel really exhausted. I am trying to survive but am hoping they hire more teachers, instead of piling the students on me. I try to be professional and nice about everything, no matter what. I just hope they find more decent teachers. I think because I am nice and prompt about everything that they prefer to work with me. I find this touching but want to remain sane. But, such is life!! I just hope I don't sink my boat by having too many students. When I initially started, I did not think my schedule would be too busy. But, they gave me quite a number of classes to teach. Now, they are expecting more out of me. Well, I hope I can survive.
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Default May 19, 2020 at 08:04 PM
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We have come at last to the final fractured fairy tale of the Kingdom of Dysfuntion. Here ye the tale of the masticated mosaic of Micky the Monster, also known as Attila the None, the abuser of women and minorities, also known as Brainless the Bully. Never before have I encountered such a racist and misogynistic leader...wait, I can't say leader with a straight face...manager..nope, can't even use that term without a bitter laugh...idiot in charge of so many.

M&M has physically, mentally and emotionally abused so many women and minorities that he is a one man EEO circus. At least a dozen women and minorities have left the organization due to him. Neither verbal nor written complaints have slowed him down one iota. Why, you ask? Well, gentle reader, when you are best buds with those above you, you can get away with anything. The good ole boy network is strong here. You can be dumb as a bag of rocks. He is. You can be lazy as a sloth. He is. You can be abusive, hostile and harassing and you still get a pat on the back while talent flees the organization. You can make up false allegations against people at will. You can call people liars and tell them to shut up when they try to show you your allegation is false. You can start internal investigations against people and have them blow up in your face when you are proven wrong, but you can keep right on ticking. You can physically assault women and minorities and have it swept under the rug. You can fail repeatedly at your primary job and still get good ratings.

What a great country we live in where someone that awful can be a success. It's like living the dream.

And with that, gentle reader, do I conclude the caustic curiosity of the Kingdom of Dysfunction.

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Default May 20, 2020 at 08:31 AM
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I am getting to the point where I care less and less about my work. I have both feet out the door now. I have an interview today and am really praying this works out for me.

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Call me, help me resolve this. I can't do it on my own!!!
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What's going on?

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Burnout. And other issues that I can't discuss here. That's why I need my boss to call me.

I'm frustrated with work and there are other issues at work i.e. not doing as told sort of thing, selective listening. And then there is the boot, sui thoughts, increased stress,and the possibility of a death in the family.

Basically sh** hitting the fan
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Default May 22, 2020 at 07:48 AM
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Was I right?

Last week, I did a regular old part of my job. I

(1) reviewed my information (on my own)
(2) realized that something was in need of action
(3) took action
(4) once all was ready I asked my boss if I could do x,
(5) he said, yes,
(6) I executed the plan and completed what was necessary, on my own.

This week, my boss (I don't know why) proceeds to send around an e-mail to my work group -- congratulating us on completing this transaction.

Um, what "us"?

This transaction was 99.9% me. The two other people he was congratulating as "we" failed to even respond to my e-mails and had zero to do with it. I was shocked that he seemed to be spreading credit (honestly for something that wasn't even a big deal) to people that were not in anyway involved. His e-mail started with, "not sure if you noticed but this got completed last week" as if it magically happened. As if the transaction elves made it happen?

I could NOT take that. I sent an e-mail to him that was pretty nice but I had to stick up for myself. I told him that he had previously mentioned he had a hard time keeping track of things from home but from where I sat what was done was 100% done by me.

He responded that he understood that and would be telling another boss. That wasn't my point but to avoid making a larger deal out of it I just kept my mouth shut.

Obviously the tone was that I was raining on his parade.

Got to say I am on my last legs at this point... I have lost all faith in this guy. He does NOT appreciate me in anyway. I don't understand why this keeps happening. Since we have been working from home we have had a few run ins - mostly because he cannot remember who did what, and just hauls off and says something that isn't accurate. (of course, seeming to slight me).
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Default May 23, 2020 at 03:57 AM
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i work 2 days in the office. others come in as needed. today, besides me, six staff members came to work in the office, five of them did not wear a mask. i have only been working there for six months so i couldn't say anything but it really bothered me. wearing a mask is to protect the people around you. we all feel good but what if there is an asymptomatic carrier? ugh.
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Blaaaah, I am going to have to take a work trip next week. Part of it is a good cause. I'll fly some medication somewhere, but then I'll have to stay for a few days. The second phase, bad part of the trip is that it's for Mickey the Monster (previously cited by me here). I swore that I would never put my life on the line for that rancid bag of...goodies. I about hate myself for doing this, but I'm going to be the bigger person and do the job and fly the....stuff he needs flown. Oh, that creep is ten pounds of...sh....sugar stuffed into a five pound bag. I just had to say that.
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With my job not having a date when they are going to open and, this possible second wave, plus personal issues, I’m honestly quitting work until I move next spring. I doubt any employer would really wonder why there’s a gap my employment.

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I meant I’m “thinking” about quitting work.

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I have to take a day off to get used to the medication. This sucks!!!!
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Yesterday during our mandatory meeting online we were held captive while our boss harangued us for almost a half an hour about something that was not remotely connected to work. No one said anything. We all just sat there. I turned the sound down but I couldn't turn it off completely in case I needed to pretend I had been listening. So I was forced to listen enough to know when she stopped (finally figured that out when she started crying) The whole organization seems to have lost its focus and professional boundaries have been thrown out the window. This triggers my PTSD. I am sitting here right now trying not to freak out. Trying not to freak out is so exhausting.
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I got a partial complaint from another student. It is ok. He likes talking to me he says. Well, this company places importance on customer reviews. So, I have to address his concerns. I am stressed out from my schedule. I am tired all of the time these days. I think it is due to my medication. I am trying to also cut back on coffee. I don't drink much but the coffee makes me wired. I feel fine now after sleeping the whole morning. I will be fine. Life continues.
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I didn't get a second interview for a job I was very interested in. I'm very disappointed, but as it turns out, they want more of a sales person and did not spell that out in the job description. Perhaps it's a blessing in disguise. I would have had to build a service line in the company from the ground floor up and convince new clients to come on board. Not exactly what I have experience in, and not exactly what I wish to do.

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