Anticipatory Grief Over Potential Termination

convalescence · Aug 13, 2019 at 08:57 PM

.... so to make a long story, I committed a rather unforgivable act in my short time spent in my new career. I was told by another associate to do said act, and did so not thinking about it. I own up to what I did, but still feel horrible. The act was done out of self perseverance, and wasn’t actually “bad,” but it does violate policy.

Essentially, it’s been a day and nothing has been said or alluded to, but it was for sure caught on surveillance what I did. I’m leaving out details to avoid identifying said career and myself, which sucks but I would rather this not come back to me.

Anybody else ever been in these shoes before and experienced this dread?

sarahsweets · Aug 14, 2019 at 02:24 AM

Is it possible that going into seeing your boss and fessing up to what you did and why would help?

convalescence · Aug 14, 2019 at 05:48 AM

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Originally Posted by sarahsweets

Is it possible that going into seeing your boss and fessing up to what you did and why would help?

That possibility exists, yes, however if somebody above my boss saw the footage it would be non-negotiable. I’m not quite sure how often they review footage, however I assume quite frequently. People have been fired for this in the past in my company for the same exact reason.

seesaw · Aug 14, 2019 at 10:35 AM

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Originally Posted by sarahsweets

Is it possible that going into seeing your boss and fessing up to what you did and why would help?

I sort of wonder if confessing the mistake proactively and asking for additional training so you don't make it again might save your job? Sometimes requesting help for fixing an error you made, as long as their was no damage to another person or customer or the business itself, just a policy error, if you own up and ask for help to do it right the next time, you might get by on being "new."

divine1966 · Aug 14, 2019 at 10:21 PM

No I’ve never been in such situation but personally I’d confess and then let cards fall where they may. If I get fired I get fired but maybe I’d just be written up. Regardless I’d rather know than worry about the unknown

Did you punch someone else’s time card because they asked? You don’t have to answer

hvert · Aug 17, 2019 at 08:47 AM

I have made big mistakes before. In my experience, immediately alerting my supervisor so we can address the issue ASAP works well - it clears up the mistake and I don't have to live with the dread. Sometimes what I think is a really bad error turns out not to be a big deal at all. I hope things work out okay for you with this job.

Aug 17, 2019 at 05:39 PM

you made a mistake.
they will know you made a mistake.
be the grown up, accept responsibility and man up & address it with them. it's easier on everyone that way.
accept the consequences.
learn from it.

pretty much end of story.

convalescence · Aug 18, 2019 at 08:25 PM

I have definite obsessive thoughts of being fired or doing something wrong at any job that I’ve had; even if I did not like said job. I’m not denying what I did because it would be silly to, and my coworkers are aware of what I have done. After confessing, I was informed of stories of people doing the same thing or even worse. My hope is that I’m not made an example. I may or may not have overreacted, and time shall tell, but I definitely needed to get it off of my chest. I guess there’s no reason to worry about it. Whatever happens, happens.

convalescence · Aug 18, 2019 at 08:29 PM

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Originally Posted by divine1966

No I’ve never been in such situation but personally I’d confess and then let cards fall where they may. If I get fired I get fired but maybe I’d just be written up. Regardless I’d rather know than worry about the unknown

Did you punch someone else’s time card because they asked? You don’t have to answer

I’ve came to the same conclusion. That was not the issue at hand fortunately!

convalescence · Aug 18, 2019 at 08:30 PM

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Originally Posted by seesaw

I sort of wonder if confessing the mistake proactively and asking for additional training so you don't make it again might save your job? Sometimes requesting help for fixing an error you made, as long as their was no damage to another person or customer or the business itself, just a policy error, if you own up and ask for help to do it right the next time, you might get by on being "new."

It was a simple policy error and after discussing it with some coworkers it does not seem “fireable” as some other mentioned actions, but there is a breach in potential trust. I own up that I was new and not thinking when I did what I did.

seesaw · Aug 19, 2019 at 07:01 AM

Now I'm just embarrassed I typed their instead of there and didnt catch it. Lol.

Glad it seems to be working out!

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sarahsweets Threadtastic Postaholic Member Since Dec 2018 Location: New Jersey Posts: 6,006 (SuperPoster!) 5 192 hugs given	Aug 14, 2019 at 02:24 AM #2 Is it possible that going into seeing your boss and fessing up to what you did and why would help? __________________ "I carried a watermelon?" President of the no F's given society.
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divine1966 Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Dec 2014 Location: US Posts: 22,356 (SuperPoster!) 9 1,277 hugs given	Aug 14, 2019 at 10:21 PM #5 No I’ve never been in such situation but personally I’d confess and then let cards fall where they may. If I get fired I get fired but maybe I’d just be written up. Regardless I’d rather know than worry about the unknown Did you punch someone else’s time card because they asked? You don’t have to answer
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hvert Grand Magnate Member Since Jan 2014 Location: US Posts: 4,887 10 3,785 hugs given	Aug 17, 2019 at 08:47 AM #6 I have made big mistakes before. In my experience, immediately alerting my supervisor so we can address the issue ASAP works well - it clears up the mistake and I don't have to live with the dread. Sometimes what I think is a really bad error turns out not to be a big deal at all. I hope things work out okay for you with this job.
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Anonymous45634 Guest Posts: n/a	Aug 17, 2019 at 05:39 PM #7 you made a mistake. they will know you made a mistake. be the grown up, accept responsibility and man up & address it with them. it's easier on everyone that way. accept the consequences. learn from it. pretty much end of story.
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