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Default Apr 11, 2019 at 08:54 AM
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She's overly critical, nitpicky, no sick time, not paid on time, expects major work, no breaks, won't let you take phone calls even if urgent. I've had it.

I'm expecting calls from donation center, for apartment stuff. I was told I have to answer and just can't ignore or I won't get the stuff. Now my boss is like no phone calls, small office shes a chiropractor. Shouldn't be a big deal to get a phone call she's making it a big deal. I'm frustrated and want to leave next paycheck.

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Default Apr 11, 2019 at 11:10 AM
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you have options...
1. leave. quit now.
2. actively look for employment while working.
3. keep working there.

basically you know the conditions where you are..if this is the way it has always been then there will probably be no changes. you know the situation. she doesn't seem concerned for her support staff. leaving without a new position someplace will be risky ...bills, rent, etc add up.

your move depends on what you feel you can manage. you could tell her you will leave if conditions don't improve but that could backfire ...basically the ball is in your court...poop or get off the pot...as the saying goes.
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Default Apr 11, 2019 at 11:43 AM
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How are you going to pay for your apartment if you quit? Electric, water, trash, etc...

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Default Apr 11, 2019 at 04:01 PM
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Shes adding new rules. No cell phones at desk new rule, no phone calls new rule. Shes a ***** and can't keep staff I now know why. She even tells me how to take out the trash. Not to take it out, how to. Among other numerous nuances.

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Default Apr 11, 2019 at 05:49 PM
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I’ve quit terrible jobs without having another job lined up. It was always a decision I have greatly regretted. Because I have always felt very pressured by myself and those around me to find a job, any job fast. I do not recommend quitting without having another job lined up.
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Default Apr 12, 2019 at 08:23 PM
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I told her I'm feeling overly criticized and wonder if the job is a good fit or not. She says she tries to compliment me. But I told her between her and my coworker its too much negativity. We're having a staff meeting Monday sure it'll be brought up. But it's how I feel.

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Default Apr 18, 2019 at 11:16 AM
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so basically the same options still apply.

honestly those rules apply at most workplaces. most companies don't want to pay you for answering YOUR phone and making YOUR phone calls when you should be doing their work. lunch breaks, breaks etc are fine for that but other times you should be concentrating on their work concerns. I don't know how big your staff levels are, but depending on that and what the company role is, even taking out the trash is not that large of a deal (if it's just paper etc). they are paying you to work...not to be happy but if that happens it's wonderful, but to perform at level that accomplishes the tasks they need filled. none of what you stated are deal breakers to me. you can't live without your phone during the work day? (or at least until lunch?)

I don't know if this is your first position or what but like I said most companies have these standards..they want you focusing on their work, not your life during business hours. and you stated she did compliment you so your supervisor does seem somewhat understanding.
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No phone is common rule at work places. Since you work part time, you have to do all your personal phone calls and stuff when you are off. It is what it is
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Default Apr 21, 2019 at 11:33 AM
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Looks like you've gotten some honest feedback.
Forgive me if I am "off" but it does seem to me that you are more focused on your own needs while at work than on the job and the needs of the practice. It is not "negative" to disallow personal phone calls, it is a policy. And, sometimes it really does matter how and when the garbage is taken out and disposed of (especially if there is recycling and particular pick up times etc. involved)--I would say hang in there a bit and try to bring some positive energy into the workplace with you. (a treat for everyone at break time? flowers at the desk? just a big smile and hello for all)

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Maybe you're on your phone too much, maybe not? If it's that bad why not fire you?Does a Chiropractor needs to concern themselves with waste disposal? I think not. You're still there for 3 reasons; 2 hers, 1 yours.

1: you perform you duties to standard
2: she can bully you about petty ********(tell me if I'm wrong, but I bet she makes spiteful personal comments)
3:You're worn down by her and lacking the confidence to strike out (you probably wouldn't let her know you was looking for another job)

If it's it's an abusive relationship, then one remedy is to get out

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Default Apr 30, 2019 at 04:37 AM
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If it’s chiropractors personal business, she certainly needs to concern herself with garbage/waste disposal. I found comment that it shouldn’t concern her curious. Why wouldn’t business owner concerned themselves with this?
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Default Apr 30, 2019 at 06:49 AM
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Do you have something lined up for work?

Not paid on time? How so? How late?

Some jobs, one just needs to grin and bear it until something better comes along.
How many donation center calls are you receiving? Most charitable organizations will give you a small window to return phone calls. That's something that could be done on break.
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I am not allowed a break. I work 5 hour days and when I try to take a break to make a phone call, to check messages, she gets on me. I'm only allowed a snack while I continue working.

After the staff meeting things got better as far as less criticism. But paychecks, pay rate, and breaks are my main issue. Being overly criticized is another, and she has no reason to tell me how to take out the trash. She's nit picky and it's her personality, not necessary for the task.

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Not getting paid on time is a serious issue. Not having breaks isn’t really. If you only
Work 5 hours, it leaves you plenty of time to do personal business. Now not getting paid is a good reason to quit.
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There are federal and state laws around breaks. And some places are exempt. 5 hours does give you enough time out of the workplace to attend to personal matters.
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Default May 05, 2019 at 08:12 PM
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in certain states 5 hrs does not entitle you to a lunch break, (unpaid) it does give you one 10 minute (paid) break....but that said check on your state laws. she may not let you sit at your desk to do phone calls etc...it might be a matter of how much you value employment to work there over quitting and being unemployed until you find something else.

if the pay is good (regardless of the issues) then there is a decision to be made...the conditions may be crummy but let's face it it's work, not a play date etc. work is nice if it could be totally enjoyable but each job not matter where has some drawbacks.

make a list good vs bad..and then make a decision you can live with. you know what you have there, remember it might just be worse someplace else.
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