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Default Jul 01, 2019 at 06:33 AM
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My morale is extremely low at work. Someone I liked got fired Friday afternoon, and we're only a 20-person company.

I had my annual review last week, and my boss downplayed my biggest achievements, yet again.. though I did get a raise at least.

And I am completely overwhelmed by all the work I have, yet my boss downplays how much time it should take to complete my work per client., plus my social respsonibilities now.

I am still bitter about that woman taking credit for my work last week -- totally unethical, yet she was not fired?????? My employer is going to allow that to happen??????

I am not happy at all. I want to leave, and feel a bit powerless in a way, because I'm so tired from work, I have no extra time to devote to the job search and application process. But I have to.

I really am starting to HATE my company.
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Default Jul 01, 2019 at 11:15 AM
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I asked my co worker if in his review, his achievements were “cherry picked” by our boss. He said yes. So it’s not just ME.

I’ve seen this again and again. The boss is threatened by those beneath him who could replace him so what does he do? Downplays achievements and keeps employees in their place beneath him so there’s no threat.

This company makes me ill. It’s making ME ill.
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Default Jul 01, 2019 at 03:42 PM
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Eve, I really feel like I could have written your recent posts. I am in a similarly frustrating situation. Some of my other posts have discussed my boss's trying to undermine those of us that actually know what we are doing and favor/promote the less qualified. And, there's another one about all the unethical crap that has been going on. Various good co-workers have left because of this.

The few us that are ethical and good at our jobs feel marginalized and constantly criticized. One seems to be interviewing, taking lots of half days off. Another is sort of like me. She deals with a lot of anxiety and stress, so putting herself back out into the job market is tough to do. When you are dealing with so much crap and stress and a toxic environment, it's hard to pull together the energy for the job hunt, just as you said. I look sometimes but don't really see anything worth applying to and salaries seem to be on a downward trend.

My boss tore into me today, criticising me for a really minor thing that was more due to the way data migrates to the new content system than a mistake on my part. She also criticised me for not including information - because it wasn't available. This was data where she always says, if you can't get the information, send it to be edited anyways rather than waiting a long time to add the information. And, she was the one that edited that project when I first worked on it. She didn't say anything about it then, and NOW she jumps all over me about it? Meanwhile her favorites get away with murder. I think she wants to make a few of us quit. She's done it before.

Sorry for the thread jack. It's an awful environment to have to work in. Being constantly stressed and undermined sure isn't healthy. Unfortunately, like most people, probably you too, I really need to stay employed. So, I have to stick it out until I figure out a better option.

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Default Jul 01, 2019 at 05:43 PM
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@rechu, I'm sorry for what you're dealing with. I cannot write much right now as I am very upset, and I cannot deal anymore with my job. My boss is very much as you described. He gave a promotion to someone who may not have fully deserved it, and is downplaying our accomplishments to keep the rest of us under his thumb.
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Default Jul 02, 2019 at 07:46 PM
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thank you, Sisabel... yes, we definitely need to self-advocate at work. I am learning more and more that most work environments just suck. None are immune to toxicity.


You’re right that no work place is immune to toxicity. That’s why I gave up looking for another job and I pick my battles and fight back when I need to. I suspect some days I’m a big nuisance to my coworkers. Oh well. They’re stuck with me. Haha!
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Default Jul 03, 2019 at 05:37 AM
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@Sisabel... lol. You're funny, and you're probably smarter than me. My response is to want to leave.... but I am sure the next company is no better. My therapist told me that I need a much larger company, and I agree! 20 people is VERY VERY SMALL... too small for me!
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Default Jul 03, 2019 at 05:44 AM
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I am very depressed at work and about work. I am getting into a depressive downswing, and it's all work related. I even approached HR yesterday asking about their EAP program -- employee assistance program -- because I am so depressed. She asked what it was about and I said "low morale" (in sum).

I am having a very hard time keeping it together. I have to write three reports AND rewrite all the social media posts TODAY. For social media? I don't know what the hell I am doing... I need my helper to come in today, the woman who helps us to write the posts, but I don't know if she's coming in yet, and I am afraid I am going to get stuck doing it myself.

I wish I hadn't taken on social media marketing.... maybe I can back out of it? I volunteered after all, and I don't think I want to do it anymore.
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Default Jul 03, 2019 at 05:53 AM
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I also have previously read that "depression is anger turned inwards". I have never dealt with anger well. And I am ANGRY about what's going on at work. So now what am I? Depressed!
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Default Jul 03, 2019 at 09:04 AM
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Eve, sorry you're still having such a tough time. Maybe with the social media stuff you could give a time frame for them to find someone else to take that on? I hope you can get some help from the EAP. I once took advantage of that when I lived in the US and the counseling sessions were helpful. Hugs!


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You’re right that no work place is immune to toxicity. That’s why I gave up looking for another job and I pick my battles and fight back when I need to. I suspect some days I’m a big nuisance to my coworkers. Oh well. They’re stuck with me. Haha!

Haha, yeah. For the time being at least, I don't think I am going to look for something else. I had been looking at listings and don't really see anything I want to apply to. I had to go into the office the other day and from where we live now I had to leave the house a bit before 6 AM and freeze my butt off on the train platform (dark and 2 degrees C). It's not even covered or heated. If it rains you are stuck getting wet! At least now I can work from home.


If I had another job, I'd probably have to do similarly to make it to work on time. So, my job might be better (no guarantee), but my quality of life would suffer in other ways.

I'll probably continue to keep my eye out for an internal transfer and pick my battles as you say in the meantime. Some changes were implemented in the meeting the other day that I am cautiously optimistic about.
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Default Jul 03, 2019 at 04:26 PM
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My internal transfer FINALLY went through. I’m doing much better. It’s amazing how much your job can impact your quality of life.
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@Sisabel... lol. You're funny, and you're probably smarter than me. My response is to want to leave.... but I am sure the next company is no better. My therapist told me that I need a much larger company, and I agree! 20 people is VERY VERY SMALL... too small for me!


I work for a huge company. Not any better... But... our location only has about 20 people and when personalities don’t mesh well it makes life difficult.
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Default Jul 03, 2019 at 04:34 PM
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@Sisabel. Glad the transfer has gone through and things are better. Honestly, the company is pretty good overall with some nice perks and benefits (reduced summer hours, extra days off, supplemental health insurance, etc.). So a transfer is what I hope I can work out eventually. There's been some talk of adding some new types of content to the website, so if something like that comes up, it's probably my best bet.
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@Sisabel. Glad the transfer has gone through and things are better. Honestly, the company is pretty good overall with some nice perks and benefits (reduced summer hours, extra days off, supplemental health insurance, etc.). So a transfer is what I hope I can work out eventually. There's been some talk of adding some new types of content to the website, so if something like that comes up, it's probably my best bet.


Best of luck to you on the transfer. I understand how difficult it can be. Keep us posted.
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