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Default Nov 20, 2019 at 11:14 AM
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I've already established just how much I detest doing temporary contract work, so no need to criticize me for hating it.

Anyway. This post is about how passive-aggressive human resources personnel can be (that is mostly due to their passive aggressive personalities).

Example #1
"I don't want to pay the fee to break the contract to hire you."

This is what the HR woman told me when I asked her why she wouldn't consider hiring me for their open front desk position, rather than pay the temp agency that brought me in for an interview.

I thought that was really passive-aggressive, tacky, and totally dismissive of my stellar resume and work experience. In short, telling a job candidate they are not worth hiring, because the company doesn't want to pay a fee is really just rude. It was also her way of telling me, that even if I do a great job as their front desk person, she won't bother hiring me. They have the position posted on their company website. I'm here as a filler. It's insulting.

Example #2
Last week, an outside sales rep yelled at me on the phone. So, I emailed his supervisor, and cc'd the human resources woman (had to, no choice). The outside sales rep's supervisor called me to apologize for his employee's behavior with me on the phone and assured me that I wouldn't be fired.

Yet, the horrid lady in human resources wants to talk to me about it. I assume she is going to "fire" me as their front desk person, otherwise, despite the situation being resolved, I don't see why she'd need to talk to me about it. She won't hire me full-time. I found that to be really strange and off-putting. Why do you need to talk to me to follow up about one of your employees being really inappropriate with me on the phone if the matter was already resolved. It's not like his supervisor didn't check in with her -- I know that he did because he told me he would.

Why do people who work in human resources act so holier than thou, so passive aggressive, so dismissive?
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Default Nov 21, 2019 at 04:46 AM
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Oh @StreetcarBlanche sometimes I wish I could ride on your shoulder and tell people to go F themselves for you!

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Example #1
"I don't want to pay the fee to break the contract to hire you."

This is what the HR woman told me when I asked her why she wouldn't consider hiring me for their open front desk position, rather than pay the temp agency that brought me in for an interview.
To me this is a dishonest Passive aggressive cop out and proof that this woman is a wimp. If she didnt like the job you were doing or want you to continue then she should come out and say so and let you go on the spot. But she didn't so rather than owning up to whatever nepotistisc backhanded ways they hire permanent she parroted some made up BS.

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I thought that was really passive-aggressive, tacky, and totally dismissive of my stellar resume and work experience. In short, telling a job candidate they are not worth hiring, because the company doesn't want to pay a fee is really just rude. It was also her way of telling me, that even if I do a great job as their front desk person, she won't bother hiring me. They have the position posted on their company website. I'm here as a filler. It's insulting.
She is also an idiot. Lets say you are someone with evil tendancies. What's to stop you from sabotaging the company or other misdeeds. Why would you say that to someone and then like... send them back to their lunch break and expect them to show up in the morning and do their job?

Example #2
Last week, an outside sales rep yelled at me on the phone. So, I emailed his supervisor, and cc'd the human resources woman (had to, no choice). The outside sales rep's supervisor called me to apologize for his employee's behavior with me on the phone and assured me that I wouldn't be fired.
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If you followed protocol I do not understand the issue.
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Yet, the horrid lady in human resources wants to talk to me about it. I assume she is going to "fire" me as their front desk person, otherwise, despite the situation being resolved, I don't see why she'd need to talk to me about it. She won't hire me full-time. I found that to be really strange and off-putting. Why do you need to talk to me to follow up about one of your employees being really inappropriate with me on the phone if the matter was already resolved. It's not like his supervisor didn't check in with her -- I know that he did because he told me he would.
Is she they only HR person you get to deal with or is their more than one?
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Why do people who work in human resources act so holier than thou, so passive aggressive, so dismissive?
I think its a powertrip thing. They know they have your life in their pockets. One little documentation of a slight and they can F you over.

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Default Nov 21, 2019 at 11:05 AM
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Sarah my friend I wish I could carry you around with me! I assert myself with them and get fired each and every time. They are just unreasonable people -- inept, if you think about it!

Like yesterday. The OTHER h.r. lady wanted to impromptly meet with me after a retirement luncheon at this office, so I had no time to find someone to cover the front desk phones and put the phones on voicemail. Well, the gal in a detached office who covers my lunch, found out, and instant messaged me all snarky-like, "what do you MEAN you didn't have phone coverage." What I wanted to write and what I wrote were two very different things.

So, I emailed the h.r. lady and explained to her, that her impromptu meeting with me yesterday after this company retirement luncheon, forced me to put the front desk phones on voicemail b/c everyone in the office was occupied at this luncheon, including the snarky lady who works in a detached office. I explained to her that it was unreasonable for this snarky woman to expect me to find someone to cover phones for HER (h.r. lady's) impromptu meeting (had she pre-scheduled the meeting then I could have asked someone ahead of the office retirement luncheon to cover for me) with me. Now, h.r. lady's door is clsoed and I just want to throw darts at it.

I hate being a temp. Temps are treated like trash all the time.

On the upside, I am going to an interview this afternoon after this hellish temp job day ends at 4 pm to drive to another company for their 2 month temp job that another temp agency contacted me about. If I get the temp job, I would start next week. I hope I get this other temp job.

You know h.r. lady won't take responsibility for NOT setting a scheduled time b/c she could care less about my role as the front desk receptionist. The bad timing around this stupid retirement luncheon and her NEED to meet me with right after, when everyone in the office was still mingling with each other, made it impossible for me to fine phone coverage. So, I will be blamed for putting the phones on voicemail for 15 minutes and probably fired. IF I am not fired, it will be a shocker. Temps get blamed for other employee's bad behavior ALL THE TIME.
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Default Nov 21, 2019 at 02:53 PM
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So, I called my current temp agency to speak to my recruiter about everything and she informed me that I was being fired from my current temp job. OF COURSE. The h.r. ladies claim "she's just not getting it."

Another temp job bites the dust.
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