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I get tired of fighting battles. Every day it’s a battle at work. These days it’s frowned upon if you don’t take up the slack and do other people’s work. If you are the responsible worker... you are the scapegoat for the lazy workers. Some days I feel as though my life is being completely wasted because I have to spend so much of it with people like this at work. I’m not afraid to fight battles... I’m just tired of fighting battles. I need to learn to 1. Play the game better 2. Not care.

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Oh Sisabel! I am sorry its that way at work. It sucks because you sound like you are good at your job and others try and take advantage of you because of it or put you in a position where if you do not do their ***** it makes you look bad even though it is totally not your responsibility. Keep your chin up.

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I get tired of fighting battles. Every day it’s a battle at work. These days it’s frowned upon if you don’t take up the slack and do other people’s work. If you are the responsible worker... you are the scapegoat for the lazy workers. Some days I feel as though my life is being completely wasted because I have to spend so much of it with people like this at work. I’m not afraid to fight battles... I’m just tired of fighting battles. I need to learn to 1. Play the game better 2. Not care.

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Oh Sisabel! I am sorry its that way at work. It sucks because you sound like you are good at your job and others try and take advantage of you because of it or put you in a position where if you do not do their ***** it makes you look bad even though it is totally not your responsibility. Keep your chin up.




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I'm so sorry to hear it. I take it that no transfer has come through yet? I had been hoping something would happen on that front, I know you have been feeling this way for a while, based on past posts.

Here, too, I am feeling similarly due to my boss being so hard to deal with and poor implementation of a new content management system. I had seen an opportunity for a transfer to another department within the content area and was excited about applying. Salary was the same, so that was okay, and I know and like the people that work there. However, it would be 9-6 in the office. Those are the hours with the WORST commute here, and I live out of the city these days. I think commuting like that would affect my quality of life more than dealing with my boss. I felt so deflated after finding out I couldn't telecommute.


I switch between not caring and sometimes at least trying to play the game, but it's tough when I'm not a kiss-up.

Do you have any indication of when you might know more about transferring?
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I'm so sorry to hear it. I take it that no transfer has come through yet? I had been hoping something would happen on that front, I know you have been feeling this way for a while, based on past posts.

Here, too, I am feeling similarly due to my boss being so hard to deal with and poor implementation of a new content management system. I had seen an opportunity for a transfer to another department within the content area and was excited about applying. Salary was the same, so that was okay, and I know and like the people that work there. However, it would be 9-6 in the office. Those are the hours with the WORST commute here, and I live out of the city these days. I think commuting like that would affect my quality of life more than dealing with my boss. I felt so deflated after finding out I couldn't telecommute.


I switch between not caring and sometimes at least trying to play the game, but it's tough when I'm not a kiss-up.

Do you have any indication of when you might know more about transferring?


The transfer just went through this week. BUT.... I’m still carrying the majority of the workload of both facilities. The new person is being coddled while I carry on the majority of the workload. I was told to expect to give this person 2-3 months to adjust. That’s crazy considering this person is also a transfer and has worked for the company a long time.

The new place is much, much better. I’m having to clean up a mess from someone who didn’t do their job and I’m fed up with that. But the good news is that person got shipped out... problem solved.

I have hopes that the new place will be better. I’m just frustrated that it’s taking so long to break free of the old place. I’m tired of it. I don’t understand why some people have to shoulder more responsibilities while others just slack off.

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It's utterly deflating to be in the wrong environment. I just had a job interview, today. Fingers crossed that I hear back. I had such a lousy day, again..today.

And @sarahsweets, you summed it up well, my own scenario. I'm glad for this thread because in support of others, readers benefit from the support of others, at times.
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I get tired of fighting battles. Every day it’s a battle at work. These days it’s frowned upon if you don’t take up the slack and do other people’s work. If you are the responsible worker... you are the scapegoat for the lazy workers. Some days I feel as though my life is being completely wasted because I have to spend so much of it with people like this at work. I’m not afraid to fight battles... I’m just tired of fighting battles. I need to learn to 1. Play the game better 2. Not care.

Thank you for listening. I just needed to vent today.
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You are courageous with a "they-don't-make-them-like-they-used-to" awareness and personal ethic. It is a core value of the general minority to actually "give a darn" about your job, and the pride you had in doing the job well. That's perhaps one reason why you are so hurt--the disappointment is personal to we who care about our jobs. Management cares not one iota for folks like us, again another disappointment, yet a truth nowadays. Our initial optimism and vigor and eagerness in the job gets peeled off like a cucumber when it comes to dealing with "the beancounters."

I am at the receiving end of such a clumsy arrangement. It hurts to even think of my last few weeks there. A complicated story, leave it to say they don't want me back & made it known through several unprofessional methods. I know deep inside me that I am not a bad person. It is going to take me a long while to recover -- especially since I am afraid of putting myself all nice and ready-to-go which potentially lines me up for another failure in a similar situation if i don't think about it carefully.

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Wow, that definitely sounds unfair that you have to pick up the slack for someone who has also been with the company for quite a while and clean up others' messes on top of it. I really hope things get better as promised soon.
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You are courageous with a "they-don't-make-them-like-they-used-to" awareness and personal ethic. It is a core value of the general minority to actually "give a darn" about your job, and the pride you had in doing the job well. That's perhaps one reason why you are so hurt--the disappointment is personal to we who care about our jobs. Management cares not one iota for folks like us, again another disappointment, yet a truth nowadays. Our initial optimism and vigor and eagerness in the job gets peeled off like a cucumber when it comes to dealing with "the beancounters."


I am at the receiving end of such a clumsy arrangement. It hurts to even think of my last few weeks there. A complicated story, leave it to say they don't want me back & made it known through several unprofessional methods. I know deep inside me that I am not a bad person. It is going to take me a long while to recover -- especially since I am afraid of putting myself all nice and ready-to-go which potentially lines me up for another failure in a similar situation if i don't think about it carefully.


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I’m so sorry you went through such a rotten situation. This is what I think the problem is: We don’t play the game. Seriously. It’s a sickening game. I walk a fine line between being my sincere self versus jumping through their hoops. I stumble very clumsily through their hoops. Keep us updated with regard to your recovery progress. We are here for you. I’ll keep plodding along as well. So worn out & frustrated
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Love this thread more and more @Sisabel, not that any of us are going through similar things, but because here we are in a semblance of connectness going through similar things.
You stated it so well about the fine line between being your sincere self and jumping through their hoops.

My hoops continuously change location at the drop of a hat. It[my work saga] drudges up memories of days past with my late stepdad who was notoriously often trying to 'catch me in that lie'.. He at least was honest enough with introspection to explain how and why he was that way with me. The honesty came out as he came to know that I wasn't a dishonest character. Dysfunctional for sure but some days it[work] feels like that. Somedays I'm reminded of other memories but gosh what a replay of a scenario for me. That whole hurt people, hurt people.

Funny that, we had a Be Kind week at work...I'm sure you don't need to ask if that standard was fully met?
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Oh dear Sisabel. I am so sorry for what you are going through. The more I read people's work horror stories, the more I see how dysfunctional most work environments are. Why do those who slack off get away with it while those who work hard, have integrity and a strong work ethic have to suffer and/or not be recognized? It is SO wrong. I am sorry you are being taken advantage of. I almost want to advise you to just start slacking off yourself, pretend to be suddenly less capable and see what happens. But then I worry you would get canned.... so I won't advise that. It's just SO unfair. GRRRRRRRR. I am terribly sorry. I hope you can find a way through this somehow. (((((((Hugs)))))))
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It's utterly deflating to be in the wrong environment. I just had a job interview, today. Fingers crossed that I hear back. I had such a lousy day, again..today.

And @sarahsweets, you summed it up well, my own scenario. I'm glad for this thread because in support of others, readers benefit from the support of others, at times.


Best of luck on that job interview! Keep us posted. So worn out & frustrated
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Love this thread more and more @Sisabel, not that any of us are going through similar things, but because here we are in a semblance of connectness going through similar things.
You stated it so well about the fine line between being your sincere self and jumping through their hoops.

My hoops continuously change location at the drop of a hat. It[my work saga] drudges up memories of days past with my late stepdad who was notoriously often trying to 'catch me in that lie'.. He at least was honest enough with introspection to explain how and why he was that way with me. The honesty came out as he came to know that I wasn't a dishonest character. Dysfunctional for sure but some days it[work] feels like that. Somedays I'm reminded of other memories but gosh what a replay of a scenario for me. That whole hurt people, hurt people.

Funny that, we had a Be Kind week at work...I'm sure you don't need to ask if that standard was fully met?


A Be Kind week? That just sounds laughable to me. I don’t appreciate the stupid gimmicks.... instead of fixing real problems it’s a gimmick.

I know what you mean about work scenarios sometimes resembling bad family dynamics. We have meetings at work that often strike me as big dysfunctional family get togethers. You can just watch the toxicity and dysfunction in action and feel so frustrated.
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Oh dear Sisabel. I am so sorry for what you are going through. The more I read people's work horror stories, the more I see how dysfunctional most work environments are. Why do those who slack off get away with it while those who work hard, have integrity and a strong work ethic have to suffer and/or not be recognized? It is SO wrong. I am sorry you are being taken advantage of. I almost want to advise you to just start slacking off yourself, pretend to be suddenly less capable and see what happens. But then I worry you would get canned.... so I won't advise that. It's just SO unfair. GRRRRRRRR. I am terribly sorry. I hope you can find a way through this somehow. (((((((Hugs)))))))


You are so right. I often think of slacking off and know that I won’t get away with it. There’s apparently some law of the universe that certain people are born to slack and others aren’t. Lol. I agree that most work environments are dysfunctional which is why I decided not to find another job. I have good pay and great benefits at my current job. Also, while I do work hard and care about doing well... I know that I have my own personality flaws too... I can be impatient and intolerant.... so wherever I go, my own personality flaws are going to be thrown into the mix of whatever else is at the work environment. Fortunately the new place seems to be made up of fairly focused and professional individuals. And I did resolve to do bare minimum at the old place while they force me to stay there. So worn out & frustrated
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Best of luck on that job interview! Keep us posted. So worn out & frustrated
2nd interview is coming up, later this week. Fingers crossed.

I'm making mental notes about how the shift in hours can work out in my favor. More sleep continues to remain a top added benefit. I have my home life realities that just don't seem like that will change any time soon, such as my get to sleep time is between 10 and 11. I could gain at least 2 more hours per night, which would bring me to the daily recommended amount. Amongst so many other aspects...
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2nd interview is coming up, later this week. Fingers crossed.


I'm making mental notes about how the shift in hours can work out in my favor. More sleep continues to remain a top added benefit. I have my home life realities that just don't seem like that will change any time soon, such as my get to sleep time is between 10 and 11. I could gain at least 2 more hours per night, which would bring me to the daily recommended amount. Amongst so many other aspects...


Getting more sleep is definitely important. I hope this works out and please keep us posted. So worn out & frustrated
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yup, thats the way it is sadly.

The ones THAT DO CARE get the shaft and the ones that don't care, they don't get any blame.
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Sisabel: How right you are when you state, "We don’t play the game."

And you, too, healingme4me, how fitting is a "Funny that, we had a Be Kind week at work.." slogan pasted all over one's intra-net at work.

The realities are stark when caring, empathetic individuals, such as you and the other folks here, wind up in situations where our best intentions get steamrolled over by the Corporate Uniform.

My company "won" "One of the Best Places to Work in 2019" award this year. Not unlike the Hollywood Walk of Fame, for which now your agent can purchase you a star---not like it was in the 30's, 40's and 50's, when it really meant something to have your handprints put in the wet concrete in front of Graumann's Chinese Theater. So our Intra-net has this plastered all over the company as its screen saver!! Talk about programming and self-aggrandizement (sp).

I myself was let-go from that "Best Places to Work" place on Friday. Because I cared. So yesterday I spent three hours in the dentist's chair getting a crown. Tomorrow is the Holiday. Friday I get to do "home laundromat" as my kids come home from summer camps and then turn around to go onto another set of camps. I am taking one day at a time.

To you and fellow members: Make one good thing for yourself happen, soon.
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