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Default Sep 19, 2019 at 10:34 AM
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When I'm at work, I'm a different person. Or at least I pretend to be. I go home and work and everyone there completely leaves my mind. It almost sounds like disassociation but I remember everything that happened there. It's more of an on/off switch. I'm either in home. mode or work mode.

Does anyone else have this happen? Part of me likes 'work me' more than 'home me' but 'work me' is exhausting. I wish I could find a balance where I could be myself at work but the real me isn't all that employable.
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Default Sep 19, 2019 at 10:39 AM
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I understand this very much. work me and school me are absolutely exhausting but i like that me the best because i am lively and happy. glad to know others do the same thing
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Default Sep 19, 2019 at 11:37 AM
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When I'm at work, I'm a different person. Or at least I pretend to be. I go home and work and everyone there completely leaves my mind. It almost sounds like disassociation but I remember everything that happened there. It's more of an on/off switch. I'm either in home. mode or work mode.

Does anyone else have this happen? Part of me likes 'work me' more than 'home me' but 'work me' is exhausting. I wish I could find a balance where I could be myself at work but the real me isn't all that employable.
I recently retired from a whole career of this over multiple jobs...the work me was awfully efficient and effective most of the time, the home me is still trying to figure out what to do with my life...(& in there were kids, now adults, and care-for-mom and lots of other things...)...One acquaintance who knew me first as my "home" self, met me at work for a few professional group conferences and called a very close friend of mine to tell her I was " a totally different person at work". Yikes. Very much like a light switch.

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Default Sep 20, 2019 at 07:09 AM
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I also do this. I think this is normal since we are in two different environment. "Work" me is diligent and fast, but so unhappy. "Home" me is lazy but happier and more sociable. I believe that both sides have their benefits and cons. It's ok to have two different you.
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Default Sep 21, 2019 at 09:59 PM
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I’m more relaxed and happier when I am at home. There’s so much pressure at work and I also don’t feel comfortable sharing too much with coworkers.
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Default Sep 22, 2019 at 10:52 AM
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I think all of us has work me and home me. At work im expected to be productive and efficient, friendly with customers and generally approachable while on the sales floor. at home i can be lazy, get what needs to be done on whatever time frame suits my needs, communicate or not. Im an introvert primarily so work can be exhausting. But i need to earn that money, so performance is needed.

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